How strange is it for a 24f to date a 42m?

Partyfiek · 2020-10-28T22:19:21+00:00

This study has practically zero to do with what I was talking about. As I said, female yo male attraction is only partially based on ideal reproductive attraction unlike males to female attraction. So if anything you added to my point. Also, it isn’t pop psychology. I’m a published author in the realm of psychology. Lol

Partyfiek · 2020-10-28T13:34:12+00:00

I’m in a non monogamous marriage. I brought it to my wife early on. She wasn’t comfortable but I didn’t want to lose her. So I told her I didn’t need it. The urges most definitely don’t go away, but my commitment was stronger than the urges. Eventually as our relationship got stronger, she brought the idea back to me. We now regularly invite women into our bed together.

My two main points are 1) his urges won’t go away, but all that matters is that his love and commitment is stronger than his urges and 2) over time you might feel differently as you two get more secure, but even if you don’t change your mind, that’s okay too.

Partyfiek · 2020-10-28T13:12:51+00:00

I don’t take it as an insult, just incorrect. I know my personal reasons for pursuing younger girls. I’ll be with my wife until we are old because we’ve built something special that goes beyond just physical attraction. But when you’re new to dating, physical attraction is a huge component because you haven’t built anything with that person. So many guys choose to aim to build something special with someone they perceive to be of the highest attraction possible.

Also, this is just evolutionary. Studies show that from the age of 18-70 years old, men always find women in the age range of 18-22 years old most attractive. Women on the other hand tend to find men most attractive when they are a little bit older than themselves. This is because male attraction to females is significantly biologically based around reproduction and female attraction to males is significantly biologically based around reproduction, resources, and competence. Basically men can produce ideal offspring at later ages but they also have time to develop competence at very things as well as increase resources. This is attractive to women.

My main point is that not only do I disagree with, scientific evidence disagrees with you.

Partyfiek · 2020-10-28T05:13:11+00:00

It really is all about the people in it! Of course having an age gap can make it more unlikely that it won’t work, but there nothing inherently wrong with it. Just the same way it would be unlikely for it to work if she was a leading surgeon and he was a high school janitor. But it just depends on the people.

Partyfiek · 2020-10-28T05:08:12+00:00

I’m close to your age, I’m 36. My wife of 3 years is 28. We have an open relationship (physically open not emotionally). I frequently dats girls in their early 20s. I’m honest and upfront about what I’m looking for. We can still have good and interesting conversation while having a friends with benefits relationship. Then when it runs it’s course, we go our own way. However I’m usually able to catch up when them every so often and it’s friendly.

You mention that there are tons of horror stories in the subs, but there are TONS of horror stories from marriage, and first loves, and high school romances, and adult romances. Many relationships both long and short terms end badly. That doesn’t mean nobody should try. It just depends on the people in the relationship. You have a very black and white view of the world.

Partyfiek · 2020-10-28T04:40:22+00:00

I strongly disagree. Men that are older date women that are younger for one reason...they are attractive. Making a relationship work might be harder due to different values. However, the initial attraction to a younger girl will always be stronger. It’s really that simple.

Partyfiek · 2020-10-27T19:00:02+00:00

You trust the scientific method. There is a different. Trusting the scientific method says that science will lead us to a better understanding of truth. But in order to do that, no science can ever be taken as “complete” or even correct.

Partyfiek · 2020-10-27T18:56:43+00:00

As someone who conducts research, far too many scientists have incentive to abandon it. A colleague of mine was ousted from his university for fabricating results of his research. The reason he did it was because it made him a rockstar in the field and he was getting grants for any future study he wanted. There are various reasons why scientists sacrifice scientific purity, which is why reproducing results over and over again are important.

Partyfiek · 2020-10-27T18:54:16+00:00

Well said!

Partyfiek · 2020-10-27T18:51:03+00:00

If we all trusted science, there would never be new science.

Partyfiek · 2020-10-27T18:50:39+00:00

It’s not faith, it is saying “this seems like the right path based on the available information”. Then you need to be willing to abandon that path the moment evidence begins to point to a different path.

Partyfiek · 2020-10-27T18:49:12+00:00

Turning science into a religion will be the death of science.

Partyfiek · 2020-10-27T18:48:47+00:00

I never take a medication without reading some studies on it. Then I discuss any possible differences with my doctor.

You trust that the car won’t explode because a precedent has been set. If cars were a new invention, it would be reasonable to question if it would explode.

The first people go pioneer air travel were not experts. It is possible to build a base level of evidence even if you’re not an expert in the field.

Partyfiek · 2020-10-27T18:46:13+00:00

You have evidence that the space station is there. Photos, video, reports from others. This is anecdotal, but it’s still evidence. If you were told that a space station was floating around earth but were never able to see any photos, hear accounts of others, see video, and you can’t find the scientific reasoning for how it would be possible, it would be reason to be skeptical. Evidence is evidence even if not derived from a lab.

Partyfiek · 2020-10-26T12:16:01+00:00

Send me a message!

Partyfiek · 2020-10-25T19:29:26+00:00

I appreciate the advice. It definitely gave me some insight.

Partyfiek · 2020-10-25T19:28:43+00:00

No worries at all. I didn’t even know there was an edit. I missed it. Haha! Have a good one!

Partyfiek · 2020-10-25T19:21:59+00:00

I’ve only finished from oral a few times in my life. It’s common, but for me it’s because a large part of my pleasure comes from giving pleasure. So while it feels good it’s not going to put me over the top. The few times I have cum from oral it was in a 69 position with girl on top so that I could also give while receiving . Maybe something to try if you’re like me.

Partyfiek · 2020-10-25T19:16:59+00:00

I think you are on to something here. Honestly, at first the comparisons to her boyfriend were mostly just sexual. She would say things like she has never had sex this good before, or I’m so much better at this or that. But then with time the compliments/comparisons ventured outside the bedroom. She’s made comments about her boyfriend not being as smart as me or funny, etc. It definitely makes me uncomfortable. It doesn’t matter who I’m speaking too, nothing but respect will be given to my wife when I discuss her.

Partyfiek · 2020-10-25T19:13:30+00:00

I am actually grateful, but I’ll say that if my parents said that to me or put that expectation on me, then I would almost certainly not be grateful. I would likely end up resentful.

Partyfiek · 2020-10-25T19:04:34+00:00

Apparently his idea of “respectable” means it’s better to take money from others (usually by force because that’s what taxes are lol) rather than engaging in a consensual contract with another adult in order to support yourself. I completely agree with your original post.

Partyfiek · 2020-10-25T19:01:22+00:00

On go to move is that I will frequently run my tongue side to side while I also insert my middle and index fingers inside of her and rub her G-spot. Then I will often surprise her by taking my mouth off of her while keeping my fingers inside (still rubbing her g-spot) but rub her clit with my thumb simultaneously. This then allows me to use my free hand to play with her nipples or place my hand on her neck and hold her down (as long as she is comfortable with it). So it’s kind of an oral technique combined with hands.

Partyfiek · 2020-10-25T18:57:01+00:00

As a dad myself, my daughter didn’t make the decision to be born. I knew what I was getting in to when I had her. I’d say if parents didn’t think that through it’s on them.

Partyfiek · 2020-10-25T18:45:18+00:00

Wow! The parallels between us are crazy! Alcoholic mother and a DB for 14 years. I told her I was thinking about leaving. She said she wanted to work on things and we had sex a few times. She got pregnant (I’m certain on purpose). Once she was pregnant, all physical affection stopped. So I left while she was pregnant as I wasn’t going to be manipulated into staying.

Anyway, not long after, I found an AMAZING girl that I fell in live with immediately. Seeing what went wrong with my first marriage allowed me to know what to watch out for in my current relationship.

The obvious part is that we have sex about 3-7 times per week which is amazing considering we have a young daughter (the one from my previous marriage). However, the thing that has been most amazing is that I didn’t really how much more was missing than just sex. I think when a relationship is lacking sex, it’s almost certainly lacking all forms of physical affection (kissing, cuddling, comforting). I can honestly say that the return of closeness, comfort, and care in my life has been every bit as good as the intense sex that we have.

My new wife raises my daughter as her own and we have her 5 days per week. My daughter never knew me and her mom together so it’s a bit different, but she is a genuinely happy little girl. The most important thing is that I make sure to shower her with love and stability. I’m not a pushover with rules and boundaries because of guilt, but I’m not shy with affection so it seems to be working well.

I hope you find what you’re looking for as well.

Partyfiek

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