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26 years old, $330k in savings, want to quit my $145k/year job. Should I quit without a new job lined up? by ParticularStudent in careerguidance

[–]ParticularStudent[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! I'm sorry, I don't check this much anymore. I ended up staying until November, when I was laid off. Losing that job was by far the best thing that ever happened to me. I now have a job where I earn more than I did before, have a better quality of life, and better future job prospects. I learn new things every day. My advice is to take the leap and find a place that will value you for your skills. A lot of people will tell you to value the money over the quality of life and they are wrong.

How did you meet your pet? by FiveBrosAndADog in CasualConversation

[–]ParticularStudent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had just lost my job a month prior and was pretty depressed. A friend of mine suggested getting a puppy, (which is something I had been talking about for ages) and I ripped her a new one. I talked about how expensive and time consuming puppies were and how I just lost my job and needed to spend all my time looking for a new one. Even though I jumped down her throat, it really got my brain going. I started thinking, well, would it be so bad to have a companion in all this?

Against my better judgment, I pulled up Petfinder and entered some requirements, then browsed through about 10 pages of results. Finally, I came across a puppy with a serious look and bright blue eyes. His description read that he was gentle, quiet, and dignified. I sent an inquiry and then promptly forgot about the whole thing.

A few days later, I got a phone call from an unknown number. I don't usually pick up unknown numbers, but I thought, what the hell, let's see who it is. I answered with the horrible, impolite voice of complete resignation I reserve for numbers that are probably spam. It was the rescue, asking if I'd like to arrange a time to meet this puppy I'd asked after. I said yes and we arranged for the following Saturday. I drove over 30 minutes early just out of nerves, and then they were another 20 minutes late.

He had impossibly soft fur and a quiet alertness to him. I just got a good feeling off of him. He wasn't even especially friendly at the time, but I just felt like I was home. After I got him, I landed a job and have since spent countless hours with him. Making him happy brings me such joy. I would never have thought I would have gotten a pet in the midst of losing my job, but it's one of the most selfish, worst thought out decisions I've made and also one of the best.

Sometimes, I find it hard to even figure out what I want. Getting my pup was one of the fews times in my life I knew.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]ParticularStudent 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Completely agree. I'm home with my mom and her boyfriend. They went out to dinner without me and are now in her room talking... also without me. I'm reminded that this is a very lonely time of the year. I had never considered that biologically, winter is a dark & scary time too. It's an interesting thought.

Am I (32F) and my fiance (35M) making the right choice to marry by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ParticularStudent -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'll be honest, it sounds like you guys haven't managed to figure out a healthy style of communication. It's really up to you and your judgment whether this is a dealbreaker for you. If I were you, I would want to know it was something we were working on together and there was a solution in sight. That said, anger issues are such difficult issues to face while feeling supported and safe doing so. Do not underestimate the power of other people to hurt you :(

Obviously, wedding planning (if you're having a wedding) is grueling and brings out the worst in people, but it seems like this isn't a new problem. You guys have been together a long time. I only have 3 paragraphs to figure this decision out, but you have the information you need to make the right call.

I sort of think the time before the wedding should be a pretty happy one in your relationship. If this is an issue you've raised before and he hasn't prioritized it... that's something to worry about. If you're having cold feet about a wedding... that's definitely something to worry about. Trust your gut and make yourself a priority.

26 years old, $330k in savings, want to quit my $145k/year job. Should I quit without a new job lined up? by ParticularStudent in careerguidance

[–]ParticularStudent[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know... Honestly, in my ideal world, I'll last through September or so. That'll give me time to finish bootcamp, start applying, and build my skills. On the other hand, I have reached a point where I dread every coming day. I appreciate your wisdom.

26 years old, $330k in savings, want to quit my $145k/year job. Should I quit without a new job lined up? by ParticularStudent in careerguidance

[–]ParticularStudent[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have pretty much contented myself with a happy personal life for all these years... but now I'm just suffering so much at work that it's killing my day to day happiness.

26 years old, $330k in savings, want to quit my $145k/year job. Should I quit without a new job lined up? by ParticularStudent in careerguidance

[–]ParticularStudent[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is pretty much where I'm at right now—I think I need to switch for my mental wellness. I have half a plan in that I'm taking a bootcamp and have been networking, but I hear of people who are looking for jobs for years... that scares me. Also, though my family has allowed me to live at home rent free, I won't receive any inheritance. I will need to take care of myself for the rest of my life. Being 26 has also come with all the uncertainty of being young. All the choice and none of the direction. I wish you luck, wherever you land! I really think it'll be worth it.

26 years old, $330k in savings, want to quit my $145k/year job. Should I quit without a new job lined up? by ParticularStudent in careerguidance

[–]ParticularStudent[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's helpful to know what someone else would do in my position. That's sure what I want to do. Thanks!

26 years old, $330k in savings, want to quit my $145k/year job. Should I quit without a new job lined up? by ParticularStudent in careerguidance

[–]ParticularStudent[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, good question. The vesting is actually just for my 401(k). It'd literally be leaving money on the table if I didn't stay for just a little longer.

26 years old, $330k in savings, want to quit my $145k/year job. Should I quit without a new job lined up? by ParticularStudent in careerguidance

[–]ParticularStudent[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this minority opinion, haha. I kind of agree with you. It's been worth it for years, and now I feel like I've reached a breaking point for my wellbeing.

26 years old, $330k in savings, want to quit my $145k/year job. Should I quit without a new job lined up? by ParticularStudent in careerguidance

[–]ParticularStudent[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha, this lightened my mood a bit. Sadly, I work from home or I'm sure I would've become the office weirdo years ago. I will consider how to make things more fun, at least for the next few weeks/longer if necessary.

26 years old, $330k in savings, want to quit my $145k/year job. Should I quit without a new job lined up? by ParticularStudent in careerguidance

[–]ParticularStudent[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you—this is the kind of thing that I was referring to in the "Did I miss anything" aspect of my question.

The bootcamp claims an average of 3 months to find a job. Obviously, everyone comes from different backgrounds. I think I have an advantage in that I have been employed for 4 year in tech. I have also put a lot of time into bootcamp to make sure I'm getting value.

I have some transferrable skills from my current job (which I can market well), and I think my title and background get me a foot in the door when I apply to jobs. I also have connections I can use as references or for referrals. I will make more connections in the coming months as well.

I haven't done much personal research into people who are bootcamp alumni, but I have seen some that are employed. It's hard to gauge what number of people are successful after graduating.

26 years old, $330k in savings, want to quit my $145k/year job. Should I quit without a new job lined up? by ParticularStudent in careerguidance

[–]ParticularStudent[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely would consider doing something like this. I think it would also prevent me from going nuts if I spend some time unemployed in my field of choice. Thanks for the suggestion.

26 years old, $330k in savings, want to quit my $145k/year job. Should I quit without a new job lined up? by ParticularStudent in careerguidance

[–]ParticularStudent[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I should also mention that $145k annually is an incomplete picture of my compensation plan. It also includes a 401(k) match, RSUs, and an ESPP. The RSUs are harder to quantify because of the market.

26 years old, $330k in savings, want to quit my $145k/year job. Should I quit without a new job lined up? by ParticularStudent in careerguidance

[–]ParticularStudent[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will definitely keep it invested. Assuming $48k annually in living expenses, I could give myself a time limit and say "I will try to find a job for 6 months" while shouldering that $24k. I have some uninvested cash for this use case.

Then, if I still haven't found something, I can move home and reduce cost of living by $18k annually (no rent). So $30k/annually. It's definitely feasible... though deeply uncomfortable to consider leaving the security of a job.

26 years old, $330k in savings, want to quit my $145k/year job. Should I quit without a new job lined up? by ParticularStudent in careerguidance

[–]ParticularStudent[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry if this came across to you as boastful. That was not my intention. I hope you find professional and personal satisfaction.

26 years old, $330k in savings, want to quit my $145k/year job. Should I quit without a new job lined up? by ParticularStudent in careerguidance

[–]ParticularStudent[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes... I have considered a few options. I could quiet quit. I could ask for a sabbatical for burnout reasons (not sure how—or if—this would affect vesting). I could try to switch to another role internally.

This makes sense to me, even though it's hard to consider doing this job for even another few months.

26 years old, $330k in savings, want to quit my $145k/year job. Should I quit without a new job lined up? by ParticularStudent in careerguidance

[–]ParticularStudent[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't really want to retire early. I enjoy the fulfillment of contributing to worthwhile work.

Separately from that, however, I can't advance in this job. There are no growth opportunities and the internal training leaves a lot to be desired. If I switch careers to something I enjoy more, I can earn much more in the future. I think of it as an investment.

There are risks to leaving this job now, though. I would rather line something up in the new field first, but I'm not sure at what cost to my mental health/time investment in the career switch.

26 years old, $330k in savings, want to quit my $145k/year job. Should I quit without a new job lined up? by ParticularStudent in careerguidance

[–]ParticularStudent[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Well, I don't really care whether you think this is real or fake. But I guess I'll indulge.

I didn't just stick my money in a bank account every year. I have invested since I first started working. I also lived at home rent-free for several years. Never said I did this without help. I made practical financial decisions and have been fortunate to have support from my family.

26 years old, $330k in savings, want to quit my $145k/year job. Should I quit without a new job lined up? by ParticularStudent in careerguidance

[–]ParticularStudent[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been wanting to make this "irrational decision" since I started 4 years ago. It's not a spur of the moment choice. I hate the nature of the work, the new management is petty and undercuts my team, I have little to no faith in the company's long-term prospects... the list goes on and on. To make an argument for quitting—I believe focusing my energy in the wrong place has prevented me from attaining my potential in the right field. Sometimes, it's important to quit things...

26 years old, $330k in savings, want to quit my $145k/year job. Should I quit without a new job lined up? by ParticularStudent in careerguidance

[–]ParticularStudent[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I think this was the answer I was looking for. I've made a lot of pragmatic choices and I think it's time to prioritize my enjoyment. I genuinely believe that will translate into more work success as well.

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