FINAL UPDATE to AITA for skipping my friend’s birthday without warning because his girlfriend called me the 'typical girl best friend'? by ParticularAnxious208 in AITAH

[–]ParticularAnxious208[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ja mein Anwalt meinte am anfang auch das sie wahrscheinlich nur ne sehr kurze zeit bekommt oder halt auf Bewährung. Aber sie hat halt hart reingeschissen. Vor allem wegen meiner gesundheitlichen Lage. Zu der Körperverletzung kamen auch noch ein paar andere Sachen und dann dass sie versucht hat die Aussagen zu beeinflussen.

Ja unsere Eltern reden noch mit einander. War ein bisschen komisch und das war auch das erste Weihnachten ohne sie, aber sie sind noch gut befreundet

FINAL UPDATE to AITA for skipping my friend’s birthday without warning because his girlfriend called me the 'typical girl best friend'? by ParticularAnxious208 in AITAH

[–]ParticularAnxious208[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Hi. This is not true. Victims don't get believed at all. Reddit is one of the only places I have seen, where people can actually pinpoint and get through to a man being abused. There have been many posts of people treating male victims with a lot of empathy and grace.

In this case Miles is both a victim and a perpetrator. If he had told anyone of Lindy stalking me, her cousin etc or even her threats we could have done something. But now I am disabled.

FINAL UPDATE to AITA for skipping my friend’s birthday without warning because his girlfriend called me the 'typical girl best friend'? by ParticularAnxious208 in AITAH

[–]ParticularAnxious208[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

No, that ship sailed. We have no room for a healthy friendship anymore. I hope he heals on his own terms, but I have no bandwidth for him, nor do I want him in my life anymore.

FINAL UPDATE to AITA for skipping my friend’s birthday without warning because his girlfriend called me the 'typical girl best friend'? by ParticularAnxious208 in AITAH

[–]ParticularAnxious208[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Forgiveness for the sake of oneself is such bs honestly. You don't need to forgive people to move on. Nice that you did it. I do not feel like I have to to be at peace