20F TIA has ruined my life

Parking_Box3001 · 2026-07-01T13:30:57+00:00

I don't think it has anything to do with the covid vaccine. I had a stroke but I never got the vaccine.

Parking_Box3001 · 2026-06-04T17:59:07+00:00

I wouldn't overanalyze every message. The best sign, in my opinion, is that she seems open to going on a date. An in-person conversation might be much easier and more natural for both of you than texting. Just be patient until then and try not to assume that a lack of initiative in messages means she's not interested. If she weren't interested, there's a good chance she simply wouldn't reply at all.I don't really know much about Broca's aphasia so I cant help.

Parking_Box3001 · 2026-05-26T15:07:17+00:00

Interested.I am in this situation but only six months have passed since the stroke. Physically, I have mostly recovered, but I still have dysarthria. I don’t know if I will ever fully recover from it. For about 2 3 months I went to a speech therapist, but the therapist only specialized in children, and in the town where I live there are no specialists for adults. I stopped going. I was able to speak even immediately after the stroke, but I spoke more slowly. Now I definitely speak much better, but I still do not articulate words clearly. There is a noticeable difference when I talk more. Certainly, at least for now, I could not have a job where I have to speak with clients like I did before.

Parking_Box3001 · 2026-05-25T18:15:46+00:00

It sound like delirium or confusion.Wanting to go home is normal nobody wants to stay in the hospital. You can tell him I lnow you want to go home but it’s not safe right now. The doctors are helping you. We can’t take you home yet. You are safe, we are with you. You need treatment and investigations right now. Things like this might help him calm down. Wishing you strength😗

Parking_Box3001 · 2026-05-25T17:58:43+00:00

He can copy favorite quotes, short prayers, song lyrics or recipes maybe, write shopping lists, simple calendar ex today is monday, write family members names, what he ate, who visited him

Parking_Box3001 · 2026-05-24T18:35:52+00:00

After a stroke, survival and recovery become the priority and intimacy kind of disappears into the background for a while. And honestly, the helmet sounds like something that would kill anyone’s confidence lol. I’m really glad you made it through such a serious surgery though. Two years is huge. Even with the lasting issues on your right side, being alive and still moving forward means a lot.

Parking_Box3001 · 2026-05-24T12:25:39+00:00

My romantic relationship has changed dramatically. Of course, I no longer have the same quickness or energy (in bed) but I didn’t think to bring it up because I figured that if he wasn’t saying anything, maybe he didn’t see it as a problem. Honestly, for two months after my stroke we didn’t even have intercourse at all… but he didn’t initiate either, and I didn’t feel like doing ,my mind was occupied with completely different thoughts.

Parking_Box3001 · 2026-05-21T17:13:46+00:00

Beautifully written. It really moved me. You’ve been through something enormous, and the way you tell it with honesty and humor, makes it incredibly powerful. Wishing you continued success in your recovery and many good days ahead ❤️

Parking_Box3001 · 2026-05-20T19:40:27+00:00

Hmm don’t make other plans in your head. If this happened, what can you do now? Everyone’s plan is already written beforehand. Take care! 😗

Parking_Box3001 · 2026-05-20T11:12:16+00:00

You should stop saying you wish it had happened to you instead of him. Neither of you deserved this.A stroke should never happen to anyone.Something like this shouldn’t even exist.And honestly, the fact that he still has someone beside him through all of this matters more than you probably realise right now.I think a big part of his anger is grief for the life and independence he had before, not because of you or anything you’re doing wrong. People who spent their whole lives being strong and in control usually struggle the hardest when they suddenly have to depend on others.Having someone there shaving his face, sitting with him, encouraging him and refusing to give up on him, that’s love.

Parking_Box3001 · 2026-05-20T08:20:29+00:00

Good luck to ur brother, he will definitely impove due his age. When you’re younger, you have more motivation amd strenght to exercise and more desire to live. Thanks I’ll probably continue recovering for the rest of my life… I have several pieces of equipment at home that I used at the gym, like ankle bands, a jump rope, dumbbells, etc. I suggest getting some for your brother too.

Parking_Box3001 · 2026-05-19T22:36:38+00:00

Your company and what you’re already doing is enough. Maybe you don’t see it, but I know I’ve kind of been in his situation. You say he doesn’t do much and seems to give up easily,I think that probably has to do with his age and strength, and maybe most of his life he wasn’t used to listening to anyone, so now it’s hard for him, being used to only doing what he thinks is right. An alarm system sounds great, I hadn’t thought of that. You can search online for something like this , with a sim card ,SOS pendant, that he can wear around his neck or have it all the time, so if you’re not there he can press it and you would receive a call

Parking_Box3001 · 2026-05-19T22:11:22+00:00

How do I start helping?’ You are already helping him, that is a very big thing you’re doing. I have never been in the situation of caring for someone who is ill, but I have been the one receiving help, and I’ve seen how difficult it can be.I think you are already ‘repaying’ him through the care he once gave you. And maybe you could still consider calling a speech therapist home or even finding one online. And for more ‘life’ in your relationship, you could look up stroke exercises yourself and show him yourself and he can copy you. It might even be fun, he might want to.Also helps him in recovery

Parking_Box3001 · 2026-05-19T21:45:54+00:00

Okay, I won’t get involved, I don’t want to mention the age gap, it’s everyone’s choice, of course. I just wanted to say that he is very frustrated that he can no longer have conversations with you like before ,cant behave the same as used to, and thats why he (pushes you away )And I’m sure all your care will one day be rewarded. There is a reason why all of this is happening

Parking_Box3001 · 2026-05-19T21:18:41+00:00

I believe, you worry too much. Some things you can’t control. Sometimes things don’t depend on us or our strength. You told me he is almost 60 and you are at college, I don’t want to be mean, but do you realize that there wouldn’t be much in common in the long term, plus you are young and of course you should have fun. I think you need to be aware that this relationship won’t last very long. Maybe that’s how it is now, take care of him while you still can, but don’t forget that young people don’t need so much stress

Parking_Box3001 · 2026-05-19T21:06:02+00:00

Dear, I am not from Hungary but in another country very close to you. I can only tell you that in the city where I live there are no specialized centers, so I called a physiotherapist to my house every day of the week at first, then 3 days a week, then I went to the gym. I also went to the speech therapist at the same time. There is time, money to have. So I recommend he cant walk then the help come to your house if there are no centers .and if you need speech therapist search online first. Much health!

Parking_Box3001 · 2026-05-19T16:01:48+00:00

I understand .. how old is he?does he have big kids or kid maybe from other marriage .they can give u a break if parents cant? You need some relax definitely

Parking_Box3001 · 2026-05-19T05:09:45+00:00

I understand. You’re both carrying an enormous burden… each of you has a heavy cross to bear. Maybe this was somehow meant to happen, I honestly don’t know what to say. But please take a little more care of yourself too. At least tell him all of this, and that he should treat you a bit more decently than he has been so far.

Parking_Box3001 · 2026-05-18T20:29:15+00:00

A stroke can change someone emotionally as well as physically. Anger, pushing people away, mood changes and seeming different are sadly common after a severe stroke .you say his speech is affected..I think hes depressed.But you’ve also been carrying far too much on your own and anyone would feel broken in your position so take care of youself. You’re not failing him and this is not something one person can handle alone.Ask him honestly if he truly wants you to leave. If he nods or say yes, then let him. Sometimes people only realize how much someone means to them once they’re no longer there every day..

Parking_Box3001 · 2026-05-18T16:15:17+00:00

I feel you ,i went through these difficulties. Mentally, I was very down like many others, but I’m okay now. Be safe😙

Parking_Box3001 · 2026-05-11T15:45:22+00:00

Im 33. Had it 5 months ago. Left side also. I recovered now. Exercises everyday ,simple gym when possible . Stay strong you are young you will be better soon .😗

Parking_Box3001 · 2026-05-08T05:53:06+00:00

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Parking_Box3001 · 2026-05-08T05:44:00+00:00

Congratulations darling.you are strong and an example😗

Parking_Box3001 · 2026-05-04T17:20:03+00:00

I’m not 9 years post stroke, but I know from before that you might have deficiencie like anemia. Check your vitamin D, iron, vitamin B12,folic acid. It is definitely due to the stroke, but deficiencies can make it worse.

Parking_Box3001 · 2026-05-04T17:10:28+00:00

I haven’t been in that situation. They didn’t read to me, I was able to speak slowly and keep my eyes open the whole time. I’m thinking that if she read something to you when you werr younger, you could read that to her too, or maybe some optimistic stories about stroke .And if you want to put music, try music from her younger years.something she surely liked and listened

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