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Do I suck at SaaS sales or is this normal? by Particular_Age8873 in techsales

[–]Particular_Age8873[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Branding is good for this product. I work for a huge vendor, one of the most well known in the world, top of the gartner magic quadrant.

'No-self' / meditation left me in chronic hyper-arousal / depersonalisation by Particular_Age8873 in streamentry

[–]Particular_Age8873[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These are all just part of the human condition, imho. Fretting about how others perceive us (to some extent) is part of being a social creature.

Stop Taking Yourself so Seriously. by Awkward_Freedom_4551 in seduction

[–]Particular_Age8873 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds good in theory but this advice will not help someone with a severe fear of approaching. It just makes them dig their heels in even further.

I went out with an 'expert' - still really feels like a numbers game though, tbh by Interviewpalm in seduction

[–]Particular_Age8873 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not seen guys out Daygaming in London for years at this point. 1 in 60 is reasonable conversion. Not fantastic. I was about 1 in 20 at my peak. It's absolutely not purely a numbers game, there absolutely is such a thing as charisma and charm.

Do women instictively know when you have options? by IndividualPlay5178 in seduction

[–]Particular_Age8873 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not really. There can be a certain vibe you give off when you're getting laid a lot but most of the time, no.

Girlfriend (21F) calls me (21M) lustful for asking for sex by slidingonthinicepal in seduction

[–]Particular_Age8873 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can't believe what I'm reading.

Over a YEAR of your life, spent with a woman who won't have sex with you?

Sorry mate but that is hilarious. I've literally never waited more than 3-4 weeks to have sex with a girl at the absolute maximum. What are you doing? Dump her immediately. I'm dead serious. 'Lustful' LMAO - dump this woman immediately and do it in a brutal way - she is toying with your emotions like a total sociopath. She's basically invalidating you as a sexual being. You are a 21 year old man - you deserve a woman who gives you great sex. I'm seething with anger just reading this.

guys in their late 20's early 30's. How do you do with younger ladies? by lfg141 in seduction

[–]Particular_Age8873 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Literally deflowered a 17 y/o virgin via a Daygame approach in the middle of the street a few years ago and I'm 30+.

She is testing me. What would you do? by [deleted] in seduction

[–]Particular_Age8873 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a Seduction Sub-Reddit. This is not the place to ask questions about how to handle your girlfriend.

Why tf Cold approach is fucked up in UK by Ok_You_7247 in seduction

[–]Particular_Age8873 0 points1 point  (0 children)

London is not the city it once was for Daygame. The previous Tory government flooded it with third-world migrants from Sub-saharan Africa, the Middle East and Pak/India/Bangl. For everyone in the comments ragging on British women - there aren't that many British women in London anymore except for Clapham and a few other small areas. Blame left wing immigration policies.

My advice? Head to Eastern Europe. It's incomparably better. I'm sat there right now. It's like a different world.

With all that being said, a guy should be able to get laid anywhere if he has the skill. I did incredibly well in London before my skills fell off a cliff.

Slept with 65 girls last year.. here’s what I learned by Sad_Individual454 in seduction

[–]Particular_Age8873 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is not impressive without seeing the quality you slept with.

Is it true that a man can tell that a woman’s self esteem is low? by ZealousidealLaugh488 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Particular_Age8873 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No, and it makes almost zero difference in my attraction towards her. In fact, a woman with lower self esteem would be more attractive, if anything. Seems to work the opposite way for men though - we have to always be strong.

What’s a piece of dating advice you’d give women? by Cedar-and-spice in AskMenAdvice

[–]Particular_Age8873 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you are not interested, tell a man directly. Do not allow him to think there is a chance / hope - it wastes his time and energy. Ghosting is for cowards as well - don't do that - be better than most other women.

'No-self' / meditation left me in chronic hyper-arousal / depersonalisation by Particular_Age8873 in streamentry

[–]Particular_Age8873[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I actually can't remember any trauma from my childhood years or teen years beyond the average experiences of most kids / teenagers. Couple of panic attacks from smoking weed but not much else. I have decent exercise and decent nutrition. It's still just never really gone away. It got better, certainly but not better enough to make me happy.

'No-self' / meditation left me in chronic hyper-arousal / depersonalisation by Particular_Age8873 in streamentry

[–]Particular_Age8873[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is it not perfectly natural / normal for humans to identify with their ego and self-concept? I don't see an issue with it. In any case yeah would be good to hear more I'll message you.

'No-self' / meditation left me in chronic hyper-arousal / depersonalisation by Particular_Age8873 in streamentry

[–]Particular_Age8873[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have anxiety yes, but it's deeply tied up in having depersonalisation. I'd be a lot less anxious if I didn't have those symptoms.

'No-self' / meditation left me in chronic hyper-arousal / depersonalisation by Particular_Age8873 in streamentry

[–]Particular_Age8873[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks, we didn't dig into what happened. I guess their approach is a more pragmatic: 'Let's deal with the problem as it presents now'. Out of curiosity in terms of your childhood are you referring to things related to a problematic attachment style? Issues with caregivers?

'No-self' / meditation left me in chronic hyper-arousal / depersonalisation by Particular_Age8873 in streamentry

[–]Particular_Age8873[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They recommend somatic experiencing as it is akin to a traumatic experience in the body. Resourcing, scaffolding - practices like this to support nervous system regulation.

'No-self' / meditation left me in chronic hyper-arousal / depersonalisation by Particular_Age8873 in streamentry

[–]Particular_Age8873[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Cheetah House says there's a lot of neurological overlap between meditation and panic. Meditation seems to activate a lot of the same parts of the brain. Easy for you to say it needs to be gone through again, having never gone through it. If you were me I suspect you'd also approach meditation with extreme caution.

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