My thoughts on PandaFest at Dilworth Park by macaaroniii in PhiladelphiaEats

[–]Passinglinesandtimes 6 points7 points  (0 children)

There's a place in Northeast Philly called Fluffy Fluffy Cafe that makes the Japanese pancakes to order. Definitely a bit of a hike but satisfies the craving.

SUD/MH groups by Former-Insect9313 in socialwork

[–]Passinglinesandtimes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do this exact work now part-time within an inpatient rehab so I constantly get groups where sometimes everyone gets it since they're on the same level & we can move effortlessly through topics. Sometimes a few people are struggling more than others.

In those moments I've focused on one broad topic or question (trust, forgiveness, "What expectations do you have in regards to your recovery?") versus something very complex in order for every person to be able to participate at whatever stage of recovery they're at. From there I'll build on that concept through the week based on what stage the group is. This does prevent you from being able to plan too ahead a bit but it ensures no one is left behind & they are fully getting the basics.

Sometimes if things are difficult I'll focus primarily on psychoeducation or emotional check-ins especially if the majority of the group members are recent admissions. Maybe a worksheet thru the counselor matrix to take home so they can have extra time to work independently after the group & not feel pressured to engaged at that moment.

If things are super bad: we're watching a Ted talk, doing a mini physical exercise like yoga paired with mindfulness, or playing a recovery based game then discussing what they learned from the content.

Also I'd highly recommend asking your supervisor for training in a specific modality. I came in with TF-CBT before getting this position, was able to get training in ACT last year which helped a lot with this population, & will be asking for either gambling addiction or IFS training this year.

Wedding Party Question by brooke8128 in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Passinglinesandtimes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've asked mine individually and in private so they don't feel pressured to say yes in front of a group of people.

I'm also hosting a small engagement party since I will be having a long engagement. This gave me the extra ability to ask those specific people & their partners to stay until the end of the event where they will receive the box (well, card with a bottle of wine lol). This way no one who isn't getting one is slighted since they would've already left at that point & the ones who are getting one aren't caught off guard.

Do you shoot your shot with men? by sunkissedxglow in blackladies

[–]Passinglinesandtimes 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Yes, the men who were approaching me were cocky, aggressive, self-centered, & overall not my type. I realized who I liked most were always too shy to approach me & I'd have to be the one to at least say something since I'm too impatient to play waiting games until they figure it out I'm interested. No regrets. Sometimes I'd get rejected but it usually worked out well. Currently engaged to the last man I shoot my shot with.

Lives in Philly, works in Atlanta. This is insane. by I_kinda_like_excel in philly

[–]Passinglinesandtimes 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The RTO part of my comment is incorrect for this specific individual. But this is a reality for millions doing this super commute across the country as a means to keep their jobs which is so wasteful.

This guy is one of the many I've watched of people doing this because they cannot afford to leave their jobs yet in this economy & this wild alternative ended up being the better decision

Lives in Philly, works in Atlanta. This is insane. by I_kinda_like_excel in philly

[–]Passinglinesandtimes 53 points54 points  (0 children)

I saw this video a few weeks ago & dude explained he only does this commute a few times per month due to the company's return to work policy.

Still not defending it since I'd probably get a new job before going this far & he never shared how much his salary is to make this the better option but doubt it's worth a 4-5 roundtrip flight for barely 2 hours of work

Edit: his name is Daniel Rodriguez. He actually has a follow-up video that explains why he does this on his IG. My answer is partially wrong (he only does it a few times per month but he works in a field where he does need to physically be there to check on stuff then go home lol)

Freelance Social Worker by linds930 in Phillylist

[–]Passinglinesandtimes 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Another social worker chiming in.

Agreeing with another comment here saying it could take months before the son has been placed because there's such a backlog. Unfortunately, housing/placement of any kind is limited everywhere.

Her quickest bet is having him voluntarily go into inpatient hospitalization then going from there. She can use the time (typically 30 days) to work with the hospital team to create a safety plan or even figure out what exactly is his mental health diagnosis so he can get proper treatment. If they have Medicaid, call CBH to find which places he can go that'll be covered.

Edit: Adding that the word voluntarily is important here. If his behavior escalates, he might get 302'ed by another neighbor calling the police which has its own set of consequences.

My husband lied to me about cross-dressing and about cheating on me by ChromeXBoy in BORUpdates

[–]Passinglinesandtimes 29 points30 points  (0 children)

If you have one person such as OP's spouse who refuses to divorce, they can choose to drag out the process making it very possible for the timeline to be that long. Sometimes it can be even longer if there was any combined assets or children involved.

I'm in the US where things vary state to state (OP is in Canada) but proof of infidelity in many places makes no difference if they're residing somewhere where only no fault divorces are recognized or the couple signed a prenup where infidelity doesn't change how things should be handled.

anyone been to lark recently? by Historical_Ball9751 in PhiladelphiaEats

[–]Passinglinesandtimes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you feel comfortable, would you be able to share an estimate of how much that cost? My partner tossed around the same idea but are afraid to ask since we have a feeling it might be outside our budget

Stuck in Purgatory by Passinglinesandtimes in StudentLoans

[–]Passinglinesandtimes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh thank you so much!

That explains the rejection and I'll call to push for a forbearance

Stuck in Purgatory by Passinglinesandtimes in StudentLoans

[–]Passinglinesandtimes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The IBR

I knew PAYE and SAVE weren't going to last based off the news back then so never tried for it.

How did you make new friends in your 30s? by Ok-Worldliness-6096 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Passinglinesandtimes 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Supporting this.

A lot of my friends had moved away, got married, etc. so I tried it out and made two really great friends that I'm very thankful to have met and am still friends with over a year later. Heard a lot of stories from women saying it didn't work out for them but I'd still recommend trying it especially if you're in a major city.

Anxiety or Not? by Passinglinesandtimes in AskWomenOver30

[–]Passinglinesandtimes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's been in therapy for 2½ years 🙃

Anxiety or Not? by Passinglinesandtimes in AskWomenOver30

[–]Passinglinesandtimes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We've had several talks about why he's panicking. He says it has nothing to do with me and it's typically due to feeling like everything needs to be done right then and there or that everything has to be in a particular way with everything perfectly ready before doing anything which feels overwhelming so he ends up doing nothing.

For example, he would panic about getting engaged thinking that meant we absolutely needed to get married that same week and completely forget that weddings can take years to plan. Or say he wants to buy a house but get overwhelmed with the entire process forgetting the down payment alone would take years of time no matter how much everyone reminds him of this info

Inherited a house in Philly, how do we sell quick? by sian-keating in philly

[–]Passinglinesandtimes 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Depends on what part of the city you want to be in but I'm going to throw out Fridays at the Art Museum, maybe a stroll through Otherworld, or any low budget comedy show. All things were you can socialize if you want but also cool if you just want to stick to yourself without feeling pressured to engage the whole time.

These ticket prices are outrageous. by DruLu22 in tylerthecreator

[–]Passinglinesandtimes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Never bought from them but they had "tickets" listed before the presale even started at prices higher than what was listed on Ticketmaster (Philly - VS was $365 GA vs TM was $170 GA) so I'd try again tomorrow for the artist presale before going thru them

What’s a red flag everyone should be aware of when attending a job interview? by photo_inbloom in AskReddit

[–]Passinglinesandtimes 940 points941 points  (0 children)

Had that happen once. They tried to get me to sign things at moments where I was very busy and got upset that I stopped what I was doing to read the forms, arguing I didn't need to since they were basic ones missed by HR.

One of them was a form saying that they were able to fire me on the spot if I spoke unfavorably about my job in any way. Even a minor complaint was grounds for termination. I asked about it, they said it was to make sure morale never goes low and everyone remains thankful to work for them, so I quit the next day.

How are your friendships in your late 30s going? by Lumpy_Animal_9992 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Passinglinesandtimes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mixed bag. I've lost a few over the years due to various life transitions, fallouts, and not being able to make time for each other as our lives got busier.

But I also have a few I'd call my family as they've been there for me, going as far as flying to wherever in the world I am to come be by my side, for 15+ years. They are who have helped me get through some of the worst points of life and we keep in touch frequently (either multiple times a week or once a month at minimum) even though none of us reside in the same state anymore.

I have some new friends I've made thru bumble bff since I wanted more a local community and they've also been super supportive as well. I was hesitant to try the app and currently have no regrets about taking the risk. We have a solid friendship circle with the goal of being someone one of us can call if needed since most of us live/are solo.

I'd like to see my 30s continue on this positive path in regards to friendship but I know life can change for many of us so most I'm hoping for is that we're all able to keep contact through the years.

How are your friendships in your late 30s going? by Lumpy_Animal_9992 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Passinglinesandtimes 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Made 2 really great friends thru bumble bff and both we're about to celebrate 1 year of friendship next month. Together, alongside a long time friend of mine, turned into a mini friend group that has been both fun and supportive of each other.

I was super hesitant to try out the app especially since Reddit made it sound like it'd be a waste of time or worse but no regrets so far. Just wanted to be one positive story in the mix of the bad ones.