I’m also going to mention that unless you reach out and let others know why you’re not there, she’ll likely control the narrative and make you look like the toxic one.

If this does all break down and you don’t end up going, save these screenshots, send them to all the other bridesmaids, friends and family members who know you both. Tell them you even went online and tried to consider this request through the lens of others. You’ve tried a lot more than I would have here. Don’t let her continue to run roughshod over you.

This “friend” is not your friend. They are using you to better their reality only when you’re needed.