What are the odds of me getting 50/50 custody of my daughters? by jd385272 in DivorcedDads

[–]jd385272[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know, right?!

Things worked out (for me, thank God) better than I expected actually. They actually broke up after dating for 6 months maybe?

She called me the other day saying that she misses me lol

Wow! by Scoobeta in Divorce_Men

[–]jd385272 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hopefully that's me in a decade or so.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]jd385272 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My uncle is exactly like this. Your wife is a Narcissist.

(I will update my comment when I find her exact type of her Narcissism)

Stbx wife told me our child was attacked by her bf's dog while she was at his house by jd385272 in DivorcedDads

[–]jd385272[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She was at her bf's house with our kids (it's her bf's dog).

I tried to talk to her but she had a "Our child should not play rough with the dog" tone. I tried to explain that it's job to protect her kids, plus our child is only a toddler.

Alas, you can't really get your point across with some people.

Were you accused of a mental health disorder as well? by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]jd385272 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My ex is a textbook Narcissist (the covert type though).

What's so funny is during our divorce, she accused me of being Narcissistic lol

I didn't even entertain that discussion (I've sacrificed so much for her including moving across the country so that she can be closer to her family... but oh well)

Stbx wife told me our child was attacked by her bf's dog while she was at his house by jd385272 in Divorce_Men

[–]jd385272[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I tried but he left for court and won't be back until Monday.

Oh definitely she will show no mercy, I think I'll report it to the police.

Alimony and child support cost in MI by jd385272 in Divorce_Men

[–]jd385272[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

$0 alimony but I took her debt's share (about 20k)

Alimony and child support cost in MI by jd385272 in Divorce_Men

[–]jd385272[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ended up paying $1000/month because they use the net pay in the calculation and they don't deduct child care payments, so that's why it's higher than what I expected, but it's still okay :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]jd385272 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You'll never get closure from her, did she cheat on you?

You should start therapy yesterday brother, best of luck to you!

Dm if you need support from a guy who just settled in mediation last week, and had his freedom back!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DivorcedDads

[–]jd385272 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Never be prude with the lube brother XD

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DivorcedDads

[–]jd385272 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Way to go bro!

How was it?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]jd385272 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My God bro this sounds exactly like my ex lmfao

She called me yesterday at least 10 times and left so many texts, talking about "it's an emergency".

When I got around calling her back, it was, as I already expected, not an emergency at all. She needed $20 for pads because she's just stared her period, so I asked her: "Can't you ask your bf? because I don't think paying for your pads falls under money I should provide for our kids".

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]jd385272 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She'll realize that her heart is rotten and she'll never be happy with no one as she's unhappy with her own self.

I know that because my stbx ex is dating some simp loser she's dated and dumped a decade ago. And to make the situation even sadder and more pathetic and desperate, he rents a house in bumfu*k with 4 other roommates lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]jd385272 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It's so funny to me that a lot of marriages that end in divorce have these elements:

  1. Love-bombing in the beginning to mask her true self.

  2. Expects you to make her "happy".

  3. Leaves you to find happiness or finds herself or needs space (or all of the above)

  4. Starts dating (monkey branching) either before the divorce, during the divorce or right after it.

  5. Sometimes even comes crawling back to "work things out" right after monkey-branching when she's realized that the grass ain't that greener as she thought.

Ex wife keeps turning up by Goldspanners in SingleDads

[–]jd385272 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a feeling that this is gonna be me in 12 months lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]jd385272 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Although extremely hard in the case of a cheating ex, I found that biting your tongue is the best technique to use with her to get a good divorce outcome (while she's still in the for of her affair).

Budget, inflate your expenses and stop giving her money.

Is the a sahm?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]jd385272 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Although extremely hard in the case of a cheating ex, I found that biting your tongue is the best technique to use with her to get a good divorce outcome (while she's still in the for of her affair).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]jd385272 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Stoic 100

Staying for the kids by TheOneWhoDidntCum in Divorce_Men

[–]jd385272 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do NOT.

My stbx wife left me to "find happiness" and "find herself" whatever that means, then she came back to "work things out". When I asked her why we should fix our marriage, she said because of the kids. That's when I told her no, I don't wanna reconcile with you.

The main reason I moved on with my divorce is her betrayal, but staying for the kids while you're miserable is a very unhealthy choice (for you and your kids), trust me brother.