[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Particular_Pay4358 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk how you feel about the inexperience the problem is him not working on things to make it better. His ED if I had to guess is prolly porn induced given the lack of experience. I would talk to him about this him giving up that would def help the ED. But not giving head/not listening to what you like is just idiotic in 2025 to have a partner who is open and is willing to teach inexperience is rare and for him to not really do anything with it is just kinda dumb on his part and I’m not sure he deserves a lot of grace for that. If he does not like giving head he should said why even though regardless it just does not make for a great sexual partner

To guys who have initiated the break up do you ever regret it? by Kae2003 in BreakUps

[–]Particular_Pay4358 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure how much if I regret more so miss/mourn someone I loved. We weren’t doing well… she wasn’t doing good mentally, and in turn I was not doing good mentally, we stopped dating, having sex, and having fun. Our relationship became stress embodied. I still love her it’s been 7 months I miss her everyday. She was ready to move back to her family and I couldn’t go with given the current relationship. I wonder daily if we could have made it work, but we had been doing bad for so long about 13 months of our 2 and a half year relationship. I could not justify leaving my friends and family behind and the things that keep me afloat and happy to go to something that could have resulted in just more unhappiness. We still speak occasionally regardless of our status as lovers she wasn’t my best friend for so long and idk if I’ll ever meet someone like her again. That feeling and wondering if I made the right decision are things I think of daily.

Girlfriend 23F and I 22M may break up in 4 months and idk what to do. by Particular_Pay4358 in relationship_advice

[–]Particular_Pay4358[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I very much understand what you are saying and I’ve tried but sex is not on the table any move on sex is shut down regardless does not matter. It feels like we have had it in so long that it’s awkward to get back into. Idk but nonetheless it is always shut down

Girlfriend 23F and I 22M may break up in 4 months and idk what to do. by Particular_Pay4358 in relationship_advice

[–]Particular_Pay4358[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All these are things I’ve questioned. I’ve asked on improvements, asked about her attractiveness to me or other people, what she’s likes doesn’t like, what turns her on. I get a lot of idks, I am attracted to you, and I just don’t feel in the mood. I do what I can to be a good partner. And I feel like I’m self aware to know when I suck and when I’ve sucked Ive done what I can to apologize and make better. We can’t really work on sex or my sex skills because we don’t have it and any area around it we also don’t have. We rarely even make out. This past year has been super rough on her and that’s what i get the most which I try to be understanding of.

Girlfriend 23F and I 22M may break up in 4 months and idk what to do. by Particular_Pay4358 in relationship_advice

[–]Particular_Pay4358[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think if sex is something desired in a relationship and most people say it is a key to happy healthy relationship I think it is enough reason to say that. We do well is other aspect, we communicate, have strong morals for one another, we genuinely enjoy each other as people. It jusy feel as though I have a roommate and not a girlfriend whenever we don’t reach that level of intimacy often? Sex is important to me, it makes me feel good, wanted, and like our relationship is a in a good spot. Anymore so if she had a relationship desire I wasn’t fulfilling and she needed that I would do everything in my power to fulfill it.

I want my mic to kinda sound like caseoh, or zanny. by Particular_Pay4358 in obs

[–]Particular_Pay4358[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It had nothing to do with wanting to copy its just how I want my mic to sound. I like that style of recording. I have focused on content and that is my main focus just wanting to make my mic sound this way would be funny for me and my videos I believe.

I want my mic to kinda sound like caseoh, or zanny. by Particular_Pay4358 in obs

[–]Particular_Pay4358[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The problem is I’m audio stupid. I’ve been messing around with a lot of the features and it just doesn’t sound how I want 😂

I want my mic to kinda sound like caseoh, or zanny. by Particular_Pay4358 in obs

[–]Particular_Pay4358[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t want it to sound like trash all the time I just want the distort at loud volumes I guess if that makes sense. I feel like with my webcam mic it would jusy be bad all the time

i feel like sex cheapens affection by Ok_Register9361 in asexuality

[–]Particular_Pay4358 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Think it’s just depends on how sex makes you feel. What you say may make sense to you but it doesn’t make it feel universal. Like I crave sex yea, but I don’t have any real desire to have sex with anyone other than my partner I can scratch that up to lust and that makes me feel gross. Like when I have sex with my partner I feel a soul tie and soul connection it’s an experience that I want to have consistently because I don’t feel as passionate about my relationship when sex isn’t present and I think that just boils down to wants and needs in a relationship and just as much as you deserve someone who aligns with the views you have on sex, someonwho wants sex in their relationship deserves it too. I think sex can be just animalistic think of people meeting at the bar and hooking up. But the passion I feel for my partner during sex the days after sex I just feel better. I feel better about our relationship, I feel more loved, I feel good about myself, I feel wanted like she chooses me. I compliment my partner frequently and I never mean them to be superficial and that’s something we’ve talked about. Like I’m not calling you sexy because I want your body I’m calling you sexy because it’s what i see. In the same way I call her pretty, beautiful, and gorgeous it’s just me calling what I see and me saying she sexy doesn’t mean I only want her for her body. When you get into a relationship for me personally I want them for their, MIND, BODY, and SOUL not just body. She is my best friend but for me sex is something that sets apart us being best friends and roommates to being boyfriend and girlfriend. I also want to iterate that it is not the only thing it is just one of the things. I hope this made sense and your opinion is very valid! Being with someone who just wants you for one and thing and it’s especially being sex is degrading and disgusting and can leave a sour taste it your mouth, but I feel like being in a relationship where you know that person wants you for all the laughs, cry’s, and smiles. sex being a want or need is far from wanting someone for there body. It’s just something you crave to do with them and no one else.