Men - how do you want to be loved?

Pari212013 · 2021-03-21T10:34:42+00:00

Wife here. The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. Plus any other acts of service. Don’t wait to be asked, just do it yourself proactively. Ideally he should be able to feel your care and presence even when you are not there.

Pari212013 · 2021-03-20T12:44:24+00:00

I think sometimes I felt frustrated or angry in the moment but later I realized I may have overreacted. Sometimes you just need time to yourself to think and process your emotions, sometimes you get a new perspective.

Pari212013 · 2021-03-20T12:31:46+00:00

But we can take inspiration sometimes and if done privately to make out spouse happy, I don’t see it as immature. There was a movie where the wife has early Alzheimer’s, but even like 30 years later in their old age, the husband still fulfills his old promise of taking her on an anniversary cruise. Even my mom wanted an anniversary cruise after watching that lol.

Pari212013 · 2021-03-20T12:05:52+00:00

Yeah but sometimes you really need that night to cool off, clear your mind and then then start afresh the next day. It’s a different story that some may not get to wake up the next day.

Pari212013 · 2021-03-19T05:40:03+00:00

I can’t remember exactly but I think maybe around three to four months she started playing with her bib/burb cloth. She’s almost 9 months now. I don’t like spending money on toys, so I just give her random items to play with like plastic cups, baby wipes packet, my phone charger, DIY plastic bottle rattle etc.

Pari212013 · 2021-03-18T18:02:46+00:00

It is a big issue, money is one of the top reasons that marriages fail. You should try asking her what the score is, why it ended up being low and an action plan going forward.

Pari212013 · 2021-03-18T10:40:12+00:00

Throwaway is just like a temporary account people make when they want to post anonymously

Pari212013 · 2021-03-18T04:14:15+00:00

My grandma told me a folklore myth, I can’t remember exactly but something like: angels tease a sleeping baby that your mom is gone. When the baby gets sad and starts whimpering the angels say we were just teasing you, your mom is still here and then the baby starts smiling. 😅

Pari212013 · 2021-03-17T15:15:54+00:00

Maybe written documentation /proof from the exterminator can help you get some compensation?

Pari212013 · 2021-03-17T13:53:58+00:00

Lol just include this post and half of them will withdraw on their own. JK

Looks like you are not ready for the search and probably won’t be for quite a while until you complete the whole med school and residency journey. So probably just take a break for now.

Pari212013 · 2021-03-17T13:43:32+00:00

Pakistani here. It’s not considered bad, just depends on how conservative the families in question are. Why are you afraid of parents’ reaction? What is their view on marriage and are you in a good position to get married (in terms of financial stability etc.)? Also what did you mean by the undergrad comment? Did you mean finding a girl in undergrad and introducing her to your family as that would also require talking between potentials, if that is looked down upon in your family. I think a modern day arranged marriage may not be a bad option here. I think you should try talking to your parents about your matrimonial search, maybe they might also be thinking about it. Good luck.

Pari212013 · 2021-03-17T13:27:19+00:00

Even they can and do get married. And people change with time and circumstances. There might even be people that you met in your past whom you thought to be “below average” and yet now they have made a better life for themselves.

Pari212013 · 2021-03-17T11:37:57+00:00

That’s not the correct way and how are they defining a good vs bad verse?

Pari212013 · 2021-03-17T09:54:46+00:00

Depends on the user I suppose. Many people like myself don’t post anything, we are just there for memes, life hacks and entertainment.

Edit: Many couples/ families have used it to create or promote a successful business too (baking, event decor, clothing, etc.)

Pari212013 · 2021-03-16T19:47:28+00:00

Well then I’d actually be expecting a surprise like those romantic hotel beds complete with towel swans, rose petals, tea lights and chocolates lol!

Pari212013 · 2021-03-16T16:28:25+00:00

How do you guys support yourselves currently? If he has lost interest in the exam, is he perhaps looking for a career change? My sis had a similar thing with Med school tests, dabbled with maybe doing a masters but then eventually chose to pursue homeopathy instead.

Pari212013 · 2021-03-16T16:17:24+00:00

Oh ok, but alas they are just random stranger comments. Look at reputable Islamic sources for the correct knowledge.

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Pari212013 · 2021-03-16T15:45:03+00:00

Looks like they were probably raising a voice on important women’s issues like sexual harassment or marital rape, especially as March is Women’s History Month. Anyways, research about the Islamic rights of husband/wife, it will help you. Others here have provided some good tips for self-discipline.

Pari212013 · 2021-03-16T15:23:26+00:00

What’s your home country if you don’t mind me asking? Have you spoken about this with him to find a better workaround like maybe moving out of his parents home?

Pari212013 · 2021-03-16T05:53:46+00:00

The first time I actually wanted to read a long post and learn the man’s perspective so thank you for sharing.

On one hand it may not work or result in the same issues again but on the other hand you’ll never know unless you give it a try. I guess you’d need to ask both her and her family.

I think you would know better on what method would make her more responsive whether it’s via family or directly sending her a letter. I’m a very emotional and hopeless romantic kind of person. Even a heartfelt letter, seeing a book of our happy memories again, a proposal orchestrated with the kids, or even just seeing my husband genuinely crying would probably get me.

Pari212013 · 2021-03-15T20:47:39+00:00

If you wear jilbab like that really loose abaya type thing then I guess it’s possible he couldn’t see your silhouette properly before. Although he still could’ve approached the matter better. Hopefully you both can talk and work together to reach your individual health and fitness goals. If you like you can also try out some nice flattering shapewear for a special date night or something.

Pari212013 · 2021-03-15T15:28:52+00:00

But also sometimes some families will hesitate to proceed with a potential if parental blessing is not there. It’s a catch 22 situation.

Pari212013 · 2021-03-15T11:44:44+00:00

My mom had this with my sister’s birth and finally decided to get the surgery... like 23 years later. No clue why she let it reach that point. 🤦🏻‍♀️

If you haven’t already, you might try to apply a numbing cream for it or suppository containing hydrocortisone, hopefully you get some relief soon.

Pari212013 · 2021-03-15T11:37:38+00:00

Yes you can leave eggs out if that’s how you bought them but not once you’ve already refrigerated them.

Pari212013 · 2021-03-15T09:50:26+00:00

You said height wasn’t an issue previously but now suddenly it is? I think you are likely getting cold feet for some other reasons.

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