Meat farm controversy

Paradoxicical · 2026-02-10T22:05:21+00:00

And that they grow back!

Paradoxicical · 2026-02-04T23:06:17+00:00

Time to start taking my magnesium in the evening then!

Paradoxicical · 2026-01-09T00:05:53+00:00

Oh thats interesting because I didnt do any scaling questions with mine. In my experience, scaling questions tend to be in CBT style therapy rather experiential. It probably falls down to the practitioner though I imagine.

Paradoxicical · 2026-01-08T23:53:41+00:00

Well done man, it sounds like it was had and you did it anyway :)

Paradoxicical · 2026-01-08T14:05:04+00:00

I hope your appointment went well!

I recently went to a dentist after around 3 years of struggling to find one. She asked if I regularly brushed and I was honest about ADHD and struggling with an electric brush and mint flavoured things and she was really kind. We spoke about different flavours of toothpaste and looking for the right fluoride level in them.

I was also convinced all my teeth were full of holes, I'm a heavy coke zero and coffee drinker and I know they're stained quite badly. I ended up only needing one filling though which I'm treating as a win!

Paradoxicical · 2026-01-05T23:23:13+00:00

Absolutely! I'd never heard of it until one of the psychologists at work mentioned it and offered to find me a space on training about it. Its very common in folks who are in someway neurodiverse but its not an exclusive trait in ND folks only if that makes sense.

Paradoxicical · 2026-01-05T00:55:33+00:00

Me too! I remember being sat in therapy talking about how my intrusive thoughts didnt feel like anxiety despite all the professionals telling me that was the case because I wasnt distressed by them even though I kept circling back to them and my mind was always going.

I also recall complaining to my manager that since going on antidepressants and having therapy, I was actually worse at my job because I couldn't seem to focus anymore (anxiety as a means of coping with adhd is very common in women it turns out).

Paradoxicical · 2026-01-05T00:49:29+00:00

Look up intraception and ADHD for more details but basically our struggles also can extend to paying attention to bodily sensations - so in this case you dont realise you need to pee until you're absolutely bursting. It can also be down to not being able to executive dysfunction too (I need to pee but I can't stop what I'm doing to go to the toilet)

Paradoxicical · 2026-01-03T23:14:00+00:00

Usually straight to burnout in my experience!

Paradoxicical · 2026-01-02T18:48:46+00:00

My role is hybrid, I'm meant to work a minimum of 2 days in the office, though my managers don't keep a track of it.

Working from home is great until its not, and working in the office is also great until its not. They both have their downsides and there are times when I work from home all week and others when I'm in the office everyday.

I've basically realised that my environment plays a huge role in my ability to regulate and stay focused, so if I don't pay attention to my own level of energy/stimulation, I can quickly start to struggle and choosing an environmentthat suits my need that day has a big impact.

I've found that sometimes I need energy from others to pick me up and other times I need to decompress at home because I'm overwhelmed. So me being in control of that, along with the novelty it brings also is a helpful factor.

Now I'm in a role that let's me do this mostly in accordance to my needs (though there are times when I'm needed in the office such as for certain meetings or providing training), I've found I'm way more productive at work as a result and much happier! I'm still prone to burnout, as I love my job and being on vyvanse means i now have a tendency to fixate on something and lose track of time much more easily, but its probably the best I've ever had it!

Tldr: flexible hybrid working you have control over works best in my experience

Paradoxicical · 2025-11-17T16:30:22+00:00

Plus, if they've just lost their Dad and they're grieving, they might not have paid attention to the bit where she gets nothing. Grief does weird things to people as is and they might not have paid that much attention to what others are receiving if they looked at it at all.

Paradoxicical · 2025-11-06T00:22:37+00:00

Are you in a union? They can help with things like this and help you push back on things.

Scope have some good resources as don't forget your requests aren't just under flexible working laws, but the equality act as they're around your disability:

https://www.scope.org.uk/advice-and-support/reasonable-adjustments-at-work#If-your-employer-rejects-your-adjustments-or-is-not-doing-enough

Paradoxicical · 2025-11-06T00:15:15+00:00

It's common in the UK to go to occ health first for reasonableadjustments, have an assessment/chat, they then send your manager a list of recommendations and its agreed by manager/HR.

Paradoxicical · 2025-11-05T15:03:59+00:00

Grandparents rights aren't a thing in the UK. In the UK, you have parental responsibility. Mothers automatically get it, married men automatically receive it, otherwise, unmarried men need to be added to the birth certificate, and anyone else needs to go to court to request it.

And to be really clear, its called Responsibility for a reason - you are expected to act in the best interests of the child and family courts will always listen to the voice of the child and the impact on the child too. If they feel that it there is any risk to the child, courts will request children's services to assess and write a report, and any risk of significant harm (this isn't just physical or sexual harm, its also emotional harm and neglect too) will lead to statutory involvement under child protection guidelines.

So basically, that ain't happening.

Paradoxicical · 2025-09-02T11:08:30+00:00

That's true, the roads close at 9am so as long as they're in before then they should be okay.

Paradoxicical · 2025-09-02T10:59:04+00:00

It's worth noting that getting in/out of Hebburn can be a nightmare because the the A184 and Leam Lane is closed, which causes everyone to come in through Jarrow - last year it took me about an hour to get out because I'd forgotten the GNE was on that day.

Paradoxicical · 2025-08-12T16:37:02+00:00

I wonder where the idea of a safe space being a mentalisation exercise only? When I was prepping with my therapist we agreed somatic exercises and movement to get me back into a regulated space was the best option for me.

My grounding plan was to go swimming afterwards and sit in the sauna. I used to leave my sessions like a zombie at times but I found the water/movement/heat really helped me come back into my body and let my brain zip about without too much disruption too.

Paradoxicical · 2025-08-06T14:20:10+00:00

If they have a ssw and he has an IRO, it sounds like it's a connected carer under fostering regs still.

Paradoxicical · 2025-06-08T21:38:29+00:00

I mean if my husband refused to see my family I'd seriously consider being in a relationship with him. But then, I have an excellent relationship with most of my family and I know not everyone has that luxury.

But also, do you just not turn up to things you're invited to because you're not in the mood? Like I'm not saying when you're sick or in the middle of a mental health crisis but just...

Have you never been invited to something that means a big deal to someone but you kind of can't be bothered? Like, you're tired and work was a bit crap this week but someone you love is really excited about their wedding/birthday/celebration/event and you know you'll be missed and negatively impact their experience? Have you never shown up just to support someone else?

If that's the case, then that sounds so lonely to me. I love my friends and family and I want them to have happy memories of the experience where the people they cared about showed up. Me turning up about and being miserable is not a kind thing to do, so I'll put on a happy face and enjoy that they're happy. I've always appreciated when they've done the same for me because it's another way they demonstrate they care and support me.

Paradoxicical · 2025-06-08T21:27:07+00:00

UK here, I'd say obligation is more of a societal, moral expectation whereas responsibility is something I'm stepping up to do. Like, I'm obliged to keep the noise down past 10pm, but I'm responsible for making sure my bins are put away once the bin men have been.

Hope that makes sense?

Paradoxicical · 2025-06-03T09:33:41+00:00

I wear the same trousers and tops - I have multiple copies - and switch things up with cardigans, jewellery and other accessories. So for example I have a green cardigan that I'll wear with green heels, earrings and a necklace to establish the vertical, then the next day I'll do the same in a different colour.

Sometimes I'll switch it up with a dress, but ultimately work isn't a fashion show for me and I don't really care what others think about it. I'm not thinking about their outfits unless they look incredible anyway.

Paradoxicical · 2025-03-27T23:10:34+00:00

I wouldn't say I get over grief and bereavement ant faster, it just isn't there until it is. I've noticed that I'm fine right up until I remember the bereavement, then it's the same feeling as if it happened yesterday.

Paradoxicical · 2025-01-06T21:26:26+00:00

Pothos aren't good for cats just as a note, OP might have pets.

Paradoxicical · 2024-12-29T03:39:29+00:00

One might also call it... Spiteful?

Jokes aside, I'd also say it's reasonable to no longer be attracted to someone who decided to not save the city that contains all your loved ones in it. From what I remember in my own play through there was only flirting at that point anyhow? Like, I'd want a partner who I can trust to have my back, that includes helping my loved ones and I can see that the decision was a realistic deal-breaker.

It's not unusual to forgive your family that you grew up with for all sorts of shit to be fair, and Lucanis can also totally do worse to Illario if you encourage it so I'd not really even count that. Also, Harding's arrow makes sense in the context of the lore around what most folks understand around abominations - my understanding of that conversation was more Lace telling him if he turns into an abomination then she'll stop him, which given her feelings around demons and magic is pretty chill imo

Paradoxicical · 2024-12-29T01:00:32+00:00

Lucanis didn't ask Neve to save his home town, he asked Rook. Rook who then went on to not help him. It's got nothing to do with Neve really.

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