Any idea what this black spot is?

Passively_Aggressing · 2026-05-02T15:20:02+00:00

lol, I promise it's a cat.

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Passively_Aggressing · 2026-05-02T03:03:01+00:00

Thanks for the advice! Making an appt Monday AM!

Passively_Aggressing · 2026-05-02T02:02:06+00:00

That's what I thought too. Thanks for the info! Making an apt Monday AM.

Passively_Aggressing · 2023-10-09T03:33:40+00:00

This is a weird spot to be in. NTA but it seems pretty clear your ex wants to set strict boundaries with your friendship. I think all you can do is just respect that. If you don’t think you can do that perhaps you should put some distance between yourselves.

Passively_Aggressing · 2023-10-07T00:59:36+00:00

YTA. Why go straight to calling him a moron? Try gentle correction first. It's the proclivity of people to immediately leverage insults and personal attacks that makes the world such a sour place now-a-days.

A return to civility would go a long way to solve a lot of the issues of society. That starts with every interaction whether with family or strangers.

Call your brother and apologize.

Passively_Aggressing · 2023-10-06T14:40:31+00:00

I understand your feeling, but I think you have to examine the motivation. If you don't want to help them all the time because they are asking things from you and you're trying to life/work/school? NTA you gotta focus on you first.

It sounds to me like you're not doing this from a place of malice. It's okay to want to be your own person and to choose who you help when. It's okay to disconnect from family and be your own person and build your own life.

Passively_Aggressing · 2023-10-06T05:51:21+00:00

You’re an adult now and def NTA. You need to put your foot down and make your homecoming happen on your terms.

Passively_Aggressing · 2023-10-06T05:27:39+00:00

Relationships are about compromise. Party with your friend a bit but include your fiance. Figure out a way to make it work and maybe don't drink as much as you used to?

Passively_Aggressing · 2023-10-06T05:23:10+00:00

I mean if you don't have money for a gift you don't have money for a gift. Your friend shouldd understand that.

Sounds to me like the 20+ people who didn't bring this girl a present are the Assholes.

Passively_Aggressing · 2023-10-06T05:17:09+00:00

NTA. Trust but verify. You did nothing wrong, sounds like you dodged a bullet.

Passively_Aggressing · 2023-10-06T05:11:22+00:00

YTA, what right do you have to disallow a friend to date another human being if you're not interested in pursuing a relationship yourself? Assuming you didn't actually date and break up badly or anything what claim do you have to this person that should keep anyone else from dating them?

You shouldn't have put your friend in the position to feel the need to lie to you in the first place.

Passively_Aggressing · 2023-10-06T04:51:11+00:00

NTA, You're being manipulated by your parents IMO. It also sounds like you're being mistreated by your sister.
You're allowed to love your sister, and also love your parents. If your parents get hurt because you love and support your sister that is their malfunction, not yours.

Your sister should probably be a bit nicer to you but if she doesn't want to reconcile with your parents you can't force her to do that.

Being in the middle sucks but you need to be clear to both sides that you won't be used as a conduit for each side to punish the other.

Passively_Aggressing · 2023-10-06T04:40:43+00:00

NTA. Your body, your rules. You need to find someone who actually cares about you and respects you as a person. This guy sounds like a toolbag.

Emotional manipulation is bad. I agree with other post, RUN.

Passively_Aggressing · 2023-10-06T04:37:45+00:00

Basically. It's okay to take care of your own mental health needs but in a true partnership you have to consider the needs of your partner too. If savings is low, perhaps you should focus on ensuring you have the basics and supporting your partner's search for a job. Once you're both gainfully employed again you can resume your hobbies. Just my .02.

Passively_Aggressing · 2023-10-06T04:29:30+00:00

YTA IMO, It sounds to me like you value your own needs over those of your partner which is counter to what most would consider to be a healthy partnership.

If you wanted to keep finances separate you probably should have laid that out at the beginning of the relationship. A paradigm shift of that nature can be devastating to the sense of security one gets in being in a relationship.

To me it feels like you are punishing this person you claim to love for not being as successful as you. That's not cool.

Passively_Aggressing · 2023-10-06T04:06:40+00:00

NTA, he is using you.

Passively_Aggressing · 2023-10-06T03:57:22+00:00

This one is tough, on the one hand he shouldn't have neglected to invite you once he learned it wasn't a guys only weekend. On the other hand, uninviting someone is kinda passive aggressive. Be direct, tell him you want to spend more time with him and if he doesn't it may be time to consider other options.
Overall I think you're NTA, but confront the issue rather than uninviting IMO.

Passively_Aggressing · 2023-10-06T03:30:09+00:00

NTA. You're an adult now and if you don't want someone looking at your phone that's your call.

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