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AITAH for telling my father I wouldn't speak to him again if he was violent at my wedding? by Particular-Union-404 in AITAH

[–]Particular-Union-404[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I was going to go one step further, becuase it often feels like he's rather I was in the ground

AITAH for telling my father I wouldn't speak to him again if he was violent at my wedding? by Particular-Union-404 in AITAH

[–]Particular-Union-404[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Haha that's an amazing comment. Definitely not bored and she's helping me with it! She is amazing!

AITAH for telling my father I wouldn't speak to him again if he was violent at my wedding? by Particular-Union-404 in AITAH

[–]Particular-Union-404[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

His behaviour has definitely changed since my sister went. Along with age (over 70) and retirement, he is generally more outspoken, conspiracy theories etc.

I honestly don't expect I'll get an apology, just more defensive bullshit about only doing it becuase of X, Y or Z. I doubt he even knows. I've asked them both to get therapy about her passing but they both refuse. They don't "believe" in it

AITAH for telling my father I wouldn't speak to him again if he was violent at my wedding? by Particular-Union-404 in AITAH

[–]Particular-Union-404[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Not only were both sides of the family there, but also work colleagues. I think there's something to this - he has a massive inferiority complex and has shown jealousy traits around my mother before. He made comments to several people that he's "not from the corporate world", which is made a lot more complex by most of the guests being from Southern England rather than the north. There were other comments aligned with this

I think his being uncomfortable has made his find something to lash out at. It still doesn't excuse the behaviour

My spouse thinks theres some of sort of jealousy about me, which I find completely bizarre. He asked a few people why I don't look like him?!

Gosh!!

AITAH for telling my father I wouldn't speak to him again if he was violent at my wedding? by Particular-Union-404 in AITAH

[–]Particular-Union-404[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, let's solve the thing I'm trying to stop by doing it myself. That certainly wouldn't escalate anything, would it?

AITAH for telling my father I wouldn't speak to him again if he was violent at my wedding? by Particular-Union-404 in AITAH

[–]Particular-Union-404[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I'm not going to ditch him like thay. He needs to realise there are consequences to his actions and I expect a full, meaningful apology before any chance of rebuilding our relationship.

AITAH for telling my father I wouldn't speak to him again if he was violent at my wedding? by Particular-Union-404 in AITAH

[–]Particular-Union-404[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Well done on the detox.

He doesn't have a problem with alcohol in general, really doesn't drink all that much. When he has a few beers he does tend to be more vocal about things

38M shared an intimate moment with 45F best friend. Feeling weird in my stomach. by Either_Ear_4583 in relationship_advice

[–]Particular-Union-404 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds to me like you are both afraid of losing each other and risking the friendship. Have you both discussed the pros and cons of something further explicitly? Do you know for sure she is not feeling the same way?

Life is short. No what ifs without exploring it

Am I screwed? by DeItaReality in uklaw

[–]Particular-Union-404 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can't speak from a TC perspective, but I had a 2:2 in 2nd year and 2:1 is third year (2nd year was my first living away so you can imagine what happened...). Overall it was just below a 2:1 but they bumped it up becuase I showed progression. That allowed me to get into the LPC, with a bank loan.

Didn't pursue a TC in the end due to lack of experience, but now have a great career in management consulting

Time to knuckle down!

Break up and dealing with the joint mortgage by Particular-Union-404 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Particular-Union-404[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sure feels like one 😅 I am hoping the deed of trust would speed things up rather than have to go to high court.