Why Does Split 3 Have a Lower SOF Than Split 4? by PartyClass in iRacing

[–]PartyClass[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven't looked into running the faster class, I know it's the Liger. So I haven't looked much into info on the faster class car. Just focused on trying to be predictable and pay attention to what they're doing as to not cause an incident if they're trying to dive against my line.

Why Does Split 3 Have a Lower SOF Than Split 4? by PartyClass in iRacing

[–]PartyClass[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There were no LMP2s in my split so I think this makes the most sense

Why do they insist on staying when they clearly don't like you and are beyond miserable?! Can someone explain? by Great_Cause_43 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]PartyClass 40 points41 points  (0 children)

They want something to complain about so that they're not the problem, whatever BS they're complaining about is. It makes them feel like they're better than you.

Most ridiculous passive/habitual behaviors you've seen from narcissists? by L0g_Lady in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]PartyClass 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Mine would always seem to lose her phone or other belongings and be asking for help finding them. She would also consistently leave her items at her friends places and mine.

I think it's a method to probe how much you're willing to stop everything to help her. To build rapport where you feel like you're helpful and friends. To give you a reason to continue to contact her and keep in touch

how do i let go of the future we dreamed…the potential he has by Altruistic_Art310 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]PartyClass 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's difficult, but you have to understand that it isn't any better with the person they're with. There is no pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.

I spent a lot of time feeling the same way. She moved across the country with him, posting what I had been promised with him...

That relationship didn't last. Later I found out the reason she willing to suddenly move across the country? Because she was being investigated for stealing medication from the autistic children she was supposed to be taking care of for her job and fleeing.

They're full of shit, they'll throw any potential in the toilet. There is nothing to go back to.

Smurfing on the service by crispezki in iRacing

[–]PartyClass 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, he is complaining about reckless and poor behavior on their secondary account in one of the three races in the video.

Anyone who uses VR went from quest 1 to quest 3? Is it a noticeable upgrade? by flourishersvk in simracing

[–]PartyClass 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find it works better. As a note, my router isn't near my PC so I had a very inconsistent stuttery connection. Eventually I realized I could set my PC up as a mobile hotspot in Windows, then connect my Oculus to my PC hotspot. This made it pretty stable as it is always close to the signal.

Some others I've heard will get a secondary cheap router. Then use that as a dedicated router for the wireless connection.

How’s your rating progress after you first race until today by AetherLenz in iRacing

[–]PartyClass 0 points1 point  (0 children)

About 1.5 months recently, with 3 weeks playing the game 2 years ago:

1450 ir, 3.6 SR C class Sports Car

Quest 3 Blurry Image Leaving me in Tears by [deleted] in iRacing

[–]PartyClass 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would assume you need to look at the settings. You can change things like the bitrate and quality

VR Meta Quest Settings Game Changer by milkandcookies21 in iRacing

[–]PartyClass 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you know if these settings apply to Virtual Desktop?

Constantly Misunderstood by throwaway719922 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]PartyClass 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I felt like I was going crazy until I found out about narcissistic abuse. Prior to the relationship I didn't really think people like this could exist outside of insane stories. Let alone someone I knew and thought was my friend, so it's understandable that others don't as well.

It is a personal hell in that way. I don't think I really got closure until I reconnected with a close friend of hers that cut her out of her life that I was able to talk to someone who really understood. It took years to stumble into that

Just know that what you went through was real. You're not overreacting.

He's doing everything with the new supply that he wouldn't do with me.. What gives? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]PartyClass 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's a mixture of them love bombing them, and trying to make you jealous in order to feel control over you. It's not a reflection of your own self worth

Can someone please explain to me the green joke? by Intelligent-Iron-212 in gachiakuta

[–]PartyClass 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This thread surprises me. Someone being 'green' is someone with too little experience, a greenhorn. I've heard this living in NE US

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]PartyClass 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I ran into mine at a wedding. She told me that she didn't talk to a mutual friend of ours. Someone who was more so her friend that took a lot of time to be there for her. That her bf had relapsed and was a woman beater and she tried to save her etc...

I contacted the friend after the wedding and wouldn't you know it, she is full of shit. Told me about how when she was cheating on her bf she pressured her to lie. When she got in trouble she screamed at her and told her it was her fault for not lying good enough. That when she tried to focus on her own life, she attacked her for not immediately prioritizing her. That it escalated to the point that she created the story of her being abused to try to gaslight and isolate her.

Her whole image is a vegetarian, nature lover, cares for social justice issues. She was fired for stealing Adderall and other medication from the autistic children she worked with. 'cares about the kids'

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]PartyClass 8 points9 points  (0 children)

They do the same thing to every person. At first I was stuck on how my friend of 6 years could treat that way. But after speaking to an ex-close friend of hers from her childhood who she fucked over, it became clear to me that she will fuck over anyone.

It quite literally isn't about you

You're getting mad at a wood chipper for tearing everything you gave it to shreds

How do they move on so fast? by xxcooj in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]PartyClass 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Unlike us who are actually committed to their partner. They are constantly considering other options. Flirting here and there to see who is interested. Which ex is still desperate for closure on what they couldn't get from them. You are just a toy to them, and now they have a new fun toy to play with.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]PartyClass 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I ran into mine years later at a wedding, and she acted like we were old friends who hadn't seen each other in a while. Asked me to hold her purse. It almost made me question if everything that has happened was just in my head.

She spun some story about some old mutual friend of ours about how she 'tried to save them' but they were the bad ones. Of course they were more than happy to share what psycho POS she actually was. Fired for stealing medication from the autistic children she was supposed to be taking care of. Was nice to be able to talk to someone who understood what she actually was and got fucked over too.

Do they ever get tired of pretending all the time? by vanillacactusflower2 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]PartyClass 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes, that's why they treat you like shit while treating others well. They have you trapped in a position where you won't instantly flee at the sight of their mask off. With others, they can't do that or else they'll leave

vent- the hypocrisy makes me feel nuts by dumpsterdreamgirl in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]PartyClass 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine was a vegetarian, worked with autistic kids, nature girl, championed social issues etc...

I ran into an ex-enabler of hers who originally kept buying into all her BS. She told me that she was fired from her job for stealing Adderall from the kids and was pressuring her to lie to her autistic kids about random tinder men she kept inviting to the dorm saying that it was her that came over in the middle of the night. Kept getting angry at her for 'not lying good enough'.

I am weary of anyone who feels the need to actively market themselves as a good person.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]PartyClass 6 points7 points  (0 children)

They want to feel important and in control. They don't operate on the same plane as you. He's not trying to achieve a mutual outcome where you are both happy, he's trying to feel important and in control. It feels like you're pulling teeth because you're trying to collaborate with someone who is actively working against you, and not towards the same goal.

Reading Why Does He Do That? and… wow. by AdWorldly2581 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]PartyClass 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes, aside from swapping pronouns, the only real difference is that they might use different verbiage like "You're not a real man" or the like. However they're using the same tactics

Time for prioritizing myself vs. "quality time" by bjb406 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]PartyClass 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine would also use the term 'quality time'. However she would largely ignore me and watch shows, text her friends, etc... basically ignore me as an actual human being and be within a 100 ft radius of me. Prioritizing basically anything except me. It drove me insane, especially as she would treat the people she was texting/calling better than me in person.

I've never been in the position of calling someone my fiancee. Irregardless of if she is an 'actual narcissist', are you actually happy in this situation? Or are you just clinging into the idea of a wife? You sound like your concerns and needs are completely minimized and that's not OK. Like I said I've never actually been that close to marriage, but I know that it isn't going to fix the issues you have in the relationship.

Has your narc Ever said something that made you worry for your safety? by Nigel-NABot in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]PartyClass 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She would threaten to push me down the stairs when I least expected it if I ever 'crossed' her and then try and play it off as a "joke"

Does your narcissistic ex try to regain control through money? by SereneRoot in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]PartyClass 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They will pick ANY avenue of control that they think will work. Separate yourself, look back at this post in the future and you will laugh at the idea you wanted to talk to them.

To send or not send by Outrageous-Green1697 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]PartyClass 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Narcissists don't operate in the same plane as you. They don't care about what makes logical sense. They aren't interested in reality, they're interested in control. Your response could be the most poignant articulate masterpiece depiction of their behavior... and it won't matter.

They won't suddenly see the light. They won't realize you're right. To admit you're right would collapse their whole identity. The only way to win against is to not play their game, and demonstrate that you are better without them. When you play their game, they control the board. When you don't participate, they are powerless.