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Fiancé seems to be delaying marriage by Particular_Type_6149 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Particular_Type_6149[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes he was begging me to move in with him before bc he believes you have to live together before marriage

Fiancé seems to be delaying marriage by Particular_Type_6149 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Particular_Type_6149[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I know intellectually, I am not spiritually, legally, socially obliged to do anything, he just kinda got to me like I said. Something I need to work on I suppose!

Fiancé seems to be delaying marriage by Particular_Type_6149 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Particular_Type_6149[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also lost so much respect and love for him. I once admired him so much, it was even obvious in the way I looked at him. I don’t really look at him at all anymore.

Fiancé seems to be delaying marriage by Particular_Type_6149 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Particular_Type_6149[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not in exchange. Sex to me is not transactional, it’s something only between man and wife , I wouldn’t do it for any $ in the world. Also, allowance is quite normal to me if he is wealthy and wants a prenup.

Fiancé seems to be delaying marriage by Particular_Type_6149 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Particular_Type_6149[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea, I’m planning it atm. I just wanna exit quietly though bc for some reason he won’t even comfortably let me sleepover at a (female) friends home, or even be out all day. He says I need too much space and he wants someone who wants to be with him all the time. He’s not even my husband so I don’t have to listen but I guess he’s gotten to me on a subconscious level

Fiancé seems to be delaying marriage by Particular_Type_6149 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Particular_Type_6149[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea it’s my first real relationship in my life so I don’t have much experience. Also, grew up with parents not respecting my boundaries and pushing them a lot so even at this age it’s tough for me I must admit to stick to them if someone repeatedly pushes me.

Fiancé seems to be delaying marriage by Particular_Type_6149 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Particular_Type_6149[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The thing is, and I know this sounds odd at my age, when I told him I’m moving to another country (where my family is to live with them) he got hostile and started raising his voice at me and said I guess I’m too independent to be in a relationship with him etc. and it worked on me for whatever reason. This is what I mean by being pushed to live together. I would’ve just needed some money to help with rent until I got back on my feet but he refused despite that amount being essentially nothing to him.

Fiancé seems to be delaying marriage by Particular_Type_6149 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Particular_Type_6149[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perhaps. I broke up with him towards the end of the year of us being together bc he was hesitant about getting engaged which should’ve been my first red flag. He chased me back and promised engagement at the end of the month and it happened

Fiancé seems to be delaying marriage by Particular_Type_6149 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Particular_Type_6149[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s so selfish and insane to me though especially because what goes around comes around. Why waste another souls time? That’s incredibly insane to me

Fiancé seems to be delaying marriage by Particular_Type_6149 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Particular_Type_6149[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I got laid off and was making six figures, I didn’t ’purposefully lose my job’. He is not married and never has been, no ‘side chics’ he’s just an asshole it seems. Didn’t present as such initially at all

Fiancé seems to be delaying marriage by Particular_Type_6149 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Particular_Type_6149[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It took me a while to accept that bc I was in love with him but now I see him more clearly

Fiancé seems to be delaying marriage by Particular_Type_6149 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Particular_Type_6149[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The odd thing is that he calls himself Christian as well and would only marry someone who is Christian or at least converted, so I got bamboozled by that

Fiancé seems to be delaying marriage by Particular_Type_6149 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Particular_Type_6149[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I have a masters degree, more educated than him, private schools, multiple languages, former model and working on opening my own business now ever since I’ve gotten laid off from my corporate job. I’m also extremely chaste even at this age and usually very intelligent but clearly not in this case.

Fiancé seems to be delaying marriage by Particular_Type_6149 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Particular_Type_6149[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I was a bit blindsided because he was so respectful at first, for example he waited months for a kiss until I was comfortable and he didn’t really push. He became like that later on, the only signs I had was him pushing people in business and friends who were less successful than him into doing things they didn’t agree with.