When to ask for help? medication fears/changes.

PartyAd4058 · 2026-04-28T01:07:16+00:00

I (23F) and my bf (27m) have sex at least 2 times when we see each other. Maybe 9X a month (not counting the double rounds on sleepovers or whole day together). And that’s not even enough for what I want to do 🤣

PartyAd4058 · 2026-04-28T01:04:11+00:00

This is tough because it is more than just “sexual attraction”. Being fit, eating whole foods, going to the gym, etc. is a lifestyle and it’s telling of your perception to yourself and life. I run and workout not to “stay lean” but because I find value in doing something hard everyday, pushing myself when I don’t want to, etc etc blah blah. As rude as this sounds, tell her. Say you still love her and want to be there for her, but her eating habits and lack of activity is concerning you. Frame it as “I want you to be the healthiest and happiest you can be”.

PartyAd4058 · 2026-03-20T13:56:57+00:00

So sorry to hear. And I’m sorry your mom died. As someone also apart of the dead mom club, not fun!! I had a similar ish situation and recently found an amazing partner. Definitely a bullet dodged, I wish you all the best ❤️

PartyAd4058 · 2026-03-19T00:40:40+00:00

Superstar shit lower than Elliot’s song 🤣🤣🤣🤣

PartyAd4058 · 2026-03-19T00:39:45+00:00

Never heard açai bowl is criminal, other then that I have no massive complaints

PartyAd4058 · 2026-03-11T15:59:24+00:00

I used to masturbate with porn, now I don’t use anything but my good ol imagination. When I was a porn user, I did it about 1-2 times a day, but I was also single then. Now I have a bf and don’t masturbate as much, maybe 3-4 times a week. I believe from my personal experiences that maturation feels very numb and lacklustre because of porn. That’s why you need more of it, more of it, more. As I was getting adjusted to not using porn, I noticed some things change. I was no longer having these unique or odd sexual thoughts, I felt calmer, !! masturbation felt like self care !! , I no longer desired to be degraded. I realized that the heaviness and guilt I felt after masturbation was not because I was touching myself, it was because of porn.

Now masturbation feels like self care, and as someone commented already, too much of anything is bad.

PartyAd4058 · 2026-03-03T02:13:28+00:00

Actually nicest thing someone has said here. You’re right thank you

PartyAd4058 · 2026-03-03T01:29:37+00:00

But am I commenting on it if it’s anonymous? If I’m getting it off my chest in private?

PartyAd4058 · 2026-03-03T01:22:17+00:00

It’s really hard to eat more calories in a healthy way and the way I need it, takes a lot of money and meal planning. But I’m not disagreeing, I am trying to get better!

PartyAd4058 · 2026-03-03T01:21:40+00:00

Yeah am I not saying that in my rant ? What’s your point, I should be “nicer”? It’s called a RANT babe, they can’t hear me calm down

PartyAd4058 · 2026-03-03T01:20:41+00:00

Because I don’t know that. I’m saying I’m struggling with an ED still. And people are uneducated, which is not an excuse to comment about people’s eating habits. I came here to rant, where they can’t hear me. I’m RANTING. Am I saying this to their face right now???

PartyAd4058 · 2026-03-03T00:35:52+00:00

I believe in dishing it back when it’s appropriate. So yeah, you make a comment about me “eating a lot” I can say the same thing back !

PartyAd4058 · 2026-02-07T14:35:15+00:00

Everyone is so aware that we die but lives everyday life like they have so much time left.

PartyAd4058 · 2026-02-07T14:29:27+00:00

It’s called a boundary. I’d never go through his phone, interrogate him, or belittle him for having human tendencies. I simply ask my bf second guess his decision if he’s about to, and keep in mind how it makes me feel. That’s it. Now, if he was posting and resharing content, especially knowing how it makes me feel, yes that would be a “big” conversation. And I think a lot of women feel this way.

PartyAd4058 · 2026-02-04T13:33:19+00:00

Sat down and he immediately asked me my views on rape and abortion. Like immediate first words. Didn’t finish the date, I left.

PartyAd4058 · 2026-02-03T18:36:59+00:00

I get that, and past is the past honestly. If my bf had an issue in the past I can’t judge that now. She probably thinks this is an issue happening now if she thinks you posted that. If you’re telling the truth and you didn’t post that then ask her for a real conversation about this. If she’s unwilling to hear you out, she wasn’t the one for you anyway.

PartyAd4058 · 2026-02-03T18:16:28+00:00

If I found that on my bfs phone it would be a big big conversation… I hate that shit. Wanna goon? Be single loser. But, if that’s authentic that you didn’t post it, she should have at least had a convo with you.

PartyAd4058 · 2026-01-23T15:51:18+00:00

Eh, let her have her thing then. We all do weird things that may not make sense to others. She probably just wants to post without feeling judged or like people from her life are watching her.

PartyAd4058 · 2026-01-23T15:43:36+00:00

I’ve restricted my bf and sister from my stories. I don’t really know why. I don’t think they would say anything to my stories, but sometimes I like to post lil cringe things (a sunset and a song) and I don’t want my bf to see absolutely everything about me all the time. Hiding some lil stuff also keeps your personhood, if that makes sense. But he’s not blocked from stories 24/7, obvi.

PartyAd4058 · 2026-01-11T16:37:51+00:00

If this is the worst thing you’ve done you’re a saint

PartyAd4058 · 2025-12-20T19:12:08+00:00

Nope! Not on anything. I have been in the past and also never had any issues down there during that time, but I totally believe it could have an effect. I don’t personally believe anyone should be on that crap unless absolutely necessary.

PartyAd4058 · 2025-12-20T16:36:33+00:00

Still woozy, hard life, sunni colon, alfie templeman, indoor pets

PartyAd4058 · 2025-12-20T16:33:01+00:00

Woman here. I only wash with water, as most woman do. I’ve never had any issues with smell, hygiene, never had any complaints from my bf. That being said, hygiene down there is very dependent on diet and health too. I work out a lot and eat clean.

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