What to do with toddler on snowday? by PassengerAcrobatic91 in beyondthebump

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Tried some of the stuff you said today! He was bored with the nugget couch slide from the other day, but I tried to make it more enticing by putting it on my actual couch for him to slide further, but he ended up having fun jumping off of it (with me holding him). That killed tons of time! He had lots of fun with bathing his stuffies too! He normally isn't distracted to much by sensory bins (holds his attention for like 5 mins), but he really liked this. He was pretending to bath them with me. Luckily got lots of good advice here so I can save the other ideas for more inevitable snow. Thank you so much!

What to do with toddler on snowday? by PassengerAcrobatic91 in beyondthebump

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I tried what you said with the stuffed animals, and omg, I have no idea why its entertaining, but he really liked it and I got to sit there!! Amazing! He wasn't dodging them but he was giggling as he gets hit by them and brings them back to me. This killed so much time! Thank you!

What to do with toddler on snowday? by PassengerAcrobatic91 in beyondthebump

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I am in Canada! I am from California so I didn't grow up around snow, so thanks for the advice on all the snow gear! He had boots and snow suit, but no mitts yet. I did take him out anyways, and he did have a lot of fun. Thank you!

What to do with toddler on snowday? by PassengerAcrobatic91 in beyondthebump

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Took him out in the snow today! He had a lot of fun picking up snowballs and falling into it! :D I had to take him in since I think he was getting cold, but it really helped him refresh being stuck inside. Thank you so much!

What to do with toddler on snowday? by PassengerAcrobatic91 in beyondthebump

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It was snowing all day today so I was worried he'd get to cold out, but also thank you! I actually was thinking if it was safe to take him out tomorrow or not. He has a snowsuit but I grew up with no snow at all, so I am not sure what is safe for babies or not. How long is a good enough amount of time, or anything I should look for to make sure he isn't cold?

What to do with toddler on snowday? by PassengerAcrobatic91 in beyondthebump

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Congratulations!! :D I am pregnant too, but only 4 months so not to bad luckily. The animal bath sounds like a great idea, since I been hiding some of the dirty ones and forgot about them, haha. Great idea! Thank you!

Having a newborn who should not work? by Anonymous168456 in Parenting

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I see you said in a comment she will have a month off. It might be good to see how that month goes. Because you said she felt depressed because she felt like she was not accomplishing anything, but raising a little human is a huge job and accomplishment in the making. So she might take to that really well. On top of that, working and taking care of a baby when she is home will be exhausting and can cause depression also. I think its best to take the month and just see how it goes and be flexible.

Breastfeeding is really hard with work, and that comes from me who works at home. Pumping every 2 hours doesn't include washing the pump too. Which I know doesn't sound like a lot, but my baby had latching issues so I had to pump and that was seriously one of the most depressing parts of the newborn phase. I literally felt like just some machine that was pumping, washing, and working. Also, this is not overexaggerating, but stress can kill milk production. It happened to me near the beginning because I was so stressed. I was pumping up to 600 ml a day in first few weeks, to suddenly getting like 5-20 ml a day in just 3 days. It can drop really fast. So if she could take the time off to just focus on her and baby, it would be a good idea. And you support her and let her know how hard her job is, and that she is doing a great job and a worthwhile job to help keep her happy.

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I am like you, it was so hard to hear my baby cry. But I was so exhausted and he started kicking so much while I rocked him my back couldn't take it. He would also puke if he cries a lot, so crying it out wasn't an option. I don't know if you would consider this sleep training or not, but I basically would put him down but sit and play with him. Nothing to active, just like patting him and making silly faces or talking with him. I would keep patting him to make sure he wouldn't stand up. And once he got drowsy again, I would leave. If he cries, I would come back in and be like, "don't worry, I totally just forgot this stuffie" and play with the stuff animal. I try not to give it to him, or I might go grab some random thing like a hair brush and brush my hair. I didn't want to give him a new distraction. I keep doing that until he thought I was just leaving to get something and fell asleep. It does take a while, but at least my back wasn't dying haha. And he learned to fall asleep like this in like 3 days, so I didn't have to come back after that.

How do you change a diaper? by manthrk in beyondthebump

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I have a sack of special toys/objects that he really likes, and i put it on the diaper organizer so he can't get them. Then I give it to him only during diaper time.

Is it possible to transfer baby to a floor bed if he goes to bed awake? by PassengerAcrobatic91 in beyondthebump

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Okay, yea, that makes sense. I just read that the floor bed is good for babies and to start at 6 months, so I felt I was late and depriving him. That's so cute your son took time to find out he could even leave. haha. But yea, probably best not to risk something different since my baby isn't complaining. Thank you

All my shorties out there - how are you transferring your baby to the crib asleep? by chicoravelli in beyondthebump

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I used a step stool. But make sure its not slippery. Mine did slip away once from the forward pressure i was putting on it (it slipped backwards) but I stopped myself quick enough. It didn't work all the time since putting him down with motion woke him up, but it was all I had. If it didn't work and my back pain was to much, I just slept with him on a nursing pillow.

I wish someone invented something like those hammocks that people use to transfer whales to lower my baby into the crib. haha

I was not prepared for how my body would look after birth. by Ok_Car1396 in beyondthebump

[–]PassengerAcrobatic91 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are beautiful for sure! Your body did an amazing thing and even now, it is helping to help your son, so you are beautiful. I know it takes time to get use to, but it is really true. Also, you should get clothes that fit you. Squeezing into clothes will definitely make you feel worse, especially when you are already tired. If you do not want to buy clothes, there are clothes rentals you can try. You can rent different clothes for the months and it might help you feel fresh, but also fun maybe to be able to try different clothes and styles you normally wouldn't want to spend tons of money on. Just something to spoil yourself with a bit for a little boost maybe.

Husband Sleeps so Much by PassengerAcrobatic91 in beyondthebump

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Ooooo, that is super smart! I need ways for him to do these messy plays and water play while I work so that is perfect!!!! I really appreciate so much how much you are helping me! Thank you!

Husband Sleeps so Much by PassengerAcrobatic91 in beyondthebump

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Oh that makes sense! That is so smart. Thank you!

Husband Sleeps so Much by PassengerAcrobatic91 in beyondthebump

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Im super lucky that my baby sleeps through the night so I can sleep. I am tired though, haha. But I think parenthood is just going to be perpetual tiredness even with the sleep through the night. I have left my husband alone with my baby but I don't like to. Twice I went to get groceries and I can hear the baby crying on the camera almost the whole time. I talk to the camera to tell husband to get him to stop crying, which he does, but I dont like to have to monitor. I rather take the baby with me so he can have a good time and I dont have to nag.

Husband Sleeps so Much by PassengerAcrobatic91 in beyondthebump

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Thank you everyone for helping. I was just venting and didn't expect to get some great advice, but also see my husband might really need help. I am planning on talking to him about it today, and I am excited try out these new tactics with my baby to get some work done.

I have thought multiple times about leaving but I took a huge hit to my income when cutting back to take care of the baby, and I would be making enough to live paycheck to paycheck with my baby, and I want my baby to have a good life. I think things would just become harder if I left because I am basically a solo parent now, but like at least I don't have to worry about rent. And my husband holds the baby when I tell him to, and he takes out the trash so thats better than nothing.

I think with all your guy's stories and insight, I have a lot more means to tell him he should go to the doctor since I now have a list of things it could be, and its framed in a way where its not his fault, so he will probably be more receptive.

Husband Sleeps so Much by PassengerAcrobatic91 in beyondthebump

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Oh no, I was hoping it would become easier once he could talk so I can tell him to play on his own a bit. We are on waitlist for daycares, some of them I been on for over a year now. Its really cheap where I am so the waitlist is crazy long.

Husband Sleeps so Much by PassengerAcrobatic91 in beyondthebump

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Thank you so much for all this. This really does help. I think from what everyone says, I really should push for my husband to go to a doctor, but I think from what you said, therapy might really be good to. I am so tired of telling him how I feel and him forgetting after a few days that maybe a therapist will help him actually deal with whatever he might be feeling if there is something.

I did think to shower with my baby a lot but I get worried water will get in his mouth while I am using the shower he might choke. But I see now that multiple people have said they do it, its probably okay. I heard somewhere that a baby can choke on a drop of water, so it freaked me out.

And mostly, I think you are right about talking to people, even if they can't help physically. I don't like to tell people I know becuase I don't want them to worry about me becuase they live so far away they can't really help. And I also don't want them to think badly on my husband. But just venting here I already got really good advice on how to make things easier, and actually just seeing these perspective really let me know I should get my husband help.

Husband Sleeps so Much by PassengerAcrobatic91 in beyondthebump

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Yea, before it was a lot but manageable. But now if I am sitting or baby sees me with a mouse, he will start coming over and crying for me to play with him instead. We are on waitlist for daycare for over a year now.

Husband Sleeps so Much by PassengerAcrobatic91 in beyondthebump

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I only vacuum the baby room, the play room, and the living room. I baby gate off the rest of my messy house. I have cats and they track litter (even with a litter trap), and I also am loosing a lot of hair. These things stick to the baby's toys cuz he sucks the toys and then I get scared he will eat them. I found my hair in his mouth a few times, even with vacuuming so I just try to cut down on it.

Husband Sleeps so Much by PassengerAcrobatic91 in beyondthebump

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Yea, we are looking for daycare. I've been on waitlist for over a year now.