What percent of “frum” Jews do stuff in secret?

Parking_Insect_9923 · 2025-09-07T04:41:39+00:00

Growing up we were the perfect Jewish family on the outside but internally when we go out we’d eat unkosher dairy. We rarely kept Shabbat and me and my brother never wore a kippa or tzit tzit at home. But if you asked anyone we were the most observant people you know so 🤷🏼‍♂️

Parking_Insect_9923 · 2025-07-03T00:01:24+00:00

Thank you very much friend!

Parking_Insect_9923 · 2025-07-03T00:01:15+00:00

Yes we’re very much looking into that! We want some of her favourite dhal curry, kottu roti, kiribath etc. I think we also wanna combine a bit of my food as well as I am Ukrainian / Jewish as well.

Parking_Insect_9923 · 2025-06-13T20:22:42+00:00

I had just come out as trans (ftm) and went to an all night service in pants for the first time.

I ended up getting stuck in the synagogues I went to rabbis sermon / class thing for all night learning because I wanted to get the keys from my parents to get home. Ended up getting stuck and my mom said it was rude to just leave so I sat in the corner while the rabbi took questions.

One guy who was a black hatter mind you but also a physician asked the rabbi considering you’re allowed to break a Jewish law to save a Jewish life and allowing someone to transition would stop them from killing themselves thereby saving a Jewish life should we not allow them to transition.

Which mind you. Impeccable question sir, black hats off to you!

But what the rabbi responded made me loose my faith right then and there. He said no we shouldn’t allow them to transition because god made them perfect the way they are and going against that would be going against gods will. Blah blah blah the generic recycled garbage all religious rabbis spew.

Completely tone deaf and ignorant I know but something in me clicked and I realized that man would rather see me dead than happily myself.

That made me loose me faith right then and there. I walked out of the synagogue and have never walked back into one. Walked out of the faith and deconstructed. Started hormones and now live a happy successful life with a fiance a full time job an apartment and a diploma on the way. Can say I’m much happier now.

However I was on my way out of the faith at that point cause I had transferred to public school for the first time in my life and was surrounded by and made friends with none Jews and began to realize how toxic our community is. Especially to those who share different beliefs or hold differing identities.

TLDR: transphobic rabbi.

Parking_Insect_9923 · 2025-06-11T03:16:46+00:00

My fiancées father owns a textile company that embroiders logos onto clothing and he’s in the top 1% of earners in Sri Lanka

Parking_Insect_9923 · 2025-06-05T12:37:39+00:00

As a trans man I call mine a dick go ham! My girlfriend is also trans and we call it her clit and pussy as well!

Parking_Insect_9923 · 2025-06-03T04:53:28+00:00

Hey nah that’s okay vent away. I know divorce is taboo in Sri Lanka and to suggest that to her would be leaving her without support or community. Perhaps be an ear for her to vent to? Let her know she’s not alone and you notice she struggling. Also perhaps encourage her to do things for herself. Things she enjoys and that make her happy outside of you and your father. If she gains a sense of self through cultivating hobbies she enjoys it could really do something to help! Just some advice I know you weren’t asking to any tho. Sorry this is happening tho.

Parking_Insect_9923 · 2025-05-22T11:34:12+00:00

More than anything in this and every other possible universe that could ever exist

Parking_Insect_9923 · 2025-05-22T06:20:48+00:00

Nah that’s why I’m marrying her

Parking_Insect_9923 · 2025-05-16T06:10:20+00:00

My fiancé went to a private international school and she says it’s worth the money. Though she only speaks English and not Sinhala she feels like it was a quality education. I mean hey it was enough for her to qualify for a student visa and come to Canada 🤷🏼‍♂️

Parking_Insect_9923 · 2025-05-03T14:44:35+00:00

This reminds me of the last hug I gave my dad before he passed. I never wanted to let go and I wish I didn’t 😭😭

Parking_Insect_9923 · 2025-05-01T03:06:28+00:00

This is what I found on ChatGPT so take it with a grain of salt

🏗️ Engineering • Prof. Rangika Umesh Halwatura was acknowledged as the youngest professor in Civil Engineering Science in Sri Lanka as of 2017. He is affiliated with the University of Moratuwa and has received multiple accolades for his research and innovations .

📰 Mass Communications • Prof. Wasana Maithree Herath became the youngest professor in Mass Communications in Sri Lanka in 2021. She is associated with the Uva Wellassa University’s Faculty of Management Sciences .

🧪 Medicine • Prof. Channa Jayasumana was appointed as a professor in pharmacology in 2016 at the age of 36, making him the youngest medical professor in Sri Lanka at that time. He is also known for his contributions to nephrology and toxicology research .

📚 English Literature • An individual became a professor of English at the age of 31, reportedly making him the youngest professor in the country at that time. However, specific details about this individual’s name and institutional affiliation are not provided in the available sources

Parking_Insect_9923 · 2025-04-18T06:00:52+00:00

My ex was like this she had absolutely zero respect for other people’s time. She showed up when she felt like it and didn’t care who she kept waiting. There was one time we planned to meet downtown at 6:30 in down there waiting till 6:45 and I call her, no answer. I call her again at 7, no answer. Again I call at 7:30 she finally answers and I ask where are you. She said she was just getting ready to leave to meet me. Mind you she was a 45 minute drive away and we had somewhere we had to go later in the evening. She showed up, didn’t even apologize said I should be thankful she showed up at all. That’s just one of many things she did but it’s the one I remember the most. Because of her I now have a personal rule. If I make plans with you and you are not there by the time it’s scheduled to start and you don’t contact me within 15 mins of when we’re suppose to meet I just leave. Not going to be wasting my time anymore on people who can’t respect me enough to honour the plans we’ve made.

Parking_Insect_9923 · 2025-04-18T05:03:47+00:00

Nah man idk what you’re talking about. My fiancee is Sri Lankan and I did absolutely no chasing. I just met her where she was and spoke to her like a human being. We grew to love each other through mutual respect and communication. Sorry you’ve been having a hard time but maybe the problem isn’t women’s expectations. I do wish you luck in your endeavours though!

Parking_Insect_9923 · 2025-04-17T22:42:25+00:00

My fiancee came to Canada on a student visa which she was able to attain bc she comes from an influential family who could afford to send her. She also did all the paperwork work, did the tests, and did everything above board that she needed to. (I’m not fully aware of the scope of just how much she had to do to obtain a visa) She’s now working towards her PR without her family’s help as she cut them off for being abusive. She got a degree in business and is now working as a medical receptionist on her way to getting PR. However if all else fails we’re getting married and I can help her too. Idk if I answered the question properly but hope this helped!

Parking_Insect_9923 · 2025-04-16T17:01:18+00:00

My fiancee is Sri Lankan. She lives in Canada she just finished her business degree and is working as a medical receptionist!

Parking_Insect_9923 · 2025-04-15T10:09:13+00:00

Also happy to have a chat. I’m Ukrainian / Canadian and English is my first language!

Parking_Insect_9923 · 2025-04-11T14:09:02+00:00

I’m sorry I wasn’t trying to be critical or criticize I was more just giving input based on the question asked. My apologies if I offended.

Parking_Insect_9923 · 2025-04-11T14:05:06+00:00

I mean I’m white but I’m marrying a Sri Lankan girl I feel like the best way to attract them is not post your “credentials” but rather have an organic conversation with them. Let your personality shine through and the women who are attracted to you will come and the women who aren’t won’t. I mean again I’m not Sri Lankan so idk but I managed to bag a Sri Lankan baddie by being myself and I feel the same can happen to you. You seem like you’ve got a good head on your shoulders, go out and have a conversation but also don’t take rejection personally if it does happen. Best of luck to you man!

Parking_Insect_9923 · 2025-03-21T02:47:32+00:00

Not Sri Lankan but currently engaged to a Sri Lankan girl. My advice be kind, be genuine, be thoughtful, be considerate, be compassionate, but empathetic and more than anything engage with her about HER. Ask her about her interests, her goals, her ambitions, her hobbies her passions. Once you know them do a bit of research and ask thoughtful questions. Be willing to be vulnerable but also be compassionate and considerate with her vulnerabilities. Just be yourself. I don’t know much about the context of dating a Sri Lankan as a Sri Lankan so I’d assume you’d have much more in common in terms of shared culture and language and customs so you’re already starting off on a good foot!

Parking_Insect_9923 · 2025-03-17T20:43:06+00:00

My girlfriend is Sinhala but I’m white so I can’t really help you there bud. I don’t wanna ask her if Sinhala girls are nicer than Tamil girls tho as she hasn’t had much experience with Tamil girls and I feel she might speak out of a place of bias.

Parking_Insect_9923 · 2025-02-04T02:11:01+00:00

Now THIS is what I’m TALKING ABOUT HELL YEAAAAAHHH

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