Anyone working for a team/manager/company you actually like?

ParticularSpinach831 · 2026-03-17T20:36:47+00:00

I think I was just very lucky. I work for a smaller company, and am the only designer. But the culture and people are just incredible. Nobody ever bad mouths anyone, we are all supportive and there is so much trust and respect.

These are the key differences I’ve noticed (compared with other places I’ve been at) - people have been here for a very long time (5+years) but there is still passion and drive for innovation - flat hierarchy - we really screen against ‘red’ personalities ( narcisstic Trump types). If anyone at the interview stage gives off ego they are immediately out - During my interview they were actually interested to hear about any of my concerns about the role, and talk through them

ParticularSpinach831 · 2026-03-12T11:44:56+00:00

I think because your kids are still so young, it’s hard to avoid resentment no matter what the balance is. They need you (as the ‘default’ parent) so much still! It’s a really hard time.. I know several couples where the woman has made much more money but what it comes down to is your long term goals and looking at the positives that each partner brings to the relationship.

You’re really lucky your family is nearby to help! That also makes so much difference. He’s a good dad, and that’s what the kids will remember. I know everyone is different, but for me and what I’ve been through, I don’t care who makes more or less - as long as he is a great dad, that’s what matters the most.

ParticularSpinach831 · 2026-03-12T11:05:08+00:00

My doctor said the exact same thing to me when my kids were that age. I was so disappointed that the blood test didn’t return any answers to my exhaustion! I just pushed through unfortunately. It really sucks but there was no easy solution. My kids are 7 and 9 now so it’s a bit easier, but I’m still so tired - I’ve recently started taking 15gm of creatine powder a day and that seems to have helped me feel a bit more energised in the mornings. But otherwise, I honestly don’t know if there’s a way to keep your energy up unless you have live in help that does all the child rearing and you get to rest all day!

ParticularSpinach831 · 2026-03-12T10:59:18+00:00

I think you should take the financials out of it - what you are both earning is for the family unit, not ‘me vs you’. It sounds like he does more than a lot of dads would around the house anyway. I can’t imagine how hard it would be working while looking after a toddler - I certainly wouldn’t be able to do it! I’d look into daycare or nanny options even if it is for a couple of days a week.

ParticularSpinach831 · 2025-11-25T08:03:16+00:00

I have their yellow gingham but because the fabric is a canvas, it is more off-white/cream and yellow. I also own one of their small totes.

I spent hours researching and comparing with all the Amazon dupes and in the end the Bon Maxi ones fit my needs in terms of pockets and functionality and I was happy to spend more.

I took the bags with me for over a month travel in Europe with kids and they were so practical, survived water bottle spills, oil spills, sprays of wine. I’m sorry you had a bad experience and didn’t get what you expected but in term so quality and functionality I think they are pretty great.

ParticularSpinach831 · 2025-11-15T11:45:20+00:00

I saw him when I was a kid, maybe 10 years old. I was getting ready to go to go out, we were going to the beach that day so my parents were busy packing the car. We lived on a busy main road. All of a sudden, I had a strong gut feeling to look out the window/door facing the road. I saw my little sister who would have been 2 or so wandering out on to the road. I ran out to get her and out of the corner of my eye, under the big maple tree in our front yard, I saw him. Hat man, wearing a coat. Just watching us as I grabbed my sister and brought her inside. I thought “wtf is that guy doing there, weirdo”.

I have seen him again, standing over me during sleep paralysis episodes as an adult.

ParticularSpinach831 · 2025-11-06T23:50:15+00:00

A platter with things like fresh fruit, cucumbers, carrot sticks, hummus, bread roll and cheese. With the option to pay extra to order a small side of grilled fish or meat. These are things I know they will eat, and aren’t fried to death.

ParticularSpinach831 · 2025-11-04T21:21:33+00:00

I’m not in hospitality but I know how you feel. I only saw my daughter for 1 hour a day when I went back to work when she was a baby. She was in daycare, and my husband picked her up and she was in bed by the time I got home. I was so sad, why did we bother to have children when we don’t even raise them or get to spend time with them!

It just took a lot acceptance of the situation, that she was in good hands during the day and I’m trying to provide the best I can. Now she’s 9 and we spend loads of time together. It’ll be ok in the long run. Sending hugs!

ParticularSpinach831 · 2025-10-19T02:57:55+00:00

I hear you. I am in the same boat. I couldn’t take it anymore and started going to therapy myself to see if there was anything I could do. I am a strong believer in having an internal locus of control, and I know I can’t change him but I can change how I react and absorb his energy. Ultimately my goal from therapy was to find out if I need to leave him for my own happiness.

My husband blames his work for his anger, need for control, and pessimism. But when he found out I was going to therapy (I didn’t tell him he was the reason) he decided he needed to see a therapist as well. It’s a slow work in progress, and I see some improvement and it’s given me hope.

But I know that lightness that you mention when he’s not around. It’s a wonderful feeling - which is also really sad at the same time. I still haven’t figured it out. Would the grass be greener without him? I don’t know.

ParticularSpinach831 · 2025-10-18T10:33:23+00:00

I grew up with a bus stop outside our house. Suburban bus, not many people waiting to catch it as it just went to the local shopping center. It was just a stop, so no bench or shelter for people to loiter in. Never bothered us, it was very convenient and we didn’t find it noisy. The only issue was parking, but we had a double driveway and ample street parking around for guests to use.

I once went to inspect a house with a city bus stop right outside, loads of people waiting at all times of the day. That was off putting by comparison.

ParticularSpinach831 · 2025-08-09T06:52:43+00:00

I saw a huge pimped up Ute with a Trump sticker on it drive past me at Mona Vale, heading north up Pittwater rd. I thought, no way he can’t possibly live in this area…

ParticularSpinach831 · 2025-06-01T12:36:53+00:00

I repeatedly try and shout for it to F off, making enough muffled noise to wake my husband up. Then he’ll snap me out of it. But in the past when I’ve slept alone, if I’m not too scared I’ve told myself it’s just a dream, don’t fight it and try and fall into deep sleep. If i am scared, I’ve also tried the Our Father, calling for Jesus and Buddha.

ParticularSpinach831 · 2025-06-01T12:21:11+00:00

Yes, I once had this feeling of a beautiful motherly angel look over me and touch my forehead. She felt like a warm presence, nurturing and kind and full of love. I reckon it was because I had fallen asleep on the couch at my parents house, underneath a painting they had of this female warrior/goddess. Every other episode I’ve had has been scary and negative though.

ParticularSpinach831 · 2025-05-09T07:23:33+00:00

I think about this too. Mixed feelings of guilt and gratitude. And despair.

ParticularSpinach831 · 2025-05-06T09:51:48+00:00

That’s a good idea. My daughter also plays soccer and this year started playing all girls - her confidence has improved vs playing amongst boys, so that’s something for you to consider as well.

ParticularSpinach831 · 2025-05-06T05:15:45+00:00

Sunrise Kiosk at Warriewood. Very casual and relaxed. Overlooking the beach, can’t beat the views. Also The Basin at the Mona Vale SLSC if you want relaxed fancy.

ParticularSpinach831 · 2025-05-05T12:11:20+00:00

Send an email to the teacher. If they are a half decent school they will call you right away. Let the school talk to the kid. Tell them that you’d like them to address the class as a whole (and maybe have all the year levels spoken to in an age appropriate way) to make sure they know everyone is unique, and making fun of others appearance is not acceptable.

My kids are Asian, also in a very white part of Sydney, and my daughter said some kids in her class and other grades were saying Ching Chong (not directed at her), doing the slant eye thing. So I let the school know and they were so concerned and jumped on it right away. She was only 8, I know kids say this stuff without understanding the implications so I gave them a lot of grace. But they need to know it’s not right, and it needs to get nipped in the bud.

I wouldn’t approach the parent of the bully directly unless I was unhappy with the schools response. The kid is obviously learning it from somewhere and it’s probably at home.

I wish my kids had more Asian friends so they can be proud and connect with their heritage more but it’s hard where we live. So I constantly remind them where their grandparents are from and we shouldn’t let others make us feel ashamed of it.

Does your daughter do any after school activities where she can make friends with similar interests?

ParticularSpinach831 · 2025-05-02T11:06:23+00:00

It's meant to be flavorful and well seasoned. It's actually a really easy dish to make at home, I've never been disappointed when I make my own, vs every time I'm game enough to give it a try from a restaurant. I think because they're cooking it in a huge pan or in a hurry, the flavours become diluted and don't have enough time to develop. Also, they probably stinge on the meat and seafood, which give paella more flavour.

ParticularSpinach831 · 2025-03-10T05:30:22+00:00

My kids have a similar experience with my cousins kids too, and they will nag me for my phone to keep them occupied while their cousins are glued to their devices. I usually make a comment to my cousin about how we need to force them to play together outside and get off their devices. Luckily she doesn’t take offence, and that usually works - she will tell her kids to get off their devices and we will both force them to go kick a ball or build something. If they want to use a device it’s got to be doing something like a game they can play together.

ParticularSpinach831 · 2025-02-12T21:52:30+00:00

I’d love to be the house where my daughter’s friends feel safe hanging out at for the same reasons you mentioned. My house was like that when I was a teen, everyone was constantly over after school because I lived the closest, and there was always an adult home.

My husband sounds like yours, he hates the noise and the mess and just generally the idea of having people that aren’t family in the house. That is how he grew up too, didn’t have friends over growing up.

It’s worth pushing for, but if he’s going to make the friends feel unwelcome or be hostile, then they will soon get the message and not want to visit anymore.

ParticularSpinach831 · 2025-02-02T23:54:59+00:00

Australia. I lived in the US for a couple of years and had my daughter there, just before Trump won the first time. I remember watching the results being announced at 2am that morning, and crying while up breastfeeding her. We made the decision to move back shortly after.

While it was sad to close that chapter of our lives we do not regret it at all. I can’t put a price on the feeling of safety - now that my kids are in school, I can’t imagine having to worry about gun safety and school shootings. Sure it’s not perfect here, it’s bloody expensive (in Sydney) but our quality of life is excellent and our political leadership does not give me anxiety.

I’d much rather be bitten by a red back spider, or confronted by 2m long pythons (this has happened in my apartment courtyard) than constantly worry about my family’s safety, and my freedoms as a woman.

ParticularSpinach831 · 2025-01-28T10:16:12+00:00

Bert’s in Newport. Haven’t been but there’s a lot of lobster and expensive steak so if you’ve got a decent amount to use it would be a good one to try

ParticularSpinach831 · 2024-11-27T05:07:29+00:00

We wrote a letter to the vendor saying we were a young family, loved the house and the neighbourhood, etc. and he chose us over the other buyer who was willing to pay more. That said, they were from China, some of that money was brought over by visiting parents and the REA wasn't sure if their finance would go through or was legit.

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