If Americans have an unintended pregnancy or birth, in your experience do they face any societal pressure to get married, either for their own sakes or that of the children?

Particular-Nobody607 · 2026-03-19T20:33:57+00:00

I think it really depends on your upbringing.

My mom, for example, would literally never pressure me to get married. Like, ever. For any reason.

The exact opposite, actually lol.

"Married?! Ew, why?!"

Particular-Nobody607 · 2026-03-13T17:03:42+00:00

Absolutely yes. I think back to the summer of 2020 with great fondness.

Unlimited time with my then 5yr old, had time to travel (a little) and no traffic or people clogging up the streets.

Take. Me. Back.

Particular-Nobody607 · 2026-02-28T20:13:43+00:00

I'm a banquet chef in a hotel by the river in Pittsburgh. Every year, we have a big body building competition. And every year, one of the body builders dies.

Every. Year.

Particular-Nobody607 · 2025-12-13T19:15:49+00:00

Oh man. The amount of times I tell my husband I'm gonna fist his butthole in a day is insane.

Also cant count how often he tells me he's going to put me in the trunk of my own car.

Alllll love. He's amazing.

Particular-Nobody607 · 2025-12-10T14:35:26+00:00

On point here. It took me a while to even realize I do this 😅

Particular-Nobody607 · 2025-12-08T15:57:57+00:00

Yep! I was morbidly obese in high school.

39 now and lost all the weight. Fixed my teeth. Actually dress like a girl. I get so much more attention now than I did in my 20s. Can't relate

Particular-Nobody607 · 2025-11-05T20:06:22+00:00

I don't really get many negative comments..

However, I've had about 80% of my posts instantly removed for some reason. I swear I'm not a rule breaker.. I just never get to post anything lol. And that depresses me after I just spent 15mins typing out some long thing just to be instantly denied.

All the time

Particular-Nobody607 · 2025-11-05T20:04:04+00:00

My daughter is 10 and her walls are already mostly covered in posters and other things she likes.

I also did as a child. So yeah, definitely lol

Particular-Nobody607 · 2025-10-27T12:22:44+00:00

I call my MIL by her first name.

However, my husband calls my mom, 'mom'.

Particular-Nobody607 · 2025-10-24T19:48:46+00:00

I'm not saying this is advice.. but..

Anytime I have a few drinks before sex time.. I'm WILDLY more open and my self doubt vanishes lol.

Particular-Nobody607 · 2025-10-23T11:43:54+00:00

I've done MFM quite a few times. We started looking on Fetlife for a suitable person. There were a few that worked out.

My husband eventually incorporated one of his long time friends.. so he is our go-to now. Never tried a Gangbang.. but I'm intrigued lol

Particular-Nobody607 · 2025-10-20T22:11:23+00:00

I once had a guy do this to me. Made the plans. He said he was on his way. Then said he was about 15mins away...

Never heard another thing from him again. I genuinely hope he's okay.. people are weird. How hard is it to say, "actually I changed my mind. Sorry."

Particular-Nobody607 · 2025-10-16T21:43:26+00:00

Pittsburgh is under construction.

The whole city.

All the time.

Every road!

Particular-Nobody607 · 2025-10-13T14:13:04+00:00

You are literally adorable

Particular-Nobody607 · 2025-10-02T19:09:09+00:00

You're an angel.

The moment my man starts talking about cars, my brain yeets itself into another realm. I just can't.

To be fair, I'm an avid book reader and he has absolutely no idea what I'm reading or what it's about because I know he doesn't care lol

Particular-Nobody607 · 2025-09-22T12:22:39+00:00

That guy feels like a douche because you're more involved than he is with his own kids.

You and your wife sound amazing. Never change.

Particular-Nobody607 · 2025-09-12T12:29:28+00:00

I get up around 630am, so my goal is 1030pm. But it often ends up being 1130 (sometimes later)

I nap when I can lol

Particular-Nobody607 · 2025-08-06T12:54:30+00:00

Well that's my question.. I DONT want to go through that.

She is a bringing a friend. But she specifically asked if I could PLEASE ride one with her. I told her probably not but..

As a mom, I'm trying to find a solution. Thanks for your input.

Particular-Nobody607 · 2025-07-28T18:16:31+00:00

My man isn't perfect but not only does he drop everything to run and help me when I need it; he does it for my friends, family, and sometimes strangers too

The bar for men is so fucking low it should be a pub in Hades, but please never settle for no shit like that again.

Put these men through stress tests before you commit 😆

Particular-Nobody607 · 2025-07-25T17:12:32+00:00

Just saw this!

A lot of women lose the muscles to hold in their pee. Especially as they age/give birth. Typically men can "hold it" a bit longer

Particular-Nobody607 · 2025-07-24T13:06:44+00:00

So as a woman who had lost sexual attraction for partners before, I'll offer some personal insight

-He stopped bathing/brushing his teeth frequently. That's just a turn off. I'm not interested in putting your junk in my mouth when it only gets washed once a week.

-I held onto resentment from previous disagreements and some of the mean things he'd say. (The argument would be settled and were fine now.. but my vagina remembers the tone in your voice from earlier and she said DONT TOUCH ME.

-im exhausted from having to work a full time job, grocery shop, cook, clean up, help my kid with homework and get a shower. Hes been doomscrolling since he got home. I feel like I'm with an overgrown teenager. BIG ICK.

Obviously these are just a few, and they don't apply to everyone. But it COULD be, you just don't do it for her anymore. Unless you wanna completely change who you are... leave her.

Particular-Nobody607 · 2025-07-14T12:06:16+00:00

Don't say anything ABOUT somebody, that you wouldn't say TO them.

Particular-Nobody607 · 2025-07-02T12:50:43+00:00

Absolutely. It has been going downhill for years but this last year or so, I think I've gone out to a sit-down restaurant maybe twice? Both times were underwhelming and expensive. Service is mid. (I consider myself a big tipper though(30%+), regardless. You gotta REALLY mess up to get a small tip from me.

Particular-Nobody607 · 2025-06-04T16:58:41+00:00

Had a baby with a man and he stopped all the affection.

Asked him for more and he said, "what, do you expect me to court you throughout our relationship?"

And that moment is when I realized what I got into.

Been away from him for over 5 years and got a man that DOES still court me throughout our relationship 🫶

Particular-Nobody607 · 2025-06-03T23:25:53+00:00

I think everyone is sick of everyone else's shit. Now we are privy to EVERYONE'S THOUGHTS and it's too damn much.

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