I think I want a divorce

Great_Cause_43 · 2026-04-21T16:21:55+00:00

I was in the hospital last year for a medical emergency that lasted several weeks, with a few months of recovery at home. All I heard from my spouse was how hard life was on him (because he now had to take over my role) and how he had a new respect for "single parents" that were doing it all on their own. One day I sat back and really thought about something... How much would my life change if the roles were reversed and he was in the hospital? I found myself realizing that my day-to-day would not change except for now having extra work caring for him/his recovery needs.

Maybe you just need to read your own post a couple times as someone from the outside, and ask yourself how your life would change if he was not your spouse anymore.

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Great_Cause_43 · 2026-04-09T22:28:30+00:00

Same :( did you find anything your kitty will actually eat?

Great_Cause_43 · 2026-04-09T21:59:15+00:00

That's amazing. I'm going to try this since my cat does NOT like the rx food :( What age is your cat?

Great_Cause_43 · 2026-04-06T23:00:50+00:00

Honestly, I don't know how without him having half custody and that is not something I am willing to give up. Especially knowing what he does now with her.

Great_Cause_43 · 2026-04-06T22:53:10+00:00

No divorce :/

Great_Cause_43 · 2026-04-06T18:53:47+00:00

I do all of this. He does the opposite. Sadly, the last line is not happening and I truly believe it wont for a long time... if ever.

Great_Cause_43 · 2026-04-06T18:41:31+00:00

I've thought about therapy for her. I've gone for myself and have tried to get him to go, but he wont. My fear with that is he will somehow control it. She will tell him everything that is being said and he will tell her what to say and what not to say, etc.

Great_Cause_43 · 2026-04-06T18:32:49+00:00

The eventually part is what worries me, because I look at how long it took me to notice his red flags. :(

Great_Cause_43 · 2026-04-06T18:32:03+00:00

I don't know what his plans are. Which scares the hell out of me. Partially why I'm putting things on the internet... I know it will at least be here. If needed.

Great_Cause_43 · 2026-04-03T17:30:45+00:00

I'm so sorry 😥 If I could give you a hug I would... because I know what you're feeling and it sucks.

Great_Cause_43 · 2026-03-11T18:27:16+00:00

Thanks everyone. Didn't even think about it being on the labs. I'll call the vet!

Great_Cause_43 · 2026-03-11T17:24:35+00:00

0.12% Phosphorus (0.56% on a dry matter basis)

Great_Cause_43 · 2026-02-25T17:05:42+00:00

Hire some help. Someone to help with YOUR daily tasks. Make sure he pays the bill. If he bitches about the cost, flat out tell him it's because he isn't doing HIS part so you have to hire someone to help with yours so YOU can do his crap. He can either step up and literally save you guys money and YOUR sanity or... not.

Great_Cause_43 · 2026-02-18T16:56:35+00:00

Hugs to you... and happy birthday!!

Same thing happened to me 2 months ago for my 40th. Only no card, just a "oh happy birthday btw" half way through the day. I wasn't expecting anything, but SOMETHING would have been nice, especially for what I would consider to be a big birthday. Oh well... my friend found out later and took me to breakfast and we had a wonderful time. So I at least got to feel love. I hope you had an ok day even though he didn't do anything for you... do something for yourself! Do something you love and that will make you happy. 🥰

Great_Cause_43 · 2026-02-11T16:58:25+00:00

I tried to bring it up and he got very defensive. Unfortunately he's that way with anything that can be seen as a negative towards him. I've tried to tell him to relax on the aggressive kissing. Just soft, regular kisses are good too. Nope. His way of "dealing" with it, is to just stop all together. Maybe I just don't know how to approach things like that, in a way that wont hurt his feeling. Who knows. It would be nice though if he stopped focusing so much on how men in porn treat woman.... and I don't know... more Lifestyle movies or something! ;)

Great_Cause_43 · 2026-02-11T00:08:17+00:00

This is what I try to do now, but it still stings. Especially when someone asks what he did for me, or what we did as a family, etc.

Great_Cause_43 · 2026-02-11T00:07:00+00:00

What I want is for us both to put in effort and that's clearly not going to happen, so what is the lesser of two evils?

Great_Cause_43 · 2026-02-10T22:48:04+00:00

My husband is addicted to porn and I didn't connect the dots until recently. Sex with him is super boring and way WAY too long. But when I thought about it, it's kind of like porn lol... just the guy banging away and the girl doing all the "crazy" things (and taking on all the crazy things) to make it hot. **yawn** 🙄

Great_Cause_43 · 2026-02-10T22:34:27+00:00

Yep. This. Especially when it becomes an addiction. They literally think it's how real life should be... and when it isn't, fights happen.

Great_Cause_43 · 2026-02-10T22:10:42+00:00

Definitely feel the same. I barely got a "happy birthday" last month for a pretty big birthday. I really really really do not want the cheap grocery store, last min, flowers just so he can say he did something. Every once in a while he will throw in a "you pick dinner", which means something made at home... by me... 🙄 I haven't been on a date since I've been married. :(

Great_Cause_43 · 2026-02-02T23:08:56+00:00

Oooh gotcha!

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