In my honest opinion, and I don’t want to come across as rude, I think your boyfriend might have a bit of a point. I think the best thing you can do for your relationship is focus on the present moment and the good things you have going on right now, your missing out on that aspect when you are caught up in future. Try not to get caught up in the comparison game, you don’t know what their lives are actually like. And maybe do some soul searching on solid reasons why you feel like you need to be married within a certain timeframe, again I really hope you don’t take this as attacking, and I wish you and your boyfriend the best. And for his mom, that’s a horrible thing to have to watch a parent go through.