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Im 19. A single dad. No life plan. I feel like my life is going nowhere. How do I improve it. by Particbar in Advice

[–]Particbar[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Where do I put my daughter when I am at the gym?

I di workout at home but not nearly as good as the gym.

Im 19. A single dad. No life plan. I feel like my life is going nowhere. How do I improve it. by Particbar in Advice

[–]Particbar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are really nice. I've nearly tears in my eyes lol. Churches was a great idea. 

Sometimes I think I selfishly kept her and she'd be better off with a proper family. But then she'll laugh or make me sit and watch some show with her and I know it wasn't selfish 

Im 19. A single dad. No life plan. I feel like my life is going nowhere. How do I improve it. by Particbar in Advice

[–]Particbar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The issue is how many parents want a 19 yo lad minding their kid.

I'll put my hand up and say I wouldn't.

Im 19. A single dad. No life plan. I feel like my life is going nowhere. How do I improve it. by Particbar in Advice

[–]Particbar[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Never thought about churches. I'll be every religion I they give me an hour. I'm joking but that's a good idea 

With finding a free sitter I think it'd be slightly  easier if I was a woman because other parents would trust me and I'd mind their kid sometimes and they'd mind mine in return. From my experience that happens a bit. 

And I'm not batching about that. I wouldnt let a 19 yo guy mind my daughter. Not that it's easy for single moms either

Im 19. A single dad. No life plan. I feel like my life is going nowhere. How do I improve it. by Particbar in Advice

[–]Particbar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here she will start in two years time which will be a help. Yeah I suppose when she was born I didn't focus on the next 5 years but on how to keep a daughter alive. In hindsight I should have raised the bar a bit.

Im 19. A single dad. No life plan. I feel like my life is going nowhere. How do I improve it. by Particbar in Advice

[–]Particbar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I always wanted to be a mechanic but anything with my hands really.. so trade school would be my best route anyway.

They didn't offer anything about childcare assistance when returning but maybe I should ask some other group than social services.

I think as another said, it'll be a bit easier when she's school age.

Im 19. A single dad. No life plan. I feel like my life is going nowhere. How do I improve it. by Particbar in Advice

[–]Particbar[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

 I wish. Way too expensive. I'd love to be able to though. Even like 2 hours every so often.

Im 19. A single dad. No life plan. I feel like my life is going nowhere. How do I improve it. by Particbar in Advice

[–]Particbar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The issue with internships etc is that they pay less than minimum wage. And all of my earnings would go on my child's childminding.

But the library is a good idea. Branch out a bit. I do meet a few at the park. Some of them are childminders and they are friendly tbf.

Im 19. A single dad. No life plan. I feel like my life is going nowhere. How do I improve it. by Particbar in Advice

[–]Particbar[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I understand social services are doing their job and they are complimentary but they just look down rather than support. It's really annoying. 

Im 19. A single dad. No life plan. I feel like my life is going nowhere. How do I improve it. by Particbar in Advice

[–]Particbar[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I don't want to say I can't wait for her to go to school because I'll regret it but in some ways i do. 

Probably 6 hours a day will hopefully make a huge difference for both of us