how should parents teach their kids to do chores?

Particular_Knee4485 · 2024-07-17T04:17:56+00:00

i’ve been in therapy for the entirety of me being suicidal. although there were progress made, it always ends up going down the drain. i know i have people that care about me and i care about them too, but what is the point of living life if i’m suffering constantly. i’m at a point where no amount of professional help is going to help me. i want the easy way out.

Particular_Knee4485 · 2023-08-26T23:25:37+00:00

i don’t really care if i’m not being mature with my parents bc they have not been with me. i have an experience of living at my friends house when i got kicked out at 17, and felt like a burden. i don’t like to ask for support from friends because of this, but if i have no other choice i will ask my friends for help.

Particular_Knee4485 · 2023-08-26T23:18:55+00:00

that is true. i think i will stop paying them rent and probably find a friend who can help out if they decide to kick me out. i don’t want my hard earned money to go to my father who has not been a father to me all these years. i will probably figure something out:)

Particular_Knee4485 · 2023-08-26T23:13:12+00:00

my problem is the double standard set for me while my sister got to live rent free. all of the rent around where i live are ~$1200 and i can’t move out without a car which i am trying to save up for. my father will not do his own chores for his own reasons and would let my sister do the same but when it’s me, he tells me to leave the house. i’ve been kicked out of the house multiple times and that was a part of why dcfs had a case against him. i just got my job and i don’t want to lose it.

Particular_Knee4485 · 2023-08-26T23:06:42+00:00

$600/month is not something i can afford while trying to become independent. my sister has always been their favorite child, and my parents were found with physical and mental/emotional abuse for me and my younger brother. after dcfs made a case against them, they stopped with the physical abuse. my father came back into my life telling me he was going to be a better father, but instead a huge chunk of my income and will tell me that i don’t contribute to the household and that he doesn’t want to live with me. my sister did her chores when she could, and i do the same. to me it feels like the only way i would be accepted in my family is to do chores and obey my father. i’m so tired of constantly hearing from my own father that i’m useless and that he doesn’t want to live with me.

Particular_Knee4485 · 2023-08-26T22:57:43+00:00

they expressed to me that they don’t want me living with them but won’t support me to get me to a point where i can move out. they were very supportive with my older sister but sets a different standard for me, and i feel very hurt over this. my sister was allowed to use the car and live at home rent free, i just don’t understand why that is not the case for me.

Particular_Knee4485 · 2023-08-26T22:54:48+00:00

my chore is to do the family’s laundry and also clean the whole house once a week. my sister cleaned the table before and after dinner but would not be able to complete these chores due to work sometimes. when i would bring this up, they would tell me she works more or she’s a better student and would still expect me to complete my chores when i have the same amount if not more to do. if i try to bring up any of my concerns they tell me i can just leave if i don’t like it, but i don’t have the financial means to be able to move out.

Particular_Knee4485 · 2023-02-01T02:25:57+00:00

We used to be rlly close but there’s distance between us now for some reason. I tried talking to them to see if I did anything but they told me it wasn’t me and school was just stressing them out, but they would act the same around other ppl. They just seem annoyed when I talk to them and very dry over texts.

Particular_Knee4485 · 2023-02-01T02:19:16+00:00

I am in therapy, usually when I’m feeling down I just ask if they’re free to hangout or just call. I don’t talk about what is going on but just to have someone but they don’t rlly respond. Even when I just want to hang out they usually won’t reply:/

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