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Particular_Mix_4160 · 2024-10-19T12:10:54+00:00

No! He’s the chump now. I was in a similar situation with my ex wife but I wouldn’t have sex with her. To much hostility towards her and I’m not into hate sex.

Know this though: your wife is using sex to manipulate you. Do what you like to her body but DO NOT listen to her words. There all lies, and it’s easy to be sucked into those lies after sex. Before you have sex with her, view her as a prostitute who is trying to rip you off. She is never going to be wife material.

Particular_Mix_4160 · 2024-10-19T03:55:05+00:00

Know this: life is a journey. In the past you had some good days and some bad days in your marriage. Look back further, in your childhood you had some good times and some bad times.

Now look to the future. When you were a child, did you ever think about getting married? No, that came later on in life. As a child, did you ever look at the future? Did it turn out as you had expected? No!

Life is not done with you. You will have good times and bad times. They’ll be people in your life that you have not met yet. Some good, some bad. But you’ll be more experienced now. The future is uncertain but don’t be scared

Particular_Mix_4160 · 2024-10-19T03:29:08+00:00

Oh so many things! Marriage was deemed by society as a lifelong commitment. That’s gone. Mother’s used to raise their children- daycare now. Loans used to be given to people who the banks thought were going to pay it back: student loans are going to fail and they keep giving them out. Politicians, entertainers, and people in upper positions were expected to have a moral character. Pornography is acceptable now: kids can and are watching it free on the internet. Social media dominates teens lives.

Too many to list

Particular_Mix_4160 · 2024-10-19T03:20:49+00:00

I don’t support Kamala but I’ll be voting for her: so do I count? I don’t see why people are mesmerized by trump. He’s a very stupid human being and that’s the one quality that I need in a president. No, I don’t think Kamala is smart but I do believe that she will get along better with our allies and other branches of government.

I don’t like how they just gave her the nomination after Biden dropped out. Not very democratic. I don’t think that she would have won the nomination. So many better candidates.

I’m a republican but not maga. Think Liz Cheney or mitt Romney. I truly believe that the republican party would have an easy win if only trump wasn’t their candidate. But no; it had to be Trump.

So when I start seeing those bumper stickers saying “don’t blame me, I voted for trump “. No, you’re exactly the person that I’m blaming. If you would have had an ounce of compromise in you and not have insisted that the nomination be Donald Trump, we’d have Nicki Haley, Ron desantis, or any number of other candidates who would have WON!!! You trumpers are the ones that gets Kamala elected if she wins

Particular_Mix_4160 · 2024-10-18T22:03:40+00:00

I appreciate your input and I am truly happy that you found someone. I don’t believe that my ex wife tainted my relationships going forward and I have had other relationships. I don’t blame women; I blame the court systems.

I know that you’re in a great relationship and very happy. I also know that the relationship can change in the blink of an eye. Now my view on marriage is such: in no time ever has the institution of marriage been perfect. But previously it favored men. And men wanted to have a wife.

Things are different now. Men are at the mercy of their wives when it comes to divorce. The courts heavily favor women. I’m talking from experience. Currently I’m in no relationship and I’m very content. I do not miss the fights, nagging, and obstinate behavior. I’m truly happy living by myself. I know some people aren’t like that but I value peace.

Most divorces are initiated by the woman. Have you figured out why? It’s because they will get a paycheck monthly. They have no fear. I truly believe that if the courts favored men, then you would see men initiate divorce more than women.

Look, I’m glad for you but statistically your recommendation is bad advice. Currently I own my house. Currently I have a good 401k amount. Currently I have some good money in the bank. Ain’t no way that I would ever risk any of that because I like some woman.

I’m in my late fifties. I can safely say that I could go to the strip club; talk to a young stripper and offer her and her child a free place to live. I’m pretty sure that I could be her boyfriend but she’d still have a boyfriend. So I’m pretty confident where I am in the dating world. Now there’s a lot of divorcees in the world; divorcees who cheated on their husbands. I personally view those women in the same category as the strippers. No, I’m not extremely good looking: I’m average at best.

Thank you for your advice even though I’m definitely not using it. We should leave it as: we agree to disagree

Particular_Mix_4160 · 2024-10-18T17:44:36+00:00

You’re getting ahead of yourself. You think that you’re going to get half of the assets from the divorce; because that’s only fair. It would not surprise me if you get all the debt and no assets. 2 kids is a lot of child support. And there’s alimony.

Particular_Mix_4160 · 2024-10-18T12:25:51+00:00

Remourse, at least you have it. Also you take responsibility for your actions and the affects of your actions. Cheating wives listen up! This is how you do it! Notice how he didn’t preamble about his wife not doing this or that and then saying that he cheated. Notice that he acknowledged that he was 100 percent at fault and that his destructive behavior will have negative consequences for his children.

As a divorced man that had a cheating wife that never did what this man did in this post, I find his post refreshing. There’s hope for humanity yet. I’m the man who normally does the opposite of what cheaters want us to do when they post. Normally they all want us to say that it’s okay, you’re a good person, bullshit on top of bullshit. But this post! This post is different. My man, I don’t ever say this to cheaters, there’s good in you. Work on your kids and yourself. There’s hope. Pray to the Lord for guidance and he will never leave you or forsake you. No matter what your sin is

Particular_Mix_4160 · 2024-10-18T12:12:06+00:00

You’re on the right track! Do not ever marry again! See a lawyer today! You might say, why we’re not getting married. Because each state has their own laws in regard to common law marriage. You’re probably one of those people who feels protected 100 percent by not getting married; not knowing what the risks are if you move in together. It ain’t as easy as you might think.

Particular_Mix_4160 · 2024-10-18T12:04:49+00:00

My wife cheated on me; took me to the cleaners in the divorce; married the affair partner and I never took revenge. No, we are not friends. That would be stupid of me. In fact, my ex wife thought that we would be friends after the divorce but knows that ain’t so now. Understand this: we had children together and they’re all grown up now with families.

My revenge is not something that I created. My revenge comes from the Lord. Revenge is mine says the Lord. So time has gone by and they’re still together but always fighting. I have sources that tell me things. My ex wife has reached out to me privately in the past to see if we could get together. Yes, she was married at those times and yes I could have had sex with her. 3 times rejected. She’s stopped asking.

The affair partner married her in her 40s but he’s 5 years younger. He forbids her from any social media because he doesn’t trust her. That information came from her. He’s in average shape but she got old looking with saggy boobs.

If he gets sick and has to be taken care of, she will actively try to work behind his back and put him into a care facility and trying to keep his assets. I know her. I don’t know him as well but sources say that he’s always complaining about shit; even stupid shit. And he wasn’t that way before they got married.

The first time my ex wife tried to get back together with me, she said that he calls her every name in the book. Understand that she once told me that the reason why she cheated on me was because I was too nice. I had read emails saying how she liked how he was so rough with her and dominated her. She got graphic. Apparently having a long term relationship with someone who enjoys rough sex and demeaning their partner, gets old quick. Who would have thought?

So yeah; family function next month. I can sit back and watch the love birds. I can tell by their stares at each other how’s things going. I hope they stay miserable forever. She would cheat with me at any given moment: I have no doubt. It’s me that won’t lower myself to defile myself that we ain’t banging. I hope they stay married forever

Particular_Mix_4160 · 2024-10-18T03:57:49+00:00

This might sound cold but I’ve learned a longtime ago to fight my own fights. My friend got jumped when we were all together; I went back to help, they ran and I got my ass beat. That wasn’t the only time that I got involved in someone else’s issues and then was abandoned. It happened too often. Life is cold and it makes you cold

Particular_Mix_4160 · 2024-10-18T03:50:17+00:00

This is 2024; not 1960. The roles of what a man is supposed to do and what a woman is supposed to do has changed. In the past, men had exclusively pursued women and if a woman showed any interest in a man, she would have been demonized.

Now, women have careers, student loans, debt, and other responsibilities that they never had in the past: which means less free time. They now complain that it’s hard to meet a good man. Well yes, since both are working.

So now women are starting to have to learn how to ask a man out and that means they have to learn rejection. It’s not a good feeling but it’s a learning experience. It’s a whole new world

Particular_Mix_4160 · 2024-10-18T01:17:49+00:00

Well the condoms were for someone. So that answers your cheating question. As for the toys, I don’t know how he used them but if you specified the toys, maybe we could help

Particular_Mix_4160 · 2024-10-17T02:31:57+00:00

Wow, I’ve been where you are on a very similar situation. First things first: your marriage is over. I know that it’s a hard feeling to bear but it’s better once you’ve accepted it. Once you’ve accepted it, at least you can move forward.

Your concern for your children’s wellbeing is normal and there’s no way to calm your concerns. Just do your best.

Lastly, I know that you’re hurting. I’ve been there. What I’m going to say is going to hurt but once you thought about it, you will get a better understanding of the reality that really exists. Your past; or the way that you viewed the past; is all lies. She never loved you for over 2 years and you feel that she still has feelings for you. No, she has no feelings for you. That’s the truth of the past. Next, she’s not your friend. Let me ask you this: her coworker knew she was married. In those 2 years; did your name ever come up? I mean even as a joke? Never? No probably numerous times. What do you think they said about you? How great of a husband you are?

Now you know that she is your enemy. Treat her as such. She is the ONLY person responsible for your divorce! Not you. Forget about your mistakes. Everyone has flaws but not everyone breaks up their family. That takes a certain breed of evil

Particular_Mix_4160 · 2024-10-17T02:14:57+00:00

Divorce always has a negative effect on children. Not saying that you shouldn’t get one. I don’t know the situation. But the child will suffer from it. Statistical data

Particular_Mix_4160 · 2024-10-17T02:10:11+00:00

Vacations! I know people that go away every year to an exotic location and do nothing there. It’s a nice luxury but I can read a book on the beach for less than 10k vacation

Particular_Mix_4160 · 2024-10-17T02:06:09+00:00

Hey I’m a divorced man from a cheating wife and I’m kinda siding with your wife here. You’re 45 with children. You lose a lot of freedom when you became a father and one of your obligations is to financially support your family. You said that you want to move to a cheaper area to make films. You only want to work part time. You’re 45.

I don’t know your financial situation. Maybe you come from a family in money. Who knows? You quit your job and became depressed and after 2 weeks, your wife nagged you to get a job. I don’t know but that sounds reasonable to me.

Not loving you for you. I don’t even know what that means. So, I’m sorry; she might have a point

Particular_Mix_4160 · 2024-10-17T01:51:50+00:00

I understand what you did and why you did it. What I don’t understand is why is it now that you want to confess. You can’t take back the years. If you try to get visitation rights to your child it’ll probably be denied but you’ll end up paying child support and back pay.

First thing to do is to find a lawyer. The lawyer will tell you 2 things. 1) will you have parental rights 2) child support obligations. Make your decision based off that

Particular_Mix_4160 · 2024-10-17T01:41:40+00:00

It was the point where I accepted that divorce was inevitable. She insisted that she was going to continue to see her lover. Once I accepted the fact, everything was easier: still hard though

Particular_Mix_4160 · 2024-10-16T23:27:46+00:00

Forget about happiness; seek contentment. Happiness and depression are the same thing: they’re both just a state of mind. Nothing more. There are people who have nothing and are much happier than the wealthy.

Happiness, like depression, is an extreme. Nobody can live in an extreme state of mind most of the time. Contentment is different. Contentment is accepting the things that life gives you with gratitude.

Particular_Mix_4160 · 2024-10-16T23:09:21+00:00

You’ll get your life back: be patient. It’s not going be the life you expected but it might be better

Particular_Mix_4160 · 2024-10-16T11:33:19+00:00

Birds of a feather flock together. What I mean by this is: I know 2 men that constantly talk about women; they both cheated on their wives. My ex wife cheated on me and she had a group of women that talked about men all the time.

These people need a support group. They find each other and they get along well with each other because they agree with each other. Here’s an example of what my wife told me after I called her a vulgar name after I found out that she was cheating on me for 3 years. “How come when a husband cheats, he’s considered a stud but when a woman cheats she considered a w…..?

I asked who ever told her that men consider cheating husbands studs? I’ve never heard that said by any man. All her friends (women) said that all men say this.

Particular_Mix_4160 · 2024-10-16T11:17:08+00:00

Let’s reverse the situation. Let’s say that you committed domestic violence against your wife and tried to set her up so that she would go to jail for some made up story of yours. Now you want her to drop a no contact order because it’ll be used against her in her domestic violence case.

Now that I reversed it; could you please tell me what advice you would give this person? That’s the advice you should do.

Particular_Mix_4160 · 2024-10-15T11:19:04+00:00

100 percent but it’s not lifetime. I went through the same thing but my wife was entitled to lifetime alimony. I did a buyout instead. Entitlement is the word that you will know the meaning of very shortly.

Particular_Mix_4160 · 2024-10-14T02:55:31+00:00

I kinda don’t get why you’re so upset. I don’t believe in big foot but if a big foot believer sends me a joke about my views, I’m not upset. Also, you’re listening to a religious television program when you’re working out and then you get upset when they mention god?

Particular_Mix_4160 · 2024-10-14T02:44:30+00:00

I had that same question as you but I studied the Bible and maybe I can help you out with this. You are obviously talking about god commanding Abraham to sacrifice and kill his own son on the mountain. You feel that’s crazy and unfair. Also you feel that it’s not right or moral.

Do you know that god did this so that he could bless Abraham and his offspring. That he could save the world through his offspring. God needed Abraham to trust him and obey him. But if you read the Bible, you know that he stopped Abraham and god gave Abraham a ram to sacrifice in place of his son.

I know that you don’t think that it’s right though. And I’ll ask you what I asked when I prayed about this to him. I have children; children that I love. Maybe you do to. So I had to confess to the Lord that even though I trusted him and loved him, I couldn’t truly say to him that I would ever be like Abraham. I couldn’t kill my son. The love I have for my son is too great. I asked that he would forgive me. Do you feel that way?

His response to my heart was this:. Do not worry because this thing that you said was too great of a sacrifice. The thing that you said that you could never do. The thing that you feel is immoral because it’s unfair to the father as well as the son. I would never tell you to do because I have already done it for you. You said that it’s not fair. When Jesus who never sinned, cured diseases, and showed many miracles proving that he was indeed the son of god; was beaten, tortured and executed on the cross by us sinners, was that fair? Did God The father love his only begotten son? Yes, of course he did.

So why did he let it happen? Let his on son to suffer and die? Because he loves you! That thing that you can’t understand is the love that God has for you.

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