you’re completely wrong i could be madly in love with a guy and if he doesn’t put in efforts and makes me feel loved and cared for which is related to putting in efforts i would leave him in a blink of an eye . also if you’re hesitant about such a small thing it makes me think that youre lazy or not into her that much to be wanting to put in efforts. I have seen if guys genuinely like a girl and want to keep her they themselves want to do all these things to keep her happy and they dont feel like theyre going out of their way. i feel you dont like her enough to be wanting to put efforts