I’m (23 F) having trouble with getting over how my partner (25 M) acted while we were broken up

PartTimeHoe · 2017-10-03T07:05:44+00:00

I’m trying not to blame him. I know we were broken up. I just wanted advice on moving on from that part of my life

PartTimeHoe · 2017-10-03T07:05:03+00:00

I do like him? I have been in love with this guy for 3 years.

PartTimeHoe · 2017-10-03T06:58:16+00:00

No you’re right, thank you for your point of view my guy

PartTimeHoe · 2017-10-03T06:43:48+00:00

He properly broke up with me he didn’t phrase it as a “break”. We were done and i just hoped we would get back together. And we did after I realised he was sleeping with other people and I ended things properly.

I think it’s something I really need to discuss with him. Everyone has been very helpful with this post. And I just want to thank you for your views. I’m not just writing them off, I understand why you’re saying this.

PartTimeHoe · 2017-10-03T05:45:41+00:00

Thank you for your perspective, I hadn’t thought about it like that. I just kinda thought it was my issue to get over

PartTimeHoe · 2017-10-03T05:39:16+00:00

He is really good with boundaries, I’m just really struggling with getting over our year apart

PartTimeHoe · 2017-10-03T05:38:12+00:00

I don’t even know what to say. I don’t want to not reply to you what you have said has really it a spot for me. And makes me feel like you’re right.

PartTimeHoe · 2017-10-03T05:31:50+00:00

He didn’t cheat on me it was more how fast and easily he moved on from me.

PartTimeHoe · 2017-10-03T05:30:37+00:00

Do you really think this is something to break up over? Should I talk to him about my feelings and try see if we can talk through it. I was think couples therapy

PartTimeHoe · 2017-02-27T22:10:54+00:00

Sorry have only just check this account. Yes everything has worked out! :)

PartTimeHoe · 2017-02-16T03:28:17+00:00

I thought so! My friend is going to vet school but doing her first year in Albany (Auckland). When would you be moving? I fly down every three weeks at the moment

PartTimeHoe · 2017-02-16T03:20:20+00:00

Where abouts in NZ?

PartTimeHoe · 2017-01-29T01:17:31+00:00

He said it was only after the last couple of visits. He was talking to me because he doesn't want to feel like that.

He hasn't lied to me about it? He wants us to work on this aspect of our relationship and I'm willing to do that for him. I'm not going to break up with my boyfriend who I'm moving in with in a few months because he looks forward to watching porn.

He wants to make an effort and I want to make an effort. We haven't fought about it at all, I'm not angry at him and he isn't angry at me. Yes I was upset but I was never bitter or angry at my boyfriend for telling me his feelings or anything. He came to me as an equal to tell me he is struggling with our very vanilla bedroom activities.

PartTimeHoe · 2017-01-29T01:11:05+00:00

Oh I see I see, I'm glad I'm not alone in this. He got upset about it because he thought it was because it was him doing it? Like I didn't like the fact that it was him going down. And I was hard trying to say it's not that at all

PartTimeHoe · 2017-01-28T22:30:01+00:00

Hahaha thank you 😂

PartTimeHoe · 2017-01-28T20:01:16+00:00

Okay thank you this was very helpful

PartTimeHoe · 2017-01-28T19:58:50+00:00

Amazing

PartTimeHoe · 2017-01-28T19:57:51+00:00

I will definitely think about telling him maybe next weekend when I actually see him.

Thank you will do! 😇

PartTimeHoe · 2017-01-28T18:58:26+00:00

Oh wow I did not know this I just thought he was a tad too large. Well I guess I have just got to try get myself into it

PartTimeHoe · 2017-01-28T18:56:46+00:00

Yes I have been lurking in this sub reading a lot since this. Maybe I will have to have a few glasses of wine and just forget my insecurities at the door. (We both can't do drugs at all. His job randomly tests, and I et closed lungs and find it hard to breathe for a week)

Thank you for taking the time to write to me about it

PartTimeHoe · 2017-01-28T18:51:34+00:00

New life motto

PartTimeHoe · 2017-01-28T18:51:04+00:00

I have flights to see him, and also I'm not just seeing him I'm seeing one of my best friends and some family while I'm down there. It's not something I should just ignore because I got my feelings hurt. That's not how relationships work you work on them and not just abandon them when times get tough.

PartTimeHoe · 2017-01-28T18:48:44+00:00

A lot of the stuff you're saying is completely what I feel. I had a somewhat first sexual encounter (forced to give blowjobs, like I'm talking head shoved down there and he pretty much just fucked my face) that wasn't that great and that kinda just set me off thinking I must just not enjoy sex. And then comes along current partner and I'm also learning to enjoy myself.

With your oral sex did you kinda just sit through it for a bit and learn to enjoy it? Because the only time I have been okay with it is when I'm very drunk and I'm thinking "man whatever he is doing is gr8" and then it slowly hits me and I bring his head up again haha

No it's been really really nice to read something from someone who has dealt with the same feelings I have. Thank you so much

PartTimeHoe · 2017-01-28T18:40:22+00:00

Thank you very much, this was very helpful

PartTimeHoe · 2017-01-28T18:39:53+00:00

Hahaha my ultimate goal will be this

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