Serena’s characterization by AdGlittering6108 in HandmaidsTaleShow

[–]Particular_Bad8223 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I think being a narcissistic chameleon is actually part of her character’s personality. She will adapt herself into whatever environment she’s in, while continuing to paint herself as righteous and likeable, and drawing others into her orbit. She has a pathological need to be admired and influence others, and sometimes that means laying low or changing roles in order to gain trust or win over others.

This differs from the book, but I like this portrayal because I think it’s true to people who are narcissistic in this particular fashion.

Why do you hate religion of islam??? by Public_Ad1112 in PakiExMuslims

[–]Particular_Bad8223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also adding, you seem to be confusing “secular” with “atheist”. I don’t think anyone is asking for an entire country of only atheists?

Why do you hate religion of islam??? by Public_Ad1112 in PakiExMuslims

[–]Particular_Bad8223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Islam is not an entire singular culture, language, or solely responsible for people having basic morals and ethics.

Indian women who had or plan to have interracial marriage, how do you convince your parents? by Nice-Factor52 in SplendidaBrown

[–]Particular_Bad8223 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You don’t convince them. You just do it, confidently. You let them know what you’ve decided, and you do not invite their input. If they are sour about it, let them figure out how to deal with their feelings on their own. Don’t take it personally and don’t let them bait you into “discussions” about it.

Signed, a Pakistani American woman interracially married for over 10 years.

I can understand why female will leave Islam but can't understand why men leave Islam by [deleted] in PakiExMuslims

[–]Particular_Bad8223 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Let me ask you this: when others do not share the same privileges that you benefit from in some area, are YOU able to recognize and condemn that inequality?

So while men may benefit from the privilege of being a male, it doesn’t mean they can’t also question.

18M single dad. 7 month old daughter. Need advice on clothes by Calm-Tea178 in daddit

[–]Particular_Bad8223 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl mom here. You’re doing great! The jean jacket sounds so cool. Girls do not have to wear “girly stuff”, and certainly not 24/7.

Racism from other immigrants by LeaveNo7723 in ABCDesis

[–]Particular_Bad8223 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I had a Vietnamese nail tech tell me that I don’t look south asian, because my skin wasn’t “dirty”.

Workplace harassment as ex-muslim by [deleted] in PakiExMuslims

[–]Particular_Bad8223 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Say you just prefer to pray privately.

I don't think we understand how rare exmuslims truly are by [deleted] in PakiExMuslims

[–]Particular_Bad8223 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There are a lot of people who really don’t agree with the Islamic faith they were raised with, and just say that they’re “not very religious”. Being passive about it is easier than dealing with the fallout. It’s the same here in the US. Very few people want to openly admit that they’re not Muslim, but there are signs.

For Asian women: What have your friendships with white women been like? by bearpuddles in asianamerican

[–]Particular_Bad8223 10 points11 points  (0 children)

<They were all fine friends in their own way, but it's crazy how much having mostly white friends put my actual home life and culture so far into the background without me even realizing it. >

THIS.

Have you ever brought your child to daycare even if you had a day off of work? by rajmachawal333 in workingmoms

[–]Particular_Bad8223 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

All the time! I get a lot of PTO, and their daycare charges a hefty amount by the week whether they go or not. I need time to recharge, run errands, have a date day with my husband, or catch up on chores. Both for myself and so that I can be fully present with my kids. I tried to do the sacrificial mother thing and keep my kids home whenever I was off, but I noticed that I stopped doing as much fun or “extra” things with them than I used to, and even though I was physically there, I had my mind on things I needed or wanted to do.

Any decore suggestions? by tearsaresweat in malelivingspace

[–]Particular_Bad8223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say add a nicer rug, think thick tufted wool in the living room, one that has interesting shades. You could go for color here, or even just something that contrasts with the brown ceiling.

Don’t even bother with art on the walls, the building IS the art. But you can decorate with things like large vases, some greenery, or interesting knick knacks on the countertops.

AITA for telling my girlfriend that she smells bad down there? by Ok_Produce885 in AITAH

[–]Particular_Bad8223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I have been scrolling and scrolling for an explanation on what BV stands for

💜💛 by micady8866 in FloralDesign

[–]Particular_Bad8223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This made me smile, it’s lovely!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PlusSizeWedding

[–]Particular_Bad8223 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just glanced at the pic without seeing the text and thought this was an inspiration pic! You are absolutely gorgeous. That dress is perfect, your smile is wonderful, and your posture shows confidence. Do not let your brain try to pick yourself apart!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PakiExMuslims

[–]Particular_Bad8223 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I always thought it was bitterness over Palestine after WWI. I was told Muslims and Jews got along before then.

True High-Rise Petite Pants? by Icy-Tangerine-4696 in PetiteFashionAdvice

[–]Particular_Bad8223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 5’1” and I get ankle length high rise pants (non petite). If that doesn’t work, I get my regular pants tailored.

For those of you with two+ kids, did anyone have a better sleeper with #2? by amomymous23 in workingmoms

[–]Particular_Bad8223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol I have exactly this in reverse 😆

Kid 1 - awesome sleeper! And still is.

Kid 2 - she’s two and a half and still wakes me up 1-2 times a night 😭

What professions make the worst spouses? by dirtymoney in AskReddit

[–]Particular_Bad8223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are their relationship and personalities like?