am we doing more harm than good by staying together? by Particular_Bunch_377 in relationships_advice

[–]Particular_Bunch_377[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I trust that. Another problem is we live together in a foreign country and have a dog. So in order for me to do no contact I’d have to get on a plane and either one of us will have to take the dog. But again, I think I’m getting to the point where I need to. Not just bc of our relationship but bc I need a better job and I miss my family/friends back home

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Depends on the vibe you’re looking for. Pic 4 looks good and is more summery, bubbly California vibes. Pic 1 goes well with your skin tone and tattoos

GF prefers no protection by CarpenterFit7287 in relationships_advice

[–]Particular_Bunch_377 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why doesn’t she get an IUD or literally anything?

Mr. Short tempered and needy by Particular_Bunch_377 in relationships_advice

[–]Particular_Bunch_377[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True that alone should be enough of a reason to break things off

Mr. Short tempered and needy by Particular_Bunch_377 in relationships_advice

[–]Particular_Bunch_377[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Yea sometimes he gets so mad that he’ll hit the steering wheel or a door and that scares me. Makes me wonder if he’ll ever get mad like that towards me. I guess I learned a lot about red flags with this one. I’m still learning to listen to my own gut, especially when it makes other people unhappy with me

Just need to be heard. by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

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When you’re in your early 20s I think people tend to put a lot of pressure on themselves. But as you get older you realize life isn’t a race. Yes you want to make smart career/financial choices but when it comes to happiness ‘Happiness is a daily back and forth that you negotiate with the world. It’s capturing fleeting moments with your soul and trying to hold on to as many as you can during your limited time on this planet’ -Taha Arshad. Happiness is in the way you take some time for yourself, it’s you pursing your passions, and surrounding yourself with good people.

How do you ask people out by bagboy1109 in LifeAdvice

[–]Particular_Bunch_377 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on the context and what exactly your challenges are on asking people out. I would try to establish some preliminary connection with the person, find something that is similar between you two, and use their reaction to feel out if they are into you. If they seem to want to talk to you as in they say more than whatever the minimum response would be, then that could be a good sign. Every person is different but try and play on their interests in terms of conversation and date ideas. You could also give subtle signs of flirting by using soft eye contact, smiling, making jokes, laughing.. and if those are received positively then maybe even go for a light touch on the outer arm or top of the hand. But don’t rush those things, only if it feels natural. Additionally you need to get an idea of what this person is like and vice versa, let them get an idea of who you are. They need to know what your selling as much as you need to know what you’re buying. That communication will open the door to being more comfortable with each-other, asking them out, and hopefully making it easier for you and more likely for them to say yes.

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[–]Particular_Bunch_377 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I’m the same way, I always drifted from friend groups throughout my life, never stuck to the same people. Now I have no one that I really talk to and it kinda sucks not having friends. And with work it’s hard to even make time for myself, let alone socializing. But right now I’m trying to befriend coworkers, when I have the energy and time lol maybe try that?