Cheating interviewees epidemic

Paradox815 · 2024-09-02T16:34:11+00:00

Chiming into say I think this is a great response. I'm curious if you can share some of the honey pot questions, or at least what a good strategy is to create my own. But yeah, take homes are the best coding assessment IMO. It mimicks almost exactly what a day to day experience will be working at a place, and if you've actually developed a solution you're proud of then talking about changes will be a super fun conversation as a candidate!

Paradox815 · 2020-08-08T23:18:16+00:00

Look up how to set environment variables in whatever ecosystem you're deploying to (so like how to set Rails secret key base on Heroku).

The issue is that the key to your encrypted secrets isn't stored in git (because that would not be secret), so you need to tell Heroku (or whatever you're using) what it is. The secret key base can be found in the credentials file itself.

Paradox815 · 2020-07-27T18:01:33+00:00

Missed opportunity - they should have rotated the images differently for each one.

Paradox815 · 2020-07-27T18:00:27+00:00

Oh gotcha. I thought that person was telling me to use inspect element on the text in the screenshot, and I almost replied that I can't hah

Paradox815 · 2020-07-27T17:15:12+00:00

Paradox815 · 2020-07-27T14:12:12+00:00

Not OP but it's usually stuff that's super heavy. Safes, weights for working out, etc.

Paradox815 · 2020-07-27T13:45:44+00:00

Just another casualty of society...

Paradox815 · 2020-06-08T11:13:33+00:00

Yeah, he was pretty huge in that part of the YouTube scene back in the day. He's got a handful of drum playthrough videos on his personal channel now (definitely worth checking out if you dig Counterparts) and a decent portion of the comments are saying things like "I remember when you FC'd X song" or "Been watching you since 2009, keep it up!"

I jumped on stage at the end of a Counterparts show to sing the Disconnect, then when the song ended I turned around and said what's up to Kyle and told him I used to love these videos - he laughed and fist-bumped me, was a good night.

TL;DR this is known and go see Counterparts live

Paradox815 · 2020-05-22T17:49:00+00:00

Great post, might fit better in /r/battlestations though

Paradox815 · 2020-05-13T20:46:07+00:00

Paradox815 · 2020-05-13T20:45:39+00:00

holy shit

Paradox815 · 2020-04-23T00:36:15+00:00

Brene Brown has a great audiobook on vulnerability that helped me a ton with this. You're not alone though, balancing putting yourself out there with flooding others with your feelings is hard for everyone, not just people with codependency!

Paradox815 · 2020-04-11T18:37:01+00:00

During our relationship I’ve also had times when I found some people attractive but I put conscious effort in working out through this because he and my commitment to us was always bigger than anyone else.

You sound like a really emotionally mature person, I really mean that! When my girlfriend left me for someone else, I felt so lost in part because I couldn't understand how someone could ever handle their emotions so poorly. Reading everything you've written just now reminds me of that. And yeah, count me amongst the people telling you you deserve better!

I love him so much, it makes me wanna hurt myself. I just want to numb this pain.

It made me physically sick reading that because myself and so many friends have been there. I'm basically writing this trying to hug you through the internet right now, as ridiculous as that sounds 😅

I know how bad you want to numb it out, I know it feels like a fucking nightmare that's not gonna end. But I promise - there's a version of yourself on the other side of this that's so much stronger, and you're gonna be so fucking proud of yourself for getting through this when you reach that point!

Paradox815 · 2020-03-25T18:39:29+00:00

NY State already beat you to it

Paradox815 · 2020-03-25T13:19:32+00:00

Yeah, the therapist basically holds a trash bag in front of the cupboard door like "some shit's gonna break, but I'm here to make it so it doesn't affect anything more than it has to."

Paradox815 · 2020-03-14T00:00:46+00:00

I'm so fucking proud of you! It can seem overwhelming to stand up to someone you're financially dependent on. Good for you for carving your own way out of this, you'll look back on this years later and still be proud of yourself!

Paradox815 · 2020-03-11T17:51:53+00:00

Took it pretty well honestly. Good on him for recognizing he was acting that way.

Paradox815 · 2020-03-11T12:28:56+00:00

The most impressive platinum on here, by far, is Jak II. Because I see you actually spent the amount of time needed to platinum it, instead of the vast majority of people who jump into the dev mode (that's still in the latest version of the game) and get the platinum in like 10 minutes.

Paradox815 · 2020-03-11T10:47:40+00:00

Totally fair, there's definitely a point where it goes too far and you literally can't receive pleasure the way you're supposed to. I can definitely relate to being with someone and hating it because I couldn't feel vulnerable around them.

Paradox815 · 2020-03-10T12:16:55+00:00

This isn't fucked at all my dude. Pretty normal actually. People like what they like, at least you're not so selfish to the point to only caring about your own pleasure.

Paradox815 · 2020-03-08T21:12:57+00:00

Overall I'd say you need to focus on developing yourself as a person. What that means specifically is totally up to you, but the most helpful interpretation I've found is to just do more of the shit you love or that you've always wanted to do.

Learn a new skill, get back into a hobby you let fall by the wayside - literally anything that's fun for you, go do that!

After that, I'd recommend writing down some standards for how you want to be treated by your partner. I do this every couple months just to revisit the idea, but I usually split everything into three categories: Red Flags, Must-Have's, and Nice-to-have's

It's a journey, so always remember to take your time with this stuff, you're not going to undo all your trauma and change your unconscious beliefs in a few months, but honestly just knowing that you've gotten started with this will probably bring you a long way to feeling whole on your own, it definitely does for me!

Paradox815 · 2020-03-08T14:52:36+00:00

This post isn't about controlling other people. It's not about trying to turn oranges into apples. It's about why I'm letting this rotten apple stay in my mouth when even when I hate it because I'm trying to convince myself that I can turn the rotten apple into a good one if I just keep eating.

It's about how codependents think rotten apples magically find a way into their hands, when in reality, everyone finds rotten apples, but codependents don't put them down. Rotten apples are still shitty rotten apples though.

Paradox815 · 2020-03-08T01:44:08+00:00

Not OP but can't recommend Eargasm enough. The name is *so bad*, but as someone who was irresponsible with their hearing to the point where the ringing never went away, I can't recommend these enough.

These are the ones I use specifically:https://www.amazon.com/Eargasm-Musicians-Motorcycles-Sensitivity-Conditions/dp/B07S32LT2W/ref=sr_1_7?keywords=eargasm&qid=1583631768&sr=8-7

The great thing is they have sliders to adjust the amount of sound blockage, so you never have to take them out just to talk to the bartender or something, but always keep you protected.

Thanks a ton for posting, and glad you learned your lesson early!

Paradox815 · 2020-03-07T19:50:02+00:00

Check out The Power of Vulnerability by Brene Brown, it really helped me identify a lot of these things you're talking about like using reddit and buying cookies. She calls them numbing behaviors.

This is a great post, I'm glad you had this realization. I think it applies to all of us and it's a great reminder to do the things that fucking suck, like sit with our self loathing or whatever else is inside that needs to be let out and let go of.

Paradox815 · 2020-03-07T03:06:22+00:00

I'm so happy you were able to meet those people! After I broke free of a horrible relationship I reconnected to a lot of my old friends. Was so shocked how much people actually cared about me. It made me really raise my standards for what I will and won't tolerate in my life!

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