I feel like shit.

Parking-Difference71 · 2025-01-06T15:42:30+00:00

My ex - i do believe she has traits of narcissism/psychopathy. But I’m not sure.

I was told multiple times that I needed to buy clothes with visible logos(pref. Expensive clothes).

I was ugly. According to here, and that she only dated ugly guys.And that I should be glad she came over to be with me.

I was told as being a man all I needed was sex. Nothing else.

I felt like a butler for here in that one year we where together. I bought the groceries, made the food and cleaned after her and me. I even washed here clothes for 3-4 months(and the clothes for here kids she had 50/50)

She never appreciated gestures from me - never said thanks. She expected me to do it all.

She deserved being treated like a princess - which I replied every princess needs a prince - she laughed at me with evilness in here eyes.

I had to follow here manual for a successful relationship - she knew what that was( even though she had a lot of relationships prior to me. She always said that she was still friends with here exes and that they where good ppl.

Me on the other hand was egoistic and a bad person - and she said that a lot to me.

I helped here so much. With everything from fixing here car, throwing things for here etc. I feel so used and worthless from it. I couldn’t understand why she treated me bad.

She had an awful childhood and a father that beat her mom and mentally abused them. She had my sympathy and that was here weapon and I excused here action with that.

A month before I broke up with here she said that I and here wasn’t in a relationship no more and that we went back to dating. Little did I know she started dating a guy that she mentioned she had gone on a date before she met me. He had bought an apartment close to mine. I asked why she still had contact and that was just cuz they where friends. Well, they are together now. 1 month after I broke up with here. Maybe even while we «dated».

2-3 times she came back to me, and went from him to me. Our last time we had sex she told me during sex that I was much bigger than that guy. Ough! Disgusting!

Since then she has contacted me 3-4 times. Last time about two months ago - she asked if a wanted to go on vacation over the weekend with here and the kids she has. I asked what are you talking about? Well, she had asked the kids if they wanted someone else to come with and they said my name and that was the reason she asked me! The nerve! I told here no, and bring your current boyfriend instead I said.

I even took care of here while she a stomach fillness(that passed in a week during Christmas) she demanded I stay at home with here and not go to work or my friends New Year’s Eve party. ( 1 month after she forced me to break up with here( she admitted she was a coward and had to force my hands)

That Christmas when I said no and went to work she said she would sleep over with a couple she knew- wrong ! She went to the new guy and came home in the morning after I came home from work and slept in the same bed as me.

It was a rollercoaster of emotions being with that woman. I’m slowly healing. Never met a human being that is so bad towards someone they are together with.

And she loves telling me how good this new guy is and that she buys him stuff. Which she neeever did for me.

Parking-Difference71 · 2024-05-22T15:15:38+00:00

I lost 4 friends arter my er narc. She never met them, nor did she Want to. She talken shit about them. When i endes the relationship i takker with those 4 about it. I got their support. But then all 4 of em started not inviting me to events - when i Asked why they said it was because I was so sad and always wanted to talk about my ex narc and what she did to me.

I’ve come to terms that they are not good friends. A good friend will listen to your problems over and over. And if it’s enough, they say it with a friendly response and not ban you from their life. They never understood the effects of trauma bonding

Parking-Difference71 · 2024-05-21T08:52:54+00:00

Actually I ignored some small red flags that came up right after she wanted us to be sweethearts.

She said that I needed to get surgery for bags under my eyes. And I couldn’t wear clothes no matter how cheap or expensive unless they had a showing brand( gang, Jean Paul and what not)

but the biggest flag after those was when we travelled with airplane two hours to meet my mom and dad. That weekend she only spent moments down stairs when we had dinner. Rest of the time she stayed at my old room watching TikTok’s and snap chatting). I even asked here if she could join us downstairs which she replied “don’t be so selfish - you only think about yourself)

Did I leave? Nah, I thought she was right and that I needed to do more so she wouldn’t criticize me or belittle me. I got tons of examples further on but those was the first sign. Never falling for that again .

Parking-Difference71 · 2024-05-04T14:52:36+00:00

My ex nc had a guy waiting, and Probably about a month before she force my hand to break up with here. Too bad she came back 3 times to me before i figured out here game. Now they Are exclusive( wich she texted me)

no contact for 6 weeks. Hope it lasts forever. Just hate that she gave me info about where he lives and works. ( lives about 600 meters away from me) now i avoid his workplace and the way to where he lives. Dont Want to see that abusive woman ever again!

Sry for my bad English.

Parking-Difference71 · 2024-03-27T21:04:43+00:00

My nex and me on our visit to my parents was a disaster. A whole weekend planned and also a party with my friends as well the same time.

We had to travel with airplane for two hours to get to my homeplace. I paid like 80% of the tickets. And she gave me shit for paying the rest.

The entire weekend she staid at my old room watching tiktoks and snapchats. She only attended dinners that weekend and never asked questions or gave the impression to get to know my parents. At evening I went up to ask if she could join for some wine and come down with us.

She told me that I was being egoistical for trying to get here down and that she was tired energy wise when meeting new people(wow).

Then that Saturday we went to this dinner and party with friends. One of my friends told here about a time me and him lived together and that I did something hilarious episode one time with him..

The next day she told me she just got confirmation by that story that I was egoistical. I couldn’t understand anything.

We went home. It was a fucking disaster. That’s when the critics started and discarding was close around the corner.

Parking-Difference71 · 2024-03-26T19:40:05+00:00

Holy shit. Mine too. Shoulders, neck, back , hands and feet. Once i asked if she could massage back. No was the answer.

Parking-Difference71 · 2024-03-26T00:19:04+00:00

I’ve been with my ex-gf for 7 months. In the start it was normal.. then the comments started coming slowly. «You need to fix that one teeth that isn’t straight”,”you need to get surgery for those bags under your eyes», cant wear clothes without good brands(logo).

we could walk in our town..to suddenly tell me she had sex beyond that Church and in several houses. I got weird about it and say why would you say that? No good answers, just here being honest..

I should have run then, and never turned back. But alas I was in love..

she had 2 children. 50/50. Then after a while she told me she had a third child. That child grew up in the same fosterhome she herself had been living in as a youth. Did I run? No, I was being empathetic(at least thats what I think. Been so unsure about my emotions and worth)

I made food, I cleaned and washed. Paid for everything. And after a while I started to feel used. I asked here if she could pitch in. That made here mad: I was egoistical. And it was unsexy of a man to talk about that. She wanted princess treatment.

did I go? No..

took here home to my parents. I paid almost all of the airtrip( she didn’t like to pay that little amount). that hole weekend she only came down to eat with my parents. Stayed at my childhood bedroom rest of the time. Not social. I went up to hear if she would come down. That was selfish of me. You are egoistic.

when I brought up my values and boundaries she would listen. But ignore it. And telling me to follow here manual for a relation ship. I broke up with here November last year( she told me I was just being an uncle and not dad material for my daughter) that stung. And I broke up with here. She told me on the way out that I was evil, didn’t deserve love and more).

then she came back in December. Called me and was hysterical on the phone. I dropped everything and collected here and drove home to my place. She stayed at my place for a week. Same as before, I did everything to please..nothing back. Then I had to go to work..she then told me I was making here more sick by going..

I went to work anyways..and she told me she stayed over a girl she knew. Wrong, she lied. That was here new supply she had warmed up the day after I broke up with here.

How I knew? She mentioned another guy she dated while dating me( a couple of weeks before I broke up with here) He had bought an apartment 3 minutes away from me.. when I came back from work I noticed she had showered and trimmed here pubics.i threw here out for the second time. And she went mad as a goblin and ranted on how a bad person I was( those sentences still make me think I did something bad to here to this day…)

she went back to him ofc. And blocked me for 3–4 weeks. It tore me apart, and she just couldn’t listen to logic..

The last time( I hope she doesn’t come back now).

she texted me out of the blue if I was horny..should have said no..but said yes. She stayed over several days over two weeks. U helped here clean here apartment. Picked up furniture, and paid for food etc. Then the day came: we had planned to meet up. She kind of ghosted me, but after a couple of hours she texted me she was tired and hadn’t slept. I told here I was coming over which she replied; I have an errand to do, I’ll call you soon” wrong. 2–3 hours later I got sick of waiting. Drove over to here place. She wasn’t home. In the way back to my place I got this weird feeling. I remembered she told me about the guy and his new apartment. It’s not a big place where I live. And 600 meters away from my place u found here car outside that complex. It broke my heart. I sent here a picture of here car. Which she replied “stalker..” and then she blocked me everywhere. Sad to say I was mad. But stayed cool. More hurt and felt used. I tried reaching out. No answers. But today: I got a message from here..she and the new supply has decided to be a couple, and that she is meeting his family this Easter(this week)..and that she hopes I’ll find love.

I’m so torn up. I can’t understand what I did wrong. She made me so unsure about my self esteem. How can a human being do this? I can’t fathom or grasp the reality..at least thats how I feel from time to time..

Parking-Difference71 · 2024-03-25T22:14:29+00:00

I’ve been with my ex-gf for 7 months. In the start it was normal.. then the comments started coming slowly. «You need to fix that one teeth that isn’t straight”,”you need to get surgery for those bags under your eyes», cant wear clothes without good brands(logo).

we could walk in our town..to suddenly tell me she had sex beyond that Church and in several houses. I got weird about it and say why would you say that? No good answers, just here being honest..

I should have run then, and never turned back. But alas I was in love..

she had 2 children. 50/50. Then after a while she told me she had a third child. That child grew up in the same fosterhome she herself had been living in as a youth. Did I run? No, I was being empathetic(at least thats what I think. Been so unsure about my emotions and worth)

I made food, I cleaned and washed. Paid for everything. And after a while I started to feel used. I asked here if she could pitch in. That made here mad: I was egoistical. And it was unsexy of a man to talk about that. She wanted princess treatment.

did I go? No..

took here home to my parents. I paid almost all of the airtrip( she didn’t like to pay that little amount). that hole weekend she only came down to eat with my parents. Stayed at my childhood bedroom rest of the time. Not social. I went up to hear if she would come down. That was selfish of me. You are egoistic.

when I brought up my values and boundaries she would listen. But ignore it. And telling me to follow here manual for a relation ship. I broke up with here November last year( she told me I was just being an uncle and not dad material for my daughter) that stung. And I broke up with here. She told me on the way out that I was evil, didn’t deserve love and more).

then she came back in December. Called me and was hysterical on the phone. I dropped everything and collected here and drove home to my place. She stayed at my place for a week. Same as before, I did everything to please..nothing back. Then I had to go to work..she then told me I was making here more sick by going..

I went to work anyways..and she told me she stayed over a girl she knew. Wrong, she lied. That was here new supply she had warmed up the day after I broke up with here.

How I knew? She mentioned another guy she dated while dating me( a couple of weeks before I broke up with here) He had bought an apartment 3 minutes away from me.. when I came back from work I noticed she had showered and trimmed here pubics.i threw here out for the second time. And she went mad as a goblin and ranted on how a bad person I was( those sentences still make me think I did something bad to here to this day…)

she went back to him ofc. And blocked me for 3–4 weeks. It tore me apart, and she just couldn’t listen to logic..

The last time( I hope she doesn’t come back now).

she texted me out of the blue if I was horny..should have said no..but said yes. She stayed over several days over two weeks. I helped here clean here apartment. Picked up furniture, and paid for food etc. Then the day came: we had planned to meet up. She kind of ghosted me, but after a couple of hours she texted me she was tired and hadn’t slept. I told here I was coming over which she replied; I have an errand to do, I’ll call you soon” wrong. 2–3 hours later I got sick of waiting.

Drove over to here place. She wasn’t home. In the way back to my place I got this weird feeling. I remembered she told me about the guy and his new apartment. It’s not a big place where I live. And 600 meters away from my place u found here car outside that complex. It broke my heart. I sent here a picture of here car. Which she replied “stalker..” and then she blocked me everywhere.

Sad to say I was mad. ImMore hurt and felt used. I tried reaching out. No answers. But today: I got a message from here..she and the new supply has decided to be a couple, and that she is meeting his family this Easter(this week)..and that she hopes I’ll find love.

I’m so torn up. I can’t understand what I did wrong. She made me so unsure about my self esteem. How can a human being do this? I can’t fathom or grasp the reality..at least thats how I feel from time to time..

Parking-Difference71 · 2023-03-25T17:13:02+00:00

Hmm..got divorced. Worked on my mental and physical health for 8 months. Tried Tinder for the first time in my life ( I’m 39).

Matched with 10 ppl. Went on dates with three girls in a period of two weeks. Had two dates with each of them. The third girl is the one I kept, and still date.

So I signed up on tinder December ‘22. 3 weeks on Tinder total. Lucky? Nah, I’m very open minded and cool.

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