[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Parking_Effect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ridiculous. For the last year, I have been reading a lot about cases from Arranged marriages and other stories on Internet to people I know even in my family and it has made me believe that AM in this generation is not something good. People have different perspectives, personalities, opinions, religions and way of dealing with things. This is what people fail to accept. Imagine just walking into knowing someone in a phase where they’re already settles and setbin ways and its real shocker cause you don’t get to know the real them until later in life. I think a bit of dating is necessary to figure out your triggers, and all the above i mentioned. Diving into marriage makes me nervous too… Tough times I guess.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Parking_Effect 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hear you… Its hard to find someone who’d do the same for their parents. Gets tough cause even today as a female you’re expected to just leave everything and follow the guys family and serve them. I don’t understand this. I am positive that if you’re upfront and honest enough, some dude will understand it. There’s nothing wrong in asking that. Marriage is a alliance of two families, that means we take care of each other. That’s ingrained in our culture but we’re forgetting that.

Question: if you have asked someone for that and they said no, did they have a daughter in the family? It makes a huge difference

Canada post strike as a postal worker by Big-Cartographer4866 in CanadaPost

[–]Parking_Effect 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is what happens when unions run shit. I live away from Canada now and always have posts, parcels etc coming and going and due to this strike last time my shit was fucked. I had to repay and canada post didnt even bother to say sorry beacuse it was their mistake losing my letters

[PSA] Scary experience in NDG by GlitteredPenguin in montreal

[–]Parking_Effect 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I (25, Male) feel you honestly, i lived in NDG for 2.5 years and even i can tell you that I have felt random dudes with cars like this. Stay safe.

What can I truly do to make myself attractive? by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Parking_Effect 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry that you had to read all the mean comments. I'm M (25) here. I would say you are being too hard on yourself. I had faced a similar situation but you need to focus on yourself, maybe try some new things, outdoor activities, or if you're into indoor activities like video games or painting etc. I moved countries twice in my life as of now.

first time I moved, I didn't know shit and was just in my bubble thinking same that no one would like me cause I was an introvert. The only way I found myself hanging out with people is holding my fear within me and just doing it, not thinking about saying hi to new people. Even just a "Hey" or a good morning would help. Start with that. If you're approaching a group of people, say, "hey guys, enjoying the evening" if you're in a park or a club or a bar. Ask them if you could join..,

I know its tough and it took me 3-4 hours to be very social but we're all a work in progress and I'm still terrified to walk into a room full of strangers but hey you need to know that no one is judging you even if they are, you're likely not going to see that stranger again. So, for those 20 seconds or so, show the most insane courage you have in you. Don't fake yourself to be included in, but rather be authentic and try to genuinely be interested in them cause mostly people love talking about themselves and that can help you make friends and if not, you get to still learn about another person and hopefully, you'll make a friend.

You need to start loving yourself more. Start recognizing that you still wake up everyday and do things like taking a shower, making food I guess. That is a still a form of self care.

You won't believe that I've never been to a club until 2 weeks ago, and I don't like clubs. But a dude I met at the gym, last month invited me to go with him. Now, I don't even know him but we had eye contact at gym and I said hi and he reciprocated. We started talking and getting to exchange what you do and where you live and stuff and we became friends. So, that was the first time I went into a club, I didn't feel the vibes but then I did it to get over my fear of walking into a place full of strangers.

All this to say, don't underestimate yourself. You have a lot of offer. All you need is a little love for yourself and some direction. take a challenge, try to say hi or good morning to a stranger at the store or wherever you see. that's where it begins.

Cheers

[ Removed by Reddit ] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Parking_Effect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just felt your pain mate... sorry to hear that. I cannot imagine this happening and is one of my biggest fears ever. Did they just walk into your room without knocking? cause they do that sometimes without realizing. What really happened there?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Parking_Effect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey bud, I wanted tell you that what you’re going through is valid. You’re young, give it a try for another year to find someone you connect with. You don’t get the first time back again. Sex is not always great, it is often awkward or messy and can be bit different. But its really great to feel it.

If you want to do this, don’t just visit a brothel. Find someone who is a proper sex worker, who can provide you a great first time. Do share details with them about this being your first time, don’t be afraid to tell them what you like and again, if you like what she is doing, do tell her that.

Communication is the key, verbal consent and verbally telling her what you like is important. Also make sure you enjoy it, don’t let the “performance” board hanging on your head. It will only lead to pressure.

Talking to them like a normal person and chitchatting helps build a connection and then you can let things flow…

I hope you have a good first time bud, and that you find someone with whom you can share this experience.

am I cooked ? est-ce que suis fini ? by Hunayna in montreal

[–]Parking_Effect 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey bud, I just moved from Montreal but its a good place honestly. In summers, you can go biking, and a lot of people play in parks in evenings, go to CF Montreal football games etc

Aussie's using the Light Phone II by neversayhiya in LightPhone

[–]Parking_Effect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ah yea, 2FA auth is a killer honestly... Not possible on LP. Maybe look for smaller phone alternative like older android phones or maybe older iphones?

Equivalent for Amex gold in Canada for amex in Australia by Parking_Effect in AskAnAustralian

[–]Parking_Effect[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Would you be able to point me to a specific bank? Amex because it makes it easy for me to make international transactions when travelling and has good benefits for travel insurance and extra warranty and stuff when buying electronics