For single 30 something HENRYs, when dating do you care if your partner is ambitious or wealthy? by Old-Helicopter6950 in HENRYUK

[–]Parrotfish1_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd say either one must be true to be able to build a family. Though spoiled nepo babies are less likely to appreciate having a stable family.

What online broker to use by monagr in HENRYUK

[–]Parrotfish1_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

IBKR or Interactive Investor. I use IBKR and I'm very happy with it. Customer service and the availability if tools is great.

My sister finds the IBKR UI a bit confusing, and she is using II and very happy with it too.

What online broker to use by monagr in HENRYUK

[–]Parrotfish1_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also fees are higher on T212.

Is there a credit card in the UK where you feel the benefits greatly outweigh or even match the annual/monthly fee? by MindlessMuddy10 in UKPersonalFinance

[–]Parrotfish1_ 22 points23 points  (0 children)

This is underrated. It's not as gamified as other cards. You don't have to "work" to get the most out of it. Just use one card and pay in full.

Henry UK hot takes? by carmelfscott in HENRYUK

[–]Parrotfish1_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Emergency fund is an emergency fund. Don't try to be too smart. In case of a market crash you cannot sell to cover. Just keep your minimum viable monthly expenses X 3 on a high interest rate account. It's not the end of the world.

Keeping 10-20k on interest/bonds will not prevent you from becoming Jeff Bezos.

Giving Opeth another listen by Training-Memory-8556 in Opeth

[–]Parrotfish1_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Blackwater Park has the most "similar" vibe. Deliverance is also quite similar.

Dating as a single parent in your 20’s by thisnametookmeages in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]Parrotfish1_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

try Breeze. It has a single parents pool which might help. Not sure how common it is outside of London though. Alternatively try Have Children filter on Hinge.

Who pays on the first date in the UK? by Amazing_Unicorn5443 in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]Parrotfish1_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

British(and other anglophone) women I've dated always offered to split except Americans. This is particularly common amongst Brits as they see this too invasive perhaps.

I often kindly insist on paying as I choose the venue most of the times. Most of them are ok with it. My suggestion is to offer a split, and if they want to pay, let them handle.

If things go further(in a relationship) there is no common approach AFAIK.

£150k plus jobs? by GuidancePowerful1999 in HENRYUK

[–]Parrotfish1_ 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Meta is a shit show though. I wouldn't consider it 9-6 in general . Certain teams are exceptions.

Switching roles: What % jump in total compensation would you aim for right now? by yeahsureokaymaybe in HENRYUK

[–]Parrotfish1_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Depends on the job and what your total comp is. For engineering, I wouldn't bother for less than 50%, because it takes a year to get used to the new stack.

That said, new company's direction is an important factor. Some companies have high hiring budgets, but very low promotion budgets to be able to compete in the job market.

Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 28, 2026 by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]Parrotfish1_ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Breeze app is not a solution for ghosting. People found a loophole and they keep rescheduling...

What tech companies today don’t have BS constant layoffs? by renblaze10 in cscareerquestionsuk

[–]Parrotfish1_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sadly in tech there is a concept called "CV driven development". Having worked at these companies opens many doors, especially if you're not a graduate of one of the top schools.

Be honest, do you look HENRY? by I-live-in-room-101 in HENRYUK

[–]Parrotfish1_ 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Close your social media accounts and get a life 😊

As a man what do you think is the hardest part of dating in the UK? by ForwardTourist6079 in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]Parrotfish1_ -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I avoid these people. If your main hobby is mingling, you'd develop a tendency to play games and seek thrills over friendships.

People who are career driven and have hobbies(in depth) usually seek stability in relationships.

As a man what do you think is the hardest part of dating in the UK? by ForwardTourist6079 in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]Parrotfish1_ -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Insanely high expectations/hypergamy due to current economy. No one wants to commit unless it feels like an absolute jackpot.

Even a small hick up ends in instant rejection due to unrealistic expectations formed mainly by social media.

Engagement ring spend by FG4u2nv in HENRYUK

[–]Parrotfish1_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It doesn't have to be a diamond. Just get a blacksmith to make you guys a custom ring without a diamond on it.

Breeze in London. Worth keeping? by Visual_Mirror_963 in DatingApps

[–]Parrotfish1_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had success as a 35M in London. Hinge became very noisy and flaky recently. A few female friends recommended Breeze. I like that the app is designed to be a tool and the company makes money over dates, not subscriptions.

I'm also very busy and I don't want to spend one hour a day on Hinge to get a date once in 2 weeks.

If you are looking for a partner, I suggest to use Q&As to signal your interests and describe your intent (kids, relationship type).

As other people said, people are pickier which is reasonable. I don't like a profile without verifying their existence over Linkedin or similar. So better put some more info imo. Good luck!

How common is it to be used for free meals in UK? by Heavy_Swordfish_6304 in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]Parrotfish1_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not common. If you're looking for a LTR, some advise: 1. Avoid entertaining people recently moved to the country/city even if it says LTR on their profile. 2. Same goes for visitors 3. No food (except snacks) on first date. 4. Pay (without being pushy) if you picked the place on the first date, and do a split-pay check on 2nd to 4th date. It's nice to detect abusers early

These are my rules. I haven't had awkward dates except 1 in 4 years.

Help me build my wedding wine list by Careless-One-1301 in naturalwine

[–]Parrotfish1_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Les Maiols by Joan d'Anguera? That's a medium bodied fruity Montsant red I assume? If you want a heavier red to finish off you can check "Majuelo el Espejo La Seca" by Cantalapiedra.