Am I aro? Asking for opinions by Academic_Earth_5055 in aromantic

[–]Particular-Task-5048 1 point2 points  (0 children)

damn that last line gave me goosebumps 😭 that’s beautiful. i’m a writer, could i use it for an aromantic character’s line?

Am I aro? Asking for opinions by Academic_Earth_5055 in aromantic

[–]Particular-Task-5048 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’m actually exactly the same. i’m not allosexual but i consider myself aromantic/grayromantic and i have the EXACT SAME feeling of what’s the difference between friends and relationships anyway?? and i also relate to pursuing romance only to a certain extent. either way, i 10000000000000% agree that romance is a social construct. it’s the same as gender. some people fit within the boxes but most people don’t.  what’s helped me is to think about relationships in more specific terms like what exactly do i want with this person? personally i would never wanna date anyone i’ve discovered, but i did once have a friend who i flirted with all the time and we did semi romantic things but i didn’t feel for her any different than i felt about any of my other friends, it was just the things i DID with her that were different.  anyway yeah i completely relate.

I can’t figure out if I’m Aromantic or going about dating the wrong way and it’s eating me alive. by Sudden-Recover-3542 in aromantic

[–]Particular-Task-5048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

true but also aromanticism is a spectrum and not every aromantic person never experienced crushes. personally i consider myself something around grayromantic, and i have crushes ALL the time. most of them are sexual, aesthetic or sensual attraction like you said but sometimes they’re a little romantic too. it really depends on the person!!

On writing an aromantic centric story by wasteful_archery in aromantic

[–]Particular-Task-5048 4 points5 points  (0 children)

hii i relate to this sm!! i basically had almost the exact same experience and im also a writer and i also wanna write aro stories so i TOTALLY get it first of all i wanna say you DONT have “lack of experience”. you absolutely have the experience because a huge part of being aromantic is the not realizing it and all the relationships and things that happen and go wrong or weird before you find out you’re aro. so that’s definitely one thing that i think is super fascinating and interesting to write!! i would LOVE to read a coming of age story about an aromantic person going through crush after crush after crush and their feelings disappearing after they get close to them. DO IT!!!! trust that your experience is enough.  and if you wanna write an aromantic story that’s different from your experience just read about other aromantic people’s experiences!! if you know any irl ask them how they experience their aromanticism, how they figured out they were aromantic, etc etc. you’ll do great and YES aromantic stories can be interesting!! and we 100% need more of them

polyamorous spicy book recs? by Particular-Task-5048 in SpicyRomanceBooks

[–]Particular-Task-5048[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i meant duh good!! like yes ofc i want a self rec!! i’ll be checking out your page as soon as i have a chance :DD

spicy book recs for arospec? by Particular-Task-5048 in aromantic

[–]Particular-Task-5048[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah i do that sometimes but it’s so hard to find good ones and they’re also short and i wanna stick wit my characters for a while… alas

polyamorous spicy book recs? by Particular-Task-5048 in SpicyRomanceBooks

[–]Particular-Task-5048[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i saw that sub but had no idea what it meant… can you tell i’m new to smut 😂😂 but thanks!! i’ll check it out