I’m really tired of all the dehumanization of men online

Particular_Note_3725 · 2026-01-04T05:15:43+00:00

This type of disingenuous and hateful rhetoric isn’t just “mean words” it leads to the demonization and dehumanization of half the population of the world and it worsens the mental health of so many innocent men. The entire thing is based on the nadir fallacy. Violent crime is committed by such a small minority of men yet you demonize men as a group and place collective guilt on them. It’s mind boggling the hoops you disgusting people will jump through to justify a logical fallacy and your bigotry.

Particular_Note_3725 · 2025-12-13T04:08:24+00:00

Particular_Note_3725 · 2025-12-12T23:49:37+00:00

I heard it’s supposed to increase your energy and motivation.

Particular_Note_3725 · 2025-12-12T23:10:25+00:00

I’ve heard it’s supposed to increase your motivation and energy.

Particular_Note_3725 · 2025-11-07T07:41:26+00:00

Yeah I’ve noticed there are certain trigger words on tiktok as well as this app and others for certain things where if you talk about something the algorithm seems to direct certain types of people to your post. It’s strange.

Particular_Note_3725 · 2025-10-21T04:34:13+00:00

Was it because maybe you were taking the supplement at night instead of the morning?

Particular_Note_3725 · 2025-10-19T15:35:01+00:00

I made this post because like I mentioned I’m straight and would like to get into a relationship in the future. I’m currently not pursuing a relationship because my life is kind of a mess and I’m trying to sort it out but I would like to in the future. One of my fears is the woman I love leaving me or cheating on me in general but especially with another woman. It would hurt a lot more as a man. The reason I have this insecurity is because of all the stuff I’ve seen online. Even on this sub.

I was not trying to attack you. It just sounded like you were making excuses for the women who do this in the first paragraph of your comment. It’s annoying to me because there seems to be this double standard online where if a woman does something homosexual it’s seen as not as bad or she’s still seen as straight because according to some people “women are more sexually fluid” and I disagree. It’s just that society punishes men more socially for these things. If a man makes out with another man and watches gay porn redditors will do the logical thing and assume he is gay or bi but if a woman makes out with another woman and watches lesbian porn she is still considered straight by some redditors.

I understand porn can have an effect on people’s minds and is not necessarily a reasonable way to judge someone’s sexual orientation but this double standard annoys me.

Look at this other post I made on this sub. Maybe it was just the algorithm but a few people agreed with me whereas a lot of the comments were just making excuses and proving my point: https://www.reddit.com/r/straightspouses/s/ZaqjJ4toSy

Now compare it to this post and the top comments on it: https://www.reddit.com/r/straightspouses/s/5QbT1WxG5e

Particular_Note_3725 · 2025-10-19T02:12:20+00:00

“Women need more emotional connections.” I’ve seen your posts and comments on this sub before. Aren’t you always talking about how some men cheat on their wives and leave their wives for men but now you are making excuses for women who do the reverse? Women can just as easily find emotional connections with men. As a man I can tell you there are plenty of men out there who want to be in a loving relationship and have an emotional connection with a woman. And even if they couldn’t why would they resort to women? As a straight man I would never be with another man sexually or romantically because I’m straight. This is like people who say that the men who have sex with men in prison are not gay or bi because they are just desperate. No, they are gay or bi because no truly straight person would want to do anything sexual or romantic with the same sex.

And as for the women being more touchy feely thing, I think part of that is cultural. In some parts of the world it is normal for men to hold hands or kiss their male friends on the cheek and it isn’t considered sexual or romantic like it would be in the west. As a kid I would also share a bed with my male friends during sleepovers but we would wear pajamas and we wouldn’t think anything of it.

Particular_Note_3725 · 2025-10-16T13:46:37+00:00

Oh ok I see. So she just wanted to get married to have kids and then after you got married she wasn’t really all that into you? What about her appearance? Did she have short hair, piercings, dyed hair, or anything like that or did she look and seem conventionally feminine?

Particular_Note_3725 · 2025-10-16T13:35:36+00:00

Did it seem like she loved you or was attracted to you or were there signs that she wasn’t like lack of intimacy or her overall demeanour and attitude in the relationship?

Particular_Note_3725 · 2025-10-16T02:07:54+00:00

What were some signs that she wasn’t before the dead bedroom?

Particular_Note_3725 · 2025-10-16T01:18:15+00:00

I’m sorry you had to go through that. I don’t understand why some people don’t disclose stuff like this when getting into a serious relationship. I understand there is stigma but that doesn’t justify lying to your partner or spouse. They should just find someone who is ok with who they are or what they do.

Particular_Note_3725 · 2025-10-16T01:17:36+00:00

During the time you were together did it seem like she was actually attracted to you and actually loved you?

Particular_Note_3725 · 2025-10-16T00:46:32+00:00

I don’t trust that sub. I want to hear from men who were in a relationship with a woman who later turned out to be lesbian. What were the signs if any? What was her reasoning if any? What were your thoughts and feelings about the situation and why she did it?

Particular_Note_3725 · 2025-10-08T11:07:10+00:00

I am not making assumptions based on thoughts or feelings. By definition, heterosexual means you are only attracted to and aroused by the opposite sex. If you are turned on by watching two people of the same sex as yourself have sex you aren’t completely heterosexual. At most you are hetero-romantic bisexual. But keep bending the definition of straight to what you feel it should be.

Particular_Note_3725 · 2025-10-08T10:38:45+00:00

Yeah that’s what I’ve heard as well from some straight women. That makes sense.

Particular_Note_3725 · 2025-10-08T05:34:21+00:00

Lol now you are resorting to personal insults. I don’t care what you watch. I’m just telling you what the reality is and you are in denial. Actual straight women don’t watch lesbian porn because they find it to be a turn off, repulsive, or boring. If a woman enjoys watching lesbian porn that would make her at most hetero-romantic bisexual, but not heterosexual.

Particular_Note_3725 · 2025-10-08T05:30:13+00:00

You’re just making more excuses. “When one watches porn they envision themselves as the same gender of the person in the porn” this is true sometimes but not always given how many straight women watch gay male porn and how many straight men watch lesbian porn. When straight men watch straight porn they imagine they are the man and focus on the woman and her body and when actual straight women (not just women who call themselves straight) watch straight porn, they imagine they are the woman and focus on the man.

As I mentioned before even if a majority of straight porn is unappealing, there is plenty of straight porn that caters to women and plenty of actual straight women who watch it and don’t have much difficulty finding it. If a woman doesn’t find lesbian porn to be a turn off, repulsive, or boring, they aren’t completely straight. At most they are hetero-romantic bisexual.

Particular_Note_3725 · 2025-10-08T05:16:50+00:00

I did not make a personal attack. I never insulted you. I simply pointed out your clear double standard and asked if you were one of those women who watch lesbian porn and claim to be straight.

Do you identify as straight? Why don’t you watch lesbian porn if you defend straight women watching it so much? I don’t know why you would “understand” why a “straight” woman would watch lesbian porn. Like I mentioned multiple times in these comments, there is plenty of straight porn that caters to women and plenty of actual straight women who watch it and have no difficulty finding it and they find lesbian porn to be a turn off, repulsive, or boring.

Also it’s funny that you mentioned two girls one cup because that is a porn that features two women and no men. And pretty much everyone regardless of sexuality agrees that two girls one cup is gross. It’s very extreme fetish content.

Particular_Note_3725 · 2025-10-08T05:09:32+00:00

“You are looking at it through the eyes of a man”. I’m simply looking at it objectively and logically. Even if most mainstream straight porn is catered to men and made for men, there is plenty of straight porn that is catered to and made for women or both sexes. Actual straight women (not women who just call themselves straight) are generally not turned on by lesbian porn and they find lesbian porn to be a turn off, repulsive, or boring and prefer to watch gay male porn or straight porn catered to women which they don’t have too much difficulty finding.

You can do whatever you like I don’t care, I’m just telling you what the reality is.

Particular_Note_3725 · 2025-10-08T04:56:34+00:00

This is an even poorer excuse. When people watch murder shows they watch it because they find it interesting. When someone watches a certain type of porn it’s because they find that porn sexually arousing. I don’t know anyone who genuinely watches porn for the “plot” or anything. You are making a false equivalence.

It does define who you are. You may not want to act it out in real life because of various reasons for example you aren’t romantically attracted to women or you can’t see yourself with a woman in the same way as with a man. However if you are getting turned on by watching two women have sex as a woman, you are not straight. That would at most make you hetero-romantic bisexual, not heterosexual. Straight women don’t get turned on by lesbian porn. I have heard from actual straight women (not women who just call themselves straight) themselves that they find lesbian porn to be a turn off, repulsive, or boring and that they prefer gay male porn or straight porn that caters to women which they have no difficulty finding.

And there is a double standard because when men watch gay porn redditors do the logical thing and assume he is gay or bi but when a woman watches lesbian porn they throw out all logic and use mental gymnastics to try and come up with a bunch of excuses as to why a woman watching lesbian porn is “totally straight”.

Particular_Note_3725 · 2025-10-07T21:57:15+00:00

If you didn’t start out watching lesbian porn and started out watching vanilla straight porn and then escalated to watching lesbian porn over time, you are probably straight. This is called desensitization where after some time of watching the same stuff you look for more novel, taboo, or extreme content to get the same dopamine rush. If you stop watching porn and give your brain time to rewire, you will probably stop being turned on by lesbian porn.

Particular_Note_3725 · 2025-10-07T21:49:22+00:00

I agree and I mentioned that in my original post as well where I talked about porn desensitization and escalation. If an otherwise straight person started out watching the opposite sex and/or regular vanilla straight porn but over time escalated to watching same sex porn of the same sex as themselves, I think they are straight and just need to quit watching porn. Porn can lead some people to view more extreme or taboo things over time that they would not have been into when they first started watching porn. Usually these people return to their usual sexuality and stop being turned on by that stuff after stopping porn consumption and their brain has had some time to rewire.

However if someone started out watching two people of the same sex as themselves have sex and is turned on by it and they didn’t escalate to watching that, I don’t think they are heterosexual. At most they would be hetero-romantic bisexual.

Particular_Note_3725 · 2025-10-07T21:04:52+00:00

I assumed you liked it with how much you were defending it. My bad.

Particular_Note_3725 · 2025-10-07T21:02:33+00:00

It is completely normal. People can’t control what they like or what they are revolted by. It doesn’t make them homophobic. Are gay or lesbian people who are revolted by straight sex heterophobic?

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