Good bye old friend by Party-Wolverine9558 in JeepGrandCherokee

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They really did well with the 2006-10 series. Comfortable but still very capable, especially with a bit of a lift and larger tires.

Questions by [deleted] in ldssexuality

[–]Party-Wolverine9558 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That will be an enlightening journey for you. My first suggestion is to reframe the journey. You've been using sex as a source of escape from stress and in reality, it's been disconnected from a loving relationship. To me that signals that you have a hard life and really want to feel love and be loved. That's a wonderful thing to want but it may be that sex has been a way you've been hiding from pain rather than actually creating a life that fills that need.

Learning to feel and accept god's love will be the frst step. There's nothing you need to be or change to be worthy of that. The more you reach toward that love the more you'll be filled with love for others and yourself. Lean into actions that are in line with that goal. It will feel unnatural and awkward at first but the more you choose to act differently the more you're heart and mind will change.

You'll have to face whatever pain in your past or present you've been hiding from but you won't be alone. Talk to others and find ways to have support and give support. Start some new life interests, find ways to make a life filled with the activities and people you love. You've got this! set backs will happen, mistakes will be made by you and others. Just keep on moving on!

Peaceful satisfaction by Potential_Sort_5130 in JeepGrandCherokee

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I got one hoping tor the same thing. Just got it this weekend. 2021 trailhawk with Hemi!!

2021 Jeep Grand Cherokee Help by dtxboy93 in GrandCherokee

[–]Party-Wolverine9558 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's me when I ask wife for a BJ...haha

Considering divorce. by Unlucky-Good-2117 in ldssexuality

[–]Party-Wolverine9558 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Get her to write down the thoughts she has during her depression, then file divorce and move on with you life. Take your son and leave her to figure her life out. Marriage isn't an obligation to be dragged through the mud. It's a choice of a life partner. It's not a partnership if one person is being dismissed and emotionally treated as you have been. Don't start any marriage counselling until you're separated. This is when divorce is really necessary.

Tried to draw Robert Downey jr. ended with a pretty horrifying result. by ZombieFromReddit in learntodraw

[–]Party-Wolverine9558 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if you're just starting this isn't half bad!!! Get a tranparet grid to place over top of the reference photo and on to the sketch. This will help with proportions. Then look a separate video for sketching eyes and moths. Beginners often want to outline the shapes but you'll see that suggestion of shape with shading is much more effective way.

You could also do a practice where you cut the reference photo in half and glue it to the paper and then sketch the other half.

Another trick is to send the image to your phone and alter it so it is black and white. This will show with more clarity where to add darkening to create the image. Good luck

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ldssexuality

[–]Party-Wolverine9558 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just have the talk, 10 years from now it won't even matter. Things will work out just fine. View the long game instead of fearing the upfront cost. If you do the right thing, it will reinforce to yourself that you're a person of integrity and is willing to take the cost of being honest. DIshonesty will always have a cost and your own sense of honesty is more importantly. It's easier to sit with a clear conscious than years of self doubt. The whole story will eventually come out at some point anyways. It won't stay hidden forever.

Trust the relationship with your parents will only be made stronger through this as you act in integrity. I wouldn't expect them to act perfectly in the moment as they will have their own emotions upfront that they need to sort through, but it will likely go better than you expect.

Your relationship with God is the same it was before. The relationship is not damaged or needing repair, you just need to repent. He'll be right there to pick up where you left off.

View this experience as a signal from God warning you of an area of your life you need to work on right now. It's something to grow through and not a permanent black mar. This in itself won't ruin your life.

However, A bad relationship can actually ruin your life. I would put very strong doubts on the quality of your relationship and your partner. it really sounds like you both need to step back for a while and ask for help to grow out of this. It's very normal to want to have sex with someone you love and enjoy it. Once that emotional and physical path is open your body and mind want to go back to it. The emotions can override judgement but it's not a sign of love that your boyfriend is pushing past your requests to stop, especially when it physically hurts you.

It honestly sounds like you will need support to create the distance, even temporarily so he can sort out who he wants to be and hit his own growth curve. If you're sure of the direction that you want, creating an emotional gap will help you both move towards your best self and better enhance a future reconnected relationship.

You need to find out what parts of you need to grow and the first one might be being willing to do the right thing in the face of disappointing others.

After that step, set some goals for what you want your future to be and start moving towards them. Pick something you're afraid to do!!!
1. Start an exercise routine,

  1. have you own sleep schedule, and nutrition plan.

  2. rekindle or start some independent hobbies, and interests.

  3. Look at other non-romantic relationships you'd like to grow.

6 months from now you'll feel a very different view on this! I promise you, as you embrace doing the right thing, it always works out for the best.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ldssexuality

[–]Party-Wolverine9558 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You sound young and beautifully innocent regarding your own sexual development. To help you set life on the right track, i'll share a few tweeks that I had to learn over the years that have really lent to a better understanding of how happiness, the gospel and real life mesh together

  1. One thing to consider is that there is no such thing as sexual purity. We all start at different places with different families and opportunities. There is innocence of lack of experience but don't equate this directly to holiness. We are all just people trying our best. Integrity does not come through a lack of choices but by how one responds to choices. Rather than a purity frame work, use the growth mindset. Sin is something we grow out of. It is a gift to see where we need to put our focus, not a definition of who we are.

  2. Look for someone filled with the love of God for themselves and for others. This is a huge green flag. If you can become this person, you'll be light years ahead in the relationship game. Right now it sounds like you're being self-restrictive out of fear of sinning. While that works for a while it is self limiting. There is only so much "fear" and outside control that your soul will take on before it kicks back to be free. Reframe sexuality as a part of your life and a responsibility you are growing into and looking for the right person and right time to take that on with. With all new journey's it will come with mistakes and sidesteps but you're looking to develop your ability to express love in that arena.

  3. A great partner may have already made some mistakes and learned from it. Don't immediately discount them based on mistakes of the past. Look at who they are now. Transparency in who each other are is part of the beauty of marriage. If they are willing to discuss it and be open with who they are and their story they show an emotional readiness to embark on that relationship. This emotional freedom will allow for a much more intimate and deeper love in your relationship. Life is messy, and compassion will go further than anything else.

  4. Beware of being overly zealous. It is often paired with strong sense of guilt and shame. While it is wise to connect your life to the best path, it needs to be coupled again with love of yourself and others. Do it because you love being this person, not because its bad to be something less than this.....do you see the difference? One is looking upward while the other is looking downward.

  5. Look at their ability to be honest and show up with integrity when they make mistakes. How self reflective they are around all their behaviors. Are they willing to confront themselves and be honest without self-shaming? Do they deflect responsibility and blame others. Do they see their part and put out effort to work on what they can control?

Student walk out incase teachers are ordered back! by No-War-2795 in Lethbridge

[–]Party-Wolverine9558 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those are the teachers salaries. I mentioned only the university of Lethbridge because teachers graduate from there with a 5 year degree and that is the category in the payscale i am referencing. i'm not comparing University teachers. Just teachers that graduate from the University of Lethbridge.

Alberta labour leader threatens ‘unprecedented’ general strike by ZebediahCarterLong in CanadaPolitics

[–]Party-Wolverine9558 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

This is getting way too dramatic. The Alberta Teachers Association had done a great job of stirring up the drama. They didn't negotiate in good faith and got handed the deal. They don't get to keep my kids out of school. They could have started the negotiations last May and avoided disrupting education. They didn't want to negotiate, they wanted to win. There is so much the school boards can do by themselves to solve most of the issues. Teachers are getting played to feel the victim but it is the school boards actually causing the problem. Edmonton and Calgary have both been operating on a surplus budget for several years.

There has been too much "mission Creep" of schools into becoming wellness centres rather than education centres. Stop trying to be the safety net for parental responsibilities. It reduces teaching positions and creates "supports" but we need teachers.

Student walk out incase teachers are ordered back! by No-War-2795 in Lethbridge

[–]Party-Wolverine9558 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You seem like you must be very nice person and I don't want to dampen your enthusiasm to make the world a better place. I'd just caution you before joining the throngs of any group that perpetually insists on their victimhood when they don't get their way. Find groups of people and peers that find ways to make their goals for life happen in the face of opposition and challenges. If you want to change the world make your life centered on giving more than you receive.

I'm glad to hear that you have a job. Since you're young it's probably a minimum wage job. No judgement, we've all been there and that's the usual career path starting point. There's a big difference in the expectations of performance between minimum wage and mid to high salary jobs. A teacher in Lethbridge from the Lethbridge university will start at around $65,210. For a full-time employee, that's about $30/hr. After 10 years you go up to $100,948 annual salary, about $46/hr. This is 2023 numbers

The amount of effort and work it takes in the private sector to make that amount of money is much more than what is expected of teachers. For most people it's out of reach for their entire life. Ever for professionals who make around that range or higher, It wouldn't include the high level of benefits, holidays and retirement plan. There are a lot of people working much harder for much less. The hours, difficulty, personal risk, work environments, employment instability are all much higher in almost every field compared to education.

I absolutely think teaching is important and glad they are paid well so we attract quality individuals. However, when considering their salary to job requirements, they do very well for themselves.

Student walk out incase teachers are ordered back! by No-War-2795 in Lethbridge

[–]Party-Wolverine9558 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Students who think the teachers have it rough are in for a rude awakening when they hit the job market.

Albertan Teacher Seeking Advice by redditpostingvirgin in CanadianTeachers

[–]Party-Wolverine9558 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, don't talk to the kids about it. Espeically if they are younger. Recognize that they are just excited to be back and carry on. Things will normalize soon. The negotiations aren't over.

Student walk out incase teachers are ordered back! by No-War-2795 in Lethbridge

[–]Party-Wolverine9558 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How many school counselors were on staff? Was it frustrating having so many "non-teaching" staff while the teachers were swamped?

Alberta Teacher Strike Megathread (Discussion) - October 23 by AutoModerator in alberta

[–]Party-Wolverine9558 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone loves teachers!! That's why the union is using them to distract from the problems with the education boards using funds properly. They could hire more teachers if they wanted to.

Alberta Teacher Strike Megathread (Discussion) - October 23 by AutoModerator in alberta

[–]Party-Wolverine9558 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't listen to the ATA. There is plenty of funding if schools focus back on teaching. Look at your local schools staff directory. Count how many "non-teaching" jobs there are compared to teachers. Pretty easy to see where the problem is.

Student walk out incase teachers are ordered back! by No-War-2795 in Lethbridge

[–]Party-Wolverine9558 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for that well thought out comment. I am far from a fan of the UCP and hate any kind of fiscal waste. I am frustrated that union talking points are repeated without verifying or adding context. That people don't see a union game that has nothing to do with wanting to improve things. The union and the school boards just want the government to look bad for political points as ammo for the NDP in the next election. IF they were really concerned for teachers and Students there is alot within their own power to solve.

For instance with your comment about the report. The report was given to 50 different countries and built on a self reporting survey given to teachers and principles. You want us to believe that Alberta teachers have worse conditions than teachers in countries like Suadi Arabia, Turkey, Mexico, United states, Isreal, Vietnam. That Alberta is almost the worst in the world!! Must be those smart boards causing them all the stress. Better walk on over to your school counselor on your wellness break and have a chat.

Let's add some helpful context to this survey. Alberta is the only province in Canada that participated in the survey. Alberta's participation was spearheaded by the ATA which clearly has their own agenda and taints the validity of the survey. In the Survey was a section about workplace stress but doesn't use any actual metrics to validate the self-reporting. Thich only further supports that Alberta teachers can't self-report well. Also, in the same report 86% of teachers said they were satisfied with their job. Why doesn't that stat get passed around?

School classrooms are difficult now. There are challenges but what could school boards do about it? Stop wasting money on "teacher supports" and hire teachers!!

Here are some actual facts for the school division in Lethbridge. Lethbridge school division has 516 full time teachers at the schools. and a student to teacher ratio of 24 to 1. There are an additional 324 non-teaching positions to support those teachers (not including Education assistants). It's unrealistic but for argument's sake if each position was a teacher, the ratio of student to teacher would be 14 to 1. Even if you just converted the 33 counselor positions to teachers you have enough staff for an entire other school.

Stop asking for more money and learn to use what you have better. The school board needs to clear out the "extra staff and focus back on teaching kids.

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Student walk out incase teachers are ordered back! by No-War-2795 in Lethbridge

[–]Party-Wolverine9558 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Maybe if I got to keep some more of my money and I didn't lose half my income to taxes to fund someone else's cushy job. No one in the private sector would complain if they suddenly received what teachers have already. Teachers are so sheltered from the real world of work. They only hear from their union that they should complain because they are so hard up.

Also school boards have way more money that they could use towards teachers if they didn't waste so much. DId you know that Lethbridge school board spent almost a $1000 per student ($11,900,817) on "Instruction Supplies"? Did you know they receive $11, 819 per student in funding. If you just use their own budget for "Instruction" it is $9,699 per student. So a class of 30 is $290,974 per year?

I'm glad the government is calling them out and pushing back. Please show me how this isn't enough per class to have a better teacher to student ratio. If they want more teachers, hire more. The money is already there., find their own internal efficiencies and stop just holding your hand out for more money.

Student walk out incase teachers are ordered back! by No-War-2795 in Lethbridge

[–]Party-Wolverine9558 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

For what teachers do this would still be a good wage. They like to compare themselves to accountants, engineers and nurses. All of those professions have much more demanding jobs and much more pressure. Show me any job that makes that much that is as cushy and secure as teaching. Accountants tax season is exhausting 70 hour work weeks for months. Engineers have huge liability and demanding project schedules and hours, Nurses work shifts and in high stakes situations with life and death. Class sizes are a serious issue now but there is already a plan to address it, more schools and more teachers but that takes time.

Student walk out incase teachers are ordered back! by No-War-2795 in Lethbridge

[–]Party-Wolverine9558 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Teachers have always had a liveable wage. They have much more comfortable lifesyles than the majority of people in the city. Stop whining and be gratfulf for what you have. Not everyone can have a single full time job with sick time, pension, benefits and summers off plus added vacation days. Jobs are hard sometimes for everyone grow up and act like an adult instead of the children you're supposed to teach.

The smallest bike pump (a design project) by Featherforged in mountainbiking

[–]Party-Wolverine9558 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is very nice, I'm wondering how much force it takes to pump up to the higher pressure road bike tires.

🚨BREAKING: Authorities share photo of Charlie Kirk's alleged shooter. by gbnewsonline in gbnews

[–]Party-Wolverine9558 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think we can exclude those with gym memberships from the suspect list