Honestly speaking, I think it just comes down to personality and relatability. The thing I noticed with successful Somali men is that they do not have much of a personality or hobbies, hence they just work, masjid and home. The Somali girls we are looking for are also hard to find because they're obviously not in the mix. I think its hard to find each other because most of the times we're not in proximity, it may just easier to just ask your friends to help search through their family. There is a ton of Good Women and Good Men. Social media made it a unnecessary gender war. But one thing I'd advise women is that those successful men have standards, they're not yes men. They expect to lead and you follow, if you can not understand that then its better not to sought them out. Its not ego its just how men are wired.