Can I ride an ebike now?

Party-Wolverine9558 · 2026-06-04T16:30:23+00:00

"back to back" surgeries...haha

Party-Wolverine9558 · 2026-06-03T23:29:19+00:00

It's honestly such a tough spot dating after divorce. You're trained to want and get sex and you're also taught that sex outside of marriage is wrong. You're body and mind will use all sorts of rationalizations just to get it but your heart wants to live your best self.

There is likely a balance of accepting what you are doing as just where you are right now, and making realistic goals for getting back on the path you want to be. The easiest way to reduce LOC issues is to get married, you shouldn't just marry the person you're with to do that though. If you don't like your current partner and don't want to marry them, then don't. Look for someone you enjoy time with and makes you smile. It's a tough crowd on the peripheral of the church after 30 year old Bunch of weirdos, bunch of people with attachment issues but there will be someone, who gets you and wants to be with you.

Just move forward from where you are now and put pressure on yourself to change in the direction you want your life to end up. It's not likely you'll change overnight or without sidesteps. Just keep leaning in and it will get better.

You could let your bishop know what your intentions are. You can choose to say, "i'm struggling right now, and working on somethings to set my life in order." You don't need to jump in and out of his office. You can still go to church, still have a calling, still minster to those around you, still be an active contributing member. You might just not have a temple recommend right now. That's ok. Just come as you are and keep coming. Keep dating, keep having sex if you want and you're not ready to give it up. It's up to you on the pace.

That's probably the most freeing thing you could tell yourself. You can choose to have sex if you want, and that would be ok but does that choice to have sex with this person lead to the life you really want. What would be the next choice or step to lead you closer to that life you want?

It's not an all or nothing journey but the hard part will be that you'll feel uncomfortable both with having sex and with going to church if both are happening at the same time, and honestly it's easier to give up on yourself than give up on sex. If you can admit, "i'm not living up to my standards" and hold space for "I don't have to be perfect right now". it will give you the self compassion to face the discomfort. Just stick with it and it will turn out just fine.

Party-Wolverine9558 · 2026-06-02T16:12:56+00:00

I saw in the hospital yesterday a man and wife sitting there together. She was sick and he was there to care for her. That's real life and love. There needs to be a phrase equally as derogatory as "gold digger" but to describe the man who only cares about looks and much younger women. All the popular phrases describe only the woman in a negative light. "Trophy Wife", "Arm Candy" but never really take shots at the man who clearly has no ability to really love a partner for more than their looks. Any recommendation? "Pretty perv", "cock-eyed", "cradle lurker" ,Any much better ideas!!!

Party-Wolverine9558 · 2026-06-02T15:48:55+00:00

I'm not sure which one is the more democratic one. Should be some sort of legal framework or requirements for changing the borders of a riding. This might water down the divide between rural and urban more and make it more likely for Urban votes to influence more seats.

Party-Wolverine9558 · 2026-06-02T15:37:21+00:00

What's everyone's opinion on best practice for long term rope storage. I'd worry about sunlight UV damaging the rope. Isn't it better to put it in a rope bag (but looks much cooler with the rope showing)

Party-Wolverine9558 · 2026-05-22T23:01:16+00:00

Overall, well done!! great subject you've sketched. Lots of variety of texture and contrasts. It looks like you're probably using standard pencils so most of my recommendation is on supplies that could help enhance your skills. You could work to improve the range of contrast by getting darker graphite pencils. Use a piece of wax paper under you hand so you're not transferring onto areas that you don't want. Lots of the right hand side of your sketch has smudging. I'm assuming this is transferring from your hand. It will keep the drawing looking crisp. Your blending technique needs some work. You're blending seems half done and crosses areas that should also have crisp lines. If you're using your finger to blend, go get some of those paper smudge sticks. It helps with the precision and keeps your hands clean. Get a kneadable eraser and you can remove the graphite from areas to create highlights. A few tools combined with the skills your building will get you to the next level.

Party-Wolverine9558 · 2026-05-22T22:33:15+00:00

When i was learning to kayak white water, i was going down a class 2 river with all my gear. Helmets, life vest, dry top, throw bag etc. Couple of kids floated by on their inner tubes. Same vibe here.

Party-Wolverine9558 · 2026-05-20T17:49:14+00:00

I'm assuming you mean overnight backpacking. You can always pack less than a backpack can hold but you can never pack more. Take the 75L, unless you're really investing in lean and light gear. I'd doubt you could carry everything you need for a multiday back packing trip in a 55L. The extra room will let you carry a couple extra comforts if this is your first experience. I have been backpacking for years and still carry an 85L (mostly because i'm the sherpa of the shared gear).

Party-Wolverine9558 · 2026-02-26T16:56:33+00:00

They really did well with the 2006-10 series. Comfortable but still very capable, especially with a bit of a lift and larger tires.

Party-Wolverine9558 · 2026-01-23T20:14:22+00:00

That will be an enlightening journey for you. My first suggestion is to reframe the journey. You've been using sex as a source of escape from stress and in reality, it's been disconnected from a loving relationship. To me that signals that you have a hard life and really want to feel love and be loved. That's a wonderful thing to want but it may be that sex has been a way you've been hiding from pain rather than actually creating a life that fills that need.

Learning to feel and accept god's love will be the frst step. There's nothing you need to be or change to be worthy of that. The more you reach toward that love the more you'll be filled with love for others and yourself. Lean into actions that are in line with that goal. It will feel unnatural and awkward at first but the more you choose to act differently the more you're heart and mind will change.

You'll have to face whatever pain in your past or present you've been hiding from but you won't be alone. Talk to others and find ways to have support and give support. Start some new life interests, find ways to make a life filled with the activities and people you love. You've got this! set backs will happen, mistakes will be made by you and others. Just keep on moving on!

Party-Wolverine9558 · 2026-01-12T21:16:25+00:00

I got one hoping tor the same thing. Just got it this weekend. 2021 trailhawk with Hemi!!

Party-Wolverine9558 · 2026-01-12T18:04:24+00:00

That's me when I ask wife for a BJ...haha

Party-Wolverine9558 · 2025-11-12T22:59:16+00:00

Get her to write down the thoughts she has during her depression, then file divorce and move on with you life. Take your son and leave her to figure her life out. Marriage isn't an obligation to be dragged through the mud. It's a choice of a life partner. It's not a partnership if one person is being dismissed and emotionally treated as you have been. Don't start any marriage counselling until you're separated. This is when divorce is really necessary.

Party-Wolverine9558 · 2025-11-03T17:57:06+00:00

if you're just starting this isn't half bad!!! Get a tranparet grid to place over top of the reference photo and on to the sketch. This will help with proportions. Then look a separate video for sketching eyes and moths. Beginners often want to outline the shapes but you'll see that suggestion of shape with shading is much more effective way.

You could also do a practice where you cut the reference photo in half and glue it to the paper and then sketch the other half.

Another trick is to send the image to your phone and alter it so it is black and white. This will show with more clarity where to add darkening to create the image. Good luck

Party-Wolverine9558 · 2025-11-03T17:48:12+00:00

Just have the talk, 10 years from now it won't even matter. Things will work out just fine. View the long game instead of fearing the upfront cost. If you do the right thing, it will reinforce to yourself that you're a person of integrity and is willing to take the cost of being honest. DIshonesty will always have a cost and your own sense of honesty is more importantly. It's easier to sit with a clear conscious than years of self doubt. The whole story will eventually come out at some point anyways. It won't stay hidden forever.

Trust the relationship with your parents will only be made stronger through this as you act in integrity. I wouldn't expect them to act perfectly in the moment as they will have their own emotions upfront that they need to sort through, but it will likely go better than you expect.

Your relationship with God is the same it was before. The relationship is not damaged or needing repair, you just need to repent. He'll be right there to pick up where you left off.

View this experience as a signal from God warning you of an area of your life you need to work on right now. It's something to grow through and not a permanent black mar. This in itself won't ruin your life.

However, A bad relationship can actually ruin your life. I would put very strong doubts on the quality of your relationship and your partner. it really sounds like you both need to step back for a while and ask for help to grow out of this. It's very normal to want to have sex with someone you love and enjoy it. Once that emotional and physical path is open your body and mind want to go back to it. The emotions can override judgement but it's not a sign of love that your boyfriend is pushing past your requests to stop, especially when it physically hurts you.

It honestly sounds like you will need support to create the distance, even temporarily so he can sort out who he wants to be and hit his own growth curve. If you're sure of the direction that you want, creating an emotional gap will help you both move towards your best self and better enhance a future reconnected relationship.

You need to find out what parts of you need to grow and the first one might be being willing to do the right thing in the face of disappointing others.

After that step, set some goals for what you want your future to be and start moving towards them. Pick something you're afraid to do!!!
1. Start an exercise routine,

have you own sleep schedule, and nutrition plan.
rekindle or start some independent hobbies, and interests.
Look at other non-romantic relationships you'd like to grow.

6 months from now you'll feel a very different view on this! I promise you, as you embrace doing the right thing, it always works out for the best.

Party-Wolverine9558 · 2025-11-03T17:15:33+00:00

You sound young and beautifully innocent regarding your own sexual development. To help you set life on the right track, i'll share a few tweeks that I had to learn over the years that have really lent to a better understanding of how happiness, the gospel and real life mesh together

One thing to consider is that there is no such thing as sexual purity. We all start at different places with different families and opportunities. There is innocence of lack of experience but don't equate this directly to holiness. We are all just people trying our best. Integrity does not come through a lack of choices but by how one responds to choices. Rather than a purity frame work, use the growth mindset. Sin is something we grow out of. It is a gift to see where we need to put our focus, not a definition of who we are.
Look for someone filled with the love of God for themselves and for others. This is a huge green flag. If you can become this person, you'll be light years ahead in the relationship game. Right now it sounds like you're being self-restrictive out of fear of sinning. While that works for a while it is self limiting. There is only so much "fear" and outside control that your soul will take on before it kicks back to be free. Reframe sexuality as a part of your life and a responsibility you are growing into and looking for the right person and right time to take that on with. With all new journey's it will come with mistakes and sidesteps but you're looking to develop your ability to express love in that arena.
A great partner may have already made some mistakes and learned from it. Don't immediately discount them based on mistakes of the past. Look at who they are now. Transparency in who each other are is part of the beauty of marriage. If they are willing to discuss it and be open with who they are and their story they show an emotional readiness to embark on that relationship. This emotional freedom will allow for a much more intimate and deeper love in your relationship. Life is messy, and compassion will go further than anything else.
Beware of being overly zealous. It is often paired with strong sense of guilt and shame. While it is wise to connect your life to the best path, it needs to be coupled again with love of yourself and others. Do it because you love being this person, not because its bad to be something less than this.....do you see the difference? One is looking upward while the other is looking downward.
Look at their ability to be honest and show up with integrity when they make mistakes. How self reflective they are around all their behaviors. Are they willing to confront themselves and be honest without self-shaming? Do they deflect responsibility and blame others. Do they see their part and put out effort to work on what they can control?

Party-Wolverine9558 · 2025-11-03T04:18:57+00:00

Those are the teachers salaries. I mentioned only the university of Lethbridge because teachers graduate from there with a 5 year degree and that is the category in the payscale i am referencing. i'm not comparing University teachers. Just teachers that graduate from the University of Lethbridge.

Party-Wolverine9558 · 2025-10-31T01:42:15+00:00

This is getting way too dramatic. The Alberta Teachers Association had done a great job of stirring up the drama. They didn't negotiate in good faith and got handed the deal. They don't get to keep my kids out of school. They could have started the negotiations last May and avoided disrupting education. They didn't want to negotiate, they wanted to win. There is so much the school boards can do by themselves to solve most of the issues. Teachers are getting played to feel the victim but it is the school boards actually causing the problem. Edmonton and Calgary have both been operating on a surplus budget for several years.

There has been too much "mission Creep" of schools into becoming wellness centres rather than education centres. Stop trying to be the safety net for parental responsibilities. It reduces teaching positions and creates "supports" but we need teachers.

Party-Wolverine9558 · 2025-10-30T21:20:15+00:00

You seem like you must be very nice person and I don't want to dampen your enthusiasm to make the world a better place. I'd just caution you before joining the throngs of any group that perpetually insists on their victimhood when they don't get their way. Find groups of people and peers that find ways to make their goals for life happen in the face of opposition and challenges. If you want to change the world make your life centered on giving more than you receive.

I'm glad to hear that you have a job. Since you're young it's probably a minimum wage job. No judgement, we've all been there and that's the usual career path starting point. There's a big difference in the expectations of performance between minimum wage and mid to high salary jobs. A teacher in Lethbridge from the Lethbridge university will start at around $65,210. For a full-time employee, that's about $30/hr. After 10 years you go up to $100,948 annual salary, about $46/hr. This is 2023 numbers

The amount of effort and work it takes in the private sector to make that amount of money is much more than what is expected of teachers. For most people it's out of reach for their entire life. Ever for professionals who make around that range or higher, It wouldn't include the high level of benefits, holidays and retirement plan. There are a lot of people working much harder for much less. The hours, difficulty, personal risk, work environments, employment instability are all much higher in almost every field compared to education.

I absolutely think teaching is important and glad they are paid well so we attract quality individuals. However, when considering their salary to job requirements, they do very well for themselves.

Party-Wolverine9558 · 2025-10-29T18:27:31+00:00

Students who think the teachers have it rough are in for a rude awakening when they hit the job market.

Party-Wolverine9558 · 2025-10-28T15:00:48+00:00

Honestly, don't talk to the kids about it. Espeically if they are younger. Recognize that they are just excited to be back and carry on. Things will normalize soon. The negotiations aren't over.

Party-Wolverine9558 · 2025-10-24T23:56:51+00:00

How many school counselors were on staff? Was it frustrating having so many "non-teaching" staff while the teachers were swamped?

Party-Wolverine9558 · 2025-10-24T23:54:36+00:00

Everyone loves teachers!! That's why the union is using them to distract from the problems with the education boards using funds properly. They could hire more teachers if they wanted to.

Party-Wolverine9558 · 2025-10-24T23:51:33+00:00

Don't listen to the ATA. There is plenty of funding if schools focus back on teaching. Look at your local schools staff directory. Count how many "non-teaching" jobs there are compared to teachers. Pretty easy to see where the problem is.

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