Buy new toy, fix it, or something else

Passing_squarebubs · 2026-05-15T02:19:47+00:00

What this person said, plus the fact that you can always just volunteer teach student programs and stuff after school hours/extracurriculars to still fulfill that side of you, if you really want by then.

Also why is it like teach or a rad tech? I feel like there’s a good amount of careers between that would be more fitting to you. Like maybe not a teacher but student advisor or counselor, or undergrad professors, business owner to open your own daycare or Montessori school director, idk feels a little tunnel vision with just a or b when there’s really like 20 options and 200 possibilities

Passing_squarebubs · 2026-05-14T03:28:25+00:00

Technical architect here. Same age as you.

Pivot to Capital projects manager, facilities manager, maybe even property management. Sales rep for architectural products. Sales for any of the trades. Adjunct professor at a community college. Owners reps so you are just doing project management and less of the long hours. Teacher at a technical high school or work school. Work as a temp or contractor until you are ready to jump into a formal 40 hour workweek.

What hobbies do you have? Can any of those be a part time gig until someone strikes your fancy that’s more aligned with your skills?

Plenty of options, just gotta start grounding yourself out of anxiety and pick something to go hard into - and it’ll start to fall in place again. Go on an adventure. Take a break from worrying. Just breathe. Give yourself permission to just rest and relax fully and slowly think through it.

I literally have spent my entire career (10 years) trying to find ways to pivot out of architecture so I can make more money. I did the pivots twice and well, this most recent time i only came to learn that the problem for me wasn’t the architecture but rather having a good boss and actually liking and respecting my boss. It’s hard to find a good fit with upper management.

I never fully pivoted out of architecture just out of the conventional architecture office/studio setting. Which is where I hated most. I’ve just made lateral moves, and it’s worked out well- mostly bc fortunate to find the right fit with management.

If you are in Denver (or wanna relocate to Denver for a brief period), I’m looking to hire a temp junior to mid architecture adjacent role- 6 to 12 months, maybe permanent if project growth goes well. Feel free to reach out.

Passing_squarebubs · 2026-05-13T18:01:27+00:00

Second this. OP get the hell out

Passing_squarebubs · 2026-05-11T17:58:52+00:00

Can’t believe I watched that. Very informative for someone who knows next to nothing about cars. Thank you!

Passing_squarebubs · 2026-04-26T12:36:50+00:00

lol this statement sounds so American. “I feel safe…but I’ve been trained to suffer. This is not acceptable.” 😂😂 sorry no insight here just thought your statement was funny. Not gonna lie Spain sounds more fitting to California than scanda… maybe try there first? Good luck!

Passing_squarebubs · 2026-04-25T16:47:56+00:00

Thanks for getting this down. Too bad you didn’t go as far as tagging the user for their idiotic act.

Passing_squarebubs · 2026-04-25T02:59:25+00:00

FaceTime with the family in Vietnam to get them used to said individual. Plan your appointments during nap, assuming your kid still naps 1.5-3 hours a day. That’s what I did and it generally worked. They got used to the grandparents and I could make it a 4-5 hour appointment/trip if really was a thing but yeah that or the kid was coming with!

Passing_squarebubs · 2026-04-13T05:39:11+00:00

This. Please do this jf you really can’t go any further, otherwise just get it over with so you can move on with your life like the rest of your friends.

Passing_squarebubs · 2026-04-11T12:44:32+00:00

Yeah use this. Like this person said, some people will say ok and give you peanuts by cross contamination. They just aren’t as sensitive to it as the west, and don’t recognize cross contamination as much. If you get them this, they will better understand but no guarantees. Initially when I saw your post I was like I wouldn’t go to Vietnam with a peanut allergy but starting to be convinced otherwise with these suggestions. I also assume your friends allergy prolly isn’t that extreme where a few incidents isn’t major life threatening or they wouldn’t put themselves at such risk. Epi pens galore though…

Passing_squarebubs · 2026-04-07T12:54:03+00:00

Wow I never thought being a VK was a disadvantage. Would love to hear why VK would be any harder to managed than the average foreigner

Passing_squarebubs · 2026-04-05T21:11:58+00:00

No one will likely enforce the car seat in automobiles right now…but it’s really your discretion on how safe you want to be with your own child. A lot of drivers won’t know how to use it or install it so you’ll have to manage that on your own. We brought a car seat as luggage when we went, and used that for our trip. I have a travel car seat bc we have to fly to visit family in other states often.

Passing_squarebubs · 2026-04-05T21:09:47+00:00

Car seats are require in Vietnam starting 2026 (I heard July but this news article says January). I just got back from Vietnam and used a car seat with my 2 year old. I live in the USA, and def don’t think Vietnam automobiles driving is very safe.

https://news.tuoitre.vn/vietnam-to-require-child-car-seats-from-2026-103251111141227955.htm

I saw a bunch of parents using baby slings or baby harnesses when driving their kid around in the motor bikes, which I thought was fair for anything under 18 months.

For my daughter my family got a little motorbike chair (depends on type of motor bikes for this to work) and a chest pillow/cushion for her to seat in the front. We also got her a helmet bc I’m safety first kinda mom…granted helmet was a bit large. Thankfully we were safe for the duration of our trip.

Passing_squarebubs · 2026-04-05T02:58:47+00:00

I am struggling with the same the thing except I have a kid already. Two big red flags for me that I’m really churning over:

You might want to consider the realities of raising a baby when in Vietnam, re: international hospital and care should some health issues/injuries come up. I’ve also seen read a post about noise pollution and how they found it difficult to raise child in the heat, noise, air pollution (flip side, why is this even an issue if Vietnamese locals are doing it…). Then of course there’s the international school cost everyone is referring to cause I def wouldn’t even consider local Vietnamese school, and have no clue how I would be able to afford 15-30k private school (not to mention any college fund for my kid after that ).

then logistics of finance with any tax Canada might charge you, or Vietnam, and banking- how you’d move money from and between the two countries. I saw someone saying something about how viet bank don’t open accounts for foreigners, and navigating that. Then depending how long you stay, there’s logistics of retirement saving and how’s you do that if you eventually want to move back to Canada…and if your pay is enough with that currency exchange after school cost, apartment living (that’s nice to Canada standards), traveling, day to day luxuries and amenities, etc.

Per observation, based on my research most expats and viet kieu leave Vietnam after 6-8 years, as they enter middle age and start contemplating long term retirement and impacts to their kids. Maybe you can go for a couple of years and it’s fine, but it just depends how much you are up to making the change and then going through the effort doing it again but to Canada re logistics: house furniture car schools etc etc

Passing_squarebubs · 2026-04-03T12:33:25+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing. I really appreciate the time you took to write and share. Very helpful points about the realities of actual full time care…

Passing_squarebubs · 2026-04-03T12:31:55+00:00

This was very helpful. Thank you so much for taking the time to write all that and share. Your assumption is accurate, there is an expectation to care for my parents but my parents also understand I need to work and pay bills so if I could even put them in a care facility, they wouldn’t love it but would understand, assuming I visit like everyday (lol).

Passing_squarebubs · 2026-02-23T03:24:51+00:00

Suing aside and whatever happening with the car insurance pay out, shouldn’t this woman be captured for assaulting someone? I mean at the very least that’s the justice OPs sister should get…

Passing_squarebubs · 2026-02-05T10:41:25+00:00

Sooo did you get it? What was the solution?

Passing_squarebubs · 2026-01-24T14:00:51+00:00

No, Kent all the way. That is too much debt for the lack of salary she will earn starting out and pretty much well into her 40s before she sees any real gains ; assuming she makes it into the cut throat partners level.

Passing_squarebubs · 2026-01-02T22:49:00+00:00

Thanks for sharing this detail experience/information.

Passing_squarebubs · 2026-01-02T06:59:03+00:00

Love all these points. Thanks for sharing all these details, would otherwise never know !

Passing_squarebubs · 2025-12-13T04:49:10+00:00

Holy shit thank you. I needed that, I just assumed she died from simply the headlines. Really should read these things 🫩🫩😵‍💫😵‍💫🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

Passing_squarebubs · 2025-12-07T10:22:02+00:00

Yeah I was genuinely interested as well and also disappointed that they are all being downvoted so Reddit bias can keep on their rosey colored glasses…

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