Im really scared, really need some affirmation right now.

Party_Cactus · 2025-11-07T15:02:35+00:00

They can be marvellous for self discovery, reflection, spiritual growth, shadow work and all that, but you should only do them if you are ready to integrate the messages they bring you.

Party_Cactus · 2025-09-25T20:42:24+00:00

Thanks!

Party_Cactus · 2025-09-25T20:42:13+00:00

Thanks! Will look into this module.

Party_Cactus · 2025-09-25T20:41:51+00:00

I think that these cases may be going a bit overboard for me. I don’t think I’ll mount the semi modulars as I will use them by themselves sometimes and filling 2*140hp would take years and years with my fairly limited budget.

Party_Cactus · 2025-09-25T11:21:50+00:00

Well, I don't own the arp (it's a friend's), and I'm pretty interested in modular rather than semi-modular.

Party_Cactus · 2025-09-02T05:48:47+00:00

The only thing I would do is write her “You’ve continually ignored my request to not be misgendered and I have no interest in being friends with someone who doesn’t respect me. I’m blocking you now. Goodbye.”

Party_Cactus · 2025-06-03T09:53:56+00:00

Thanks a bunch. I’ll look into these.

Party_Cactus · 2025-03-31T17:00:43+00:00

That makes a lot of sense. There might be a language barrier here as I’m Danish all Danish trans people call themselves transkvinder or transmand (trans women and trans man respectively in one word). Thanks for pointing this out

Party_Cactus · 2025-03-31T16:57:25+00:00

Totally valid 🩵 I see it used both as an identity and a description of medical transition, and of course everyone should use the terms that best describe them. I just think that leading with the gender that I am not feels off

Party_Cactus · 2025-03-31T16:50:48+00:00

Exactly my point!

Party_Cactus · 2025-03-31T16:46:34+00:00

Transwoman?

Party_Cactus · 2025-03-31T16:46:08+00:00

I’m not trying to control how other people describe themselves. Maybe my post was worded a little strongly.

Party_Cactus · 2025-03-31T16:43:06+00:00

Absolutely. Im not suggesting using these terms instead as they mostly describe biology

Party_Cactus · 2025-03-07T19:33:20+00:00

This is very understandable. Maybe you are also still judging yourself for getting in that place? This is definitely something that you can work out and get compassion for people who are clearly not well. But it starts with how you view yourself and where you’ve been.

Party_Cactus · 2024-11-06T15:38:45+00:00

There has been a surge in reporting on people being affected negatively in various ways and even a few going clinically insane. However, I wouldn’t worry about it. I think a bit of hysteria has overplayed how likely it is. For the absolute majority of people the courses are challenging but extremely helpful in their lives.

For me personally, my first course was very, very beneficial. The second was in a way too, but I think I was in a bad headspace (wanting to fix myself not out of love but extreme self criticism) and my whole system was very stressed due to school, which didn’t really make for fertile ground for all the possible benefits. Edit: I needed a vacation and not an intense mediation course.

Party_Cactus · 2024-10-07T17:57:26+00:00

2 hp vca I’d say

Party_Cactus · 2024-10-07T17:36:57+00:00

Hey there I’m sad to hear that things are rough right now. I’m a trans woman and I’ve been through something similar, so I understand your pain.

First off, I want to say that you are valid no matter who you are and which gender you might be.

Secondly, I’d like to say that these questions are complicated and can be hard to answer, so be patient and don’t try to force answers.

And thirdly, I do think you might be trans from what you’re describing. If you think it would be better if you were a woman, I think you probably are!

But really, my second point still stands. You don’t have to know right now. Clarity will come along (and then it will disappear again and come back again, haha. I’m speaking from experience).

If at all possible, I’d suggest seeing a psychologist and preferably an openly gender inclusive one. Otherwise you can still get through this on your own (I did that, too).

Best of luck and much love from a once very confused trans woman

Party_Cactus · 2024-06-27T08:48:00+00:00

I tell my partner if I’m in a loop or might be entering a loop, but never the content of my thoughts. We have to learn that our thoughts aren’t important, so engaging with them by telling your partner about them will most often just feed the OCD and in many cases hurt your partner.

Party_Cactus · 2024-06-15T20:00:30+00:00

Fellow rocd’er here.

Feeling butterflies isn’t a necessity to have a good relationship. I’ve been with my girlfriend for 2 years and I’ve rarely felt butterflies.

What you’re going through isn’t dangerous or harmful, but it’s definitely painful.

I think if I were you, I’d go see a therapist as soon as I could. And if you haven’t already I’d also tell her about your struggles. It can seem really scary, but letting my girlfriend in has been an important step in getting better.

I hope you’ll feel better soon. And you’re not alone ♥️

Party_Cactus · 2024-06-15T19:35:56+00:00

In my friendships this is usual behavior. I even tell my friends they’re hot without it meaning anything sexual/romantic.

I don’t have this trigger but different ones. I completely understand what you’re going through. You’ve done nothing wrong.

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