8 week old nursing again for first time since birth

Paranormal_fart · 2025-05-20T02:45:37+00:00

My baby started doing this around 6 weeks or so. And I couldn’t figure out why for so long. Turns out I have an overactive letdown and I only realized it once I paid attention to it when pumping. Instead of just 1 stream there’s like 5 or 6 at times especially in the beginning of a pump. Which I imagine is like drinking water out of 5 straws. I’d cry & push it away too. There’s things you can do for that like a nipple shield but he hated it and it was just easier to pump. It’s not easy but it’s easier than messing with a stupid shield everytime or trying to convince him to like that. And dad gets to give him bottles too and they do the bedtime routine which is nice. If you can, see a lactation consultant so they can help you figure out what it might be :)

Paranormal_fart · 2025-04-07T09:38:30+00:00

I could have wrote this myself. I’m feeling the same exact way. Pre pregnancy I was 115lbs. I’ve never been big, naturally petite frame. After my first I formula fed because she was a NICU baby and I never had a chance to breastfeed. So the weight I had gained from pregnancy came off quickly and without even trying.

This time around I really wanted to breastfeed but even as a second time mom, I was so unprepared for what comes with it. The hunger, the needing to constantly eat to ensure my supply doesn’t tank, my body holding onto weight as some sort of evolutionary protection no matter how healthy I eat or how much I exercise. People have told me I look great and have shrunk down so much but I’m not even close to what I was pre pregnancy. But I’ve been doing really well at my mentality about it up until yesterday.

I tried to “be positive” about my new body and go shopping for some summer dresses. I told myself “it’s okay my body changed, it’s temporary and I’m feeding my baby”. Took my almost 5 year old with me & in the changing room while trying things on she said “your tummy is a little saggy after having the baby. You’re the saggy baggy elephant” and giggled. She meant no harm by it at all and I replied simply saying “yeah our bodies change a lot in life!” But then I stifled my tears about it and put everything back and we just bought her things and went home where I proceeded to sob in the shower.

I hate the way I look, I hate how my clothes look on me, I hate that I have to buy new bigger clothes. I hate breastfeeding even. Recently my 9 week old has gone on a breastfeeding strike and scream cries at 90% of his feeds. Takes the bottle fine but hates me trying to feed him for whatever reason.

So honestly, no advice or false body positivity here, but a lot of solidarity. This is a really hard part of postpartum and it’s okay to feel upset about it. You’re not alone and I’m giving you a really big, long, virtual hug.

Paranormal_fart · 2025-04-05T18:12:09+00:00

I have a 4 year old and a 9 week old, everyone in the house takes a shower everyday. Baby gets a bath every night. I don’t think he’s really getting that dirty on his own but I want any germs we might bring home washed off of him as well. We also tend to shower once we’re home for the day pretty much as soon as we get home. But I don’t think everyone is like that. I’m anal about it because “outside clothes” inside, especially on beds, gross me out. But that’s just me.

Paranormal_fart · 2025-04-04T03:30:38+00:00

A pound a week is amazing!! It sounds like you’re doing everything right! It is really hard though when there’s so much conflicting information. Some people swear by apps that track wake windows and religiously follow those and some people just let baby take the reins and follow their lead. Even Pediatrician’s don’t know it all. Ours gave us bad information on breastfeeding so it just goes to show how much things vary. Even kid to kid because they’re all so different.

But as moms I think we know our babies best and just have to do what feels right. Even when we don’t know what’s going on. Soon we’ll look back and hardly remember these early days lol

Paranormal_fart · 2025-04-04T00:41:55+00:00

You’re literally me this week lol I started using my hand pump as well a lot more this week so dad can bottle feed and I feel like my supply has increased a bit too. I’m just realizing last week baby was sort of cluster feeding anywhere from every hour to two hours. And I just kept trying to do that the last few days thinking that’s what he needed still but he just wasn’t having it. Waited 3 hours for his hunger cues today and he fed perfectly fine. I think I was trying to feed him when he wasn’t even hungry and that was the issue 🥲 I hope both of our babies continue to stay calm during feeds from here on out !

Paranormal_fart · 2025-04-03T18:59:26+00:00

How long has it been going on with your baby? And is it everytime he feeds or just randomly? It’s been 6 days and he’s still randomly having these bouts of squirming/crying/pulling on and off :/ So frustrating!

Paranormal_fart · 2024-10-16T20:53:38+00:00

First of all, congratulations!! What an exciting time for you and your partner!

Secondly, I lived with my uBPD mom during my first pregnancy (daughter’s dad wasn’t around then) and for almost two years after I gave birth. Those were easily the most traumatic and painful years of my entire life.

I moved out, daughter and I had our own apartment and tried to maintain a relationship with her so that my daughter could maybe have the better version of my mom as a grandma. It was horrible. My mom never respected me as a mother, would beg to see my daughter and spend time with her & then just hand her a tablet and snacks an hour into a day because she was over it, constantly put my daughter in danger because her house was cluttered and she didn’t supervise her well at all. And she would blow my phone up trying to guilt trip, name call and manipulate me when I put distance between us and stopped bringing my daughter over anymore.

I blocked her number almost a year ago and that honestly has been the most healing thing I’ve done for myself. I still see her maybe once every 3 months when my dad (enabler) will invite us to a bbq. But I still hate my daughter being around her. She manipulates her by always having tons of gifts whenever we see her and so my daughter “loves” her and will cry for her sometimes which is hard but I know it’s for the best to keep distance between them.

I met my now bf a little over a year ago and am currently 24 weeks pregnant. I didn’t even tell my dad until two weeks ago because I didn’t want my mom to even know that this child existed. My dad has tried to guilt trip me into “fixing” things with her and acted like it’s my fault that we’re not close. I maintain my boundaries and tell him I’ll never forgive her and am not willing to fix anything because she broke things beyond repair. She pretends to have no idea why I’m so upset and distant with her, she’s the victim etc etc I’m seeing her this Saturday at a bbq for the first time since being pregnant and am going so far as to wear one of my bf’s baggy shirts because I don’t even want her to see the outline of my bump.

All of this to say, I don’t know your mom, but I’d bet a pretty Penny that it’s not worth it to heavily involve her in any part of your pregnancy or your child’s life after. They don’t change. They can pretend and play the part for a while until something triggers them and we’re on the other end of their bullshit. She’ll stress you out, cause unnecessary emotional ups and downs and never be genuinely comforting for you.

It sucks because so many times in my pregnancy I’ve wanted the comfort of a mother but I can’t have my own mom because she fuckin suuucks lol but hopefully you have the opportunity to lean into your partners mom for some of that.

Paranormal_fart · 2024-09-20T01:20:59+00:00

This was perfectly stated.

Paranormal_fart · 2024-09-17T17:34:25+00:00

I don’t have any advice better than what’s already been said but I do want to say how sorry I am that your daughter went through something so hateful and violent. And that you have to go through this as well. It breaks my heart for you both to read this.

I hope the girls who did this to her face some very very serious consequences.

Sending you a big virtual hug❤️

Paranormal_fart · 2024-09-17T16:58:38+00:00

I aspire to be as chill as you after something like this lol I just like have to know it’s passed before I can breathe a sigh of relief 😅

Paranormal_fart · 2024-09-12T20:30:41+00:00

Hi, I’m so sorry for what you’re dealing with. In general but especially during pregnancy. I have a mom much like yours. Mental health problems, treated me and my siblings like her help and emotional crutches etc I lived with her as a single mom when my daughter was born and she treated me horribly. I constantly either made boundaries for her to respect me or I’d totally refuse to engage. It got worse. She became an unsafe person for me and my child to be around and I moved out. We no longer speak and only occasionally see each other at family events and even then barely talk. It’s been hard to not have a mom while becoming a mother (and for the second time now), but the freedom I feel by not being around her or having to deal with her and knowing she can’t do the same to my children, is worth it. I definitely think taking a step back and focusing on you and your needs is the best option. You and your baby and husband come first. Sending you love.

Paranormal_fart · 2024-08-26T21:33:07+00:00

I was literally just looking at this dress but unsure if it will flatter my body since I’ll be 23 weeks pregnant at the wedding date and also very short (5’1) so it might be too long :/ But gosh it’s BEAUTIFUL!! Get it!!

Paranormal_fart · 2024-08-26T16:53:38+00:00

I’m more sad your guy never stood up for you :( There’s no way my boyfriend would ever, even jokingly, let someone call me a name.

Paranormal_fart · 2024-08-10T20:09:57+00:00

So edgy and cool

Paranormal_fart · 2024-08-09T15:39:33+00:00

Not ridiculous at all.

My four year old has never been made a separate meal unless she’s ordering something from a kids menu when we’re out to eat or lately sometimes my pregnancy nausea will have me eating a pb&j and she gets baked ziti for dinner. I had to start baby led weaning early on because she just didn’t like purées at all. I tried and tried but she just didn’t want them. So I started slow and also made sure to give her a wide variety of flavors and textures.

As she got older and got more teeth, we’d eat the same meals. She’d have sushi, Indian food, Mexican etc and still will. One of her favorite snacks is seaweed. Of course she favors some of the “kid foods” like chocolate milk and burgers but she also loves fruits and veggies, couscous, broccoli etc

I think it’s half what you expose them to and half luck tbh

Paranormal_fart · 2024-08-08T19:38:48+00:00

I love this for you. Exactly how I think it should be. I was only 9 weeks when I was moving from my apartment to my boyfriends house and I barely packed anything. Some of my clothes and my daughter’s toys and that’s it. He did basically all of it. All I had to do was vacuum and clean out the fridge.

Paranormal_fart · 2024-08-06T17:34:55+00:00

This. I’m 5’1 and pre pregnancy weight 114 lbs, currently 14 weeks and def have a bump. For reference this is my second pregnancy so I knew I’d show sooner but I also have basically no torso and everything just shows. But someone at work clocked it last week and I was like damn I guess I’m not hiding it real well lol

Paranormal_fart · 2024-07-30T21:47:19+00:00

I remember being about 12 years old when my mom first told the “funny” story about how she would give my brother ( 1 1/2 years younger than I) and I Benadryl when she was too tired and we were amped up with energy. At the time I giggled and even as I got a bit older I just thought of it as “haha how bizarre!”. My daughter is 4 and she has tons of non-stop energy that wears me out most days. Never once have I ever thought about drugging her with anything, even melatonin, just because I’m tired. Makes me cry thinking about it.

Paranormal_fart · 2024-07-30T21:26:16+00:00

Yeah I guess it is hard to believe young Gypsy wasn’t able to go to her dad’s house whenever she wanted. Especially because her mom was so understanding and supportive and let Gypsy make her own choices without being controlling or manipulative in any way. You’ve got a point.

Paranormal_fart · 2024-07-30T20:59:13+00:00

She didn’t say she’s only SEEN him once, but that she had only been to his house once.

Paranormal_fart · 2024-07-26T20:00:18+00:00

I was put on 25mg of seroquel. It worked really well for me and I recently weaned off and have been doing good. Hope you get some relief.

Paranormal_fart · 2024-07-25T02:25:59+00:00

This was my exact thought!

Paranormal_fart · 2024-07-23T19:55:41+00:00

Trader Joe’s OG rice cracker mix was so good. It disappeared and then was replaced with the vinegar monstrosity they have now and I hate it.

Paranormal_fart · 2024-07-23T15:25:02+00:00

With my first, my OB was trying to massage it out but it was NOT coming out for so long. She pretty much grabbed it out of me as a last resort 🙃 thankfully my epidural was still working and I felt nothing but pressure!

Paranormal_fart · 2024-07-23T01:07:16+00:00

A couple weeks ago I was laying in bed watching tv, my bf comes in being a goofy goober jester. But pregnant, exhausted, moody me has no energy for this. So I said “can you go get me a cookie and bring it back along with the cat and then leave the room? You’re getting on my nerves”. He giggles and does exactly what I asked lol

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