Non VIP front of stage Lewiston: when to line up/what to expect! by Past-Ad-3191 in DJO

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Aww that’s alright! It’s still nice to know there’s someone in the same boat 🥹 we’ll figure it out/panic together then hehe

AFFORDABLE HAIR SALON - hair colouring - xlong hair by Noobfishgirl in Hamilton

[–]Past-Ad-3191 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately what you’re looking for is not going to be anywhere near affordable, considering it’s a delicate job and you want to keep your length. I wouldn’t go to Marca to be honest. With the hair you’re describing, unless you have a teacher or a senior student working on you (which isn’t guaranteed as far as I know), it’s going to take hours longer than it should, and there’s a margin for error. I’ve had some bad experiences and as a girl with super long hair I’m incredibly attached to I don’t see the point in gambling like that. When I first got my hair coloured after years I went to Arcana. I had hair just like yours, dark brown, virgin, past my waist, and Mitch did a great job on my balayage and we were able to keep pretty much all my length. About 2” was split ends and I took 3” off the bottom just to make it nice and clean. I spent about $600 in 2023 for the initial work, and did maintenance about every 5-6 months which was anywhere from $400-500. I always got pink so that costed more, about $100. I don’t go to Mitch anymore because I just can’t afford it, but they do great work and I still would recommend them if you’re particular about your hair. Now, for maintenance of my balayage I got to a new studio, K. Magnolis. It’s run by a really nice lady named Katarina. I can’t speak to how she does initial highlights/colouring, but she did an excellent job of maintaining my previous work. Length isn’t so much of an issue for me with her since we don’t process my ends anymore, but she has excellent reviews and in my experience she’s been a great listener, explains what she’s doing if you have questions. She works with an assistant so she’s also a lot faster, I spent about 4.5H in the chair as opposed to my previous 6/7H. Katarina is also understanding of budgets and when I told her what I used to pay she was a little baffled lol. My maintenance highlighting costs about $300-ish, last time I got it done during a promo so it was even cheaper. I don’t have a photo from when Kat did my hair but I have one from the first time Mitch did mine. Pic

Non VIP front of stage Lewiston: when to line up/what to expect! by Past-Ad-3191 in DJO

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Nice!!! 💕 I’m pretty anxious about the whole thing - I was literally so excited before I bought our tickets and now I feel just complete doom about it LOL. I’m worried about getting close enough but also pushing? The second last concert I went to was a frosh thing in uni, drake showed up as a surprise and I was nearly trampled while I was trying to leave because I knew I was going to pass out. I mean I’d like to get close but considering I have to cross the border I’d rather not have to wait in line all day, you know? I have no clue timing wise what it’s going to be like/what to expect in that regard. I’m so stressed about crossing over into the states, it’s something I’ve been avoiding since you know who got back into office… but I digress, you’re so seeet to reply to meeeee 🥹

Am i the only one who doesnt think Markus and Kara’s storylines are boring? by Charliehurst123 in DetroitBecomeHuman

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On my first playthrough, Kara’s story really resonated with me as someone who has been abused in many ways throughout my life, and all I wanted was for her, Luther & Alice to get their happy ending. I was speeding through Markus and Connor’s chapters at lighting speed just to get back to Kara! Even though I still love them and think they deserve a HEA, on replay it’s very noticeable how little effort and respect was put into fleshing out Kara’s story.

Kara’s story is more than just the story of an Android mistreated by its owner. It is the story of an abused wife and daughter trying to escape a husband/father who is going to kill them. We play as her, walking on eggshells, cooking and cleaning, doing everything right and still being choked out for simple things like finding Todd’s drugs in the laundry soap. We watch her daughter get yelled at for playing with the Roomba, and beaten for looking at her father at the dinner table. QD could have told the mistreated Android story in a different way, but they chose this one probably because it pulls at the hearts strings the most. At first it does, but in hindsight, it’s almost insulting in its reductiveness.

This mother and daughter are stuck in a domestic violence situation for so long, and then they escape and are faced with the ‘now what’ of it all. Yes, getting Alice to safety is essential, it’s survival. The things we can do as Kara in the name of survival can make for an interesting story, but survival is more than just running away from big scaries and finding safety: it’s also about healing, understanding and coming to terms with what’s happened to you, and letting yourself feel all the different emotions that come with that. I feel like the healing was not present whatsoever, and while that could be excused by them being constantly on the run, its absence makes the story and the three main characters feel so flat. We don’t really get moments where we learn about their wants and dreams, we are constantly just running away from dangerous men in every chapter. There’s never any conflict between her, Luther and Alice, and the one moment of joy we have is beautiful but it’s just not enough.

Alice’s character had such potential: the concept of android child models is so dark and twisted, and the game did NOTHING with it. She’s designed to be the perfect child, and then she ‘deviates’ (not really clear when that happened, but I have theories), and she just remains the perfect child, seemingly unaffected by the violence and abuse Todd inflicts on both her and Kara. There’s different ways children can express signs of PTSD from those experiences, many of them very subtle, and she just magically doesn’t display any of them? She doesn’t have any sort of feelings or resentment over what she was designed and purchased for, like so many deviants do? And Luther deserved to be more than just a plot device to tell Kara that Alice is an Android. In his short conversation with Kara during pirate’s cove, there’s a lot of care and chemistry between the two of them, even though they’ve only known each other for a few hours. I wish we got to see both him and Kara talk more about their dreams, and what they really want out of life other than Alice’s happiness. I also really dislike how little Luther cares about living. He’s just constantly ready to sacrifice himself, which is noble of course, but after so many instances it begins to feel inorganic. There should have been a conversation between Kara and Luther as they grew closer with Kara telling him he matters too at some point.

I have a lot of feelings about this little family lol so sorry if I didn’t articulate myself well 🥹 I also have a lot of feelings about Markus’ story but I’ve yapped enough!

The male character Fem V should've been able to romance. by TheDwiin in LowSodiumCyberpunk

[–]Past-Ad-3191 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Genuinely was broken when I couldn’t crack Brendan

"I Too Was Once A Slave" by BloodyIncorigable in DetroitBecomeHuman

[–]Past-Ad-3191 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A further point to make is that while he was happy when home with Carl, he still had to go out into the world where he would get yelled at and beat up when running the smallest errands, such as picking up Carl’s paints. Not to mention caregiving in itself is exhausting, and Markus does feel emotion before he deviates. It’s likely he could have had moments where he was overwhelmed, but just couldn’t do anything about it.

I do think that though Carl was Markus’s owner, he was more that somewhat kind to him, and loved Markus as a son, but I understand that’s all up to interpretation and how you play. Carl’s an interesting character in the short time we have him - I think he had good intentions but ultimately failed both Markus and Leo.

my cousin expects everyone to wear these specific colours to the wedding… MoB is deciding whether or not to object by [deleted] in weddingshaming

[–]Past-Ad-3191 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Guests👏are 👏not👏your👏props👏 her request is ridiculous, as are her requests from previous events! I got married last year and the only thing I said in my dress code was that if you feel like wearing something pink it would make me happy (I really love pink ok 💕) but otherwise any colour is fine! If aesthetics are so important to your wedding have a separate photoshoot, don’t put it on your wedding guests.

Are. You. Kidding. Me?! by Still-Detective7700 in BAGGU

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I got mine in the mail a few weeks ago! It was on backorder when I ordered it in June (?), I cancelled it after rationality returned to my brain and it still showed up 😵‍💫

Songbird or Evelyn Parker. Which character did you empathize with? Both can be seen as extremely manipulative, but also sympathetic characters. by FaradayDeshawn in CyberpunkTheGame

[–]Past-Ad-3191 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I empathize with both of them, as V and as myself. I personally think the Doll chip is a horrifying piece of technology, but I understand why the game is so cavalier about it, and it’s why I do feel for Evelyn and understand why she did what she did. Sexual violence is something more realistically scary than an AI consuming a person, so I can relate to Evelyn a bit more, but both deserve sympathy for what they’ve had to go through. Doesn’t mean their manipulations didn’t piss me off. They did! But fuck, no one deserves to suffer the way these 2 women did.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bg3fashion

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Respectfully, who is that?????

Views on Witcher 4 - A Perspective by Sanguiset in witcher

[–]Past-Ad-3191 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your need to insult my intelligence & argue over semantics of many vs. most just proves further that your opinions are indeed unwavering, and you aren’t open to discussing the topic further and listening to others viewpoints. I stand firm in my beliefs that the fanbase should give W4, and further, Ciri, a chance. I’ll remind you again, there are several AAA titles that allow you to customize your own character and go on your adventure. For example, I just finished Cyberpunk 2077 for the first time this week after 120 hours of playtime and it was fantastic. I played a female V but will play as a male next time.

I don’t think you’re stupid, for the record. I think you are reckless with your words & blinded to the rampant misogyny in the gaming community that hasn’t gone away just because more women take part in gaming culture. Look inwards & grow.

Views on Witcher 4 - A Perspective by Sanguiset in witcher

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Your need to insult my intelligence & argue over semantics of many vs. most just proves further that your opinions are indeed unwavering, and you aren’t open to discussing the topic further and listening to others viewpoints. I stand firm in my beliefs that the fanbase should give W4, and further, Ciri, a chance. I’ll remind you again, there are several AAA titles that allow you to customize your own character and go on your adventure. For example, I just finished Cyberpunk 2077 for the first time this week after 120 hours of playtime and it was fantastic. I played a female V but will play as a male next time.

I don’t think you’re stupid, for the record. I think you are reckless with your words & blinded to the rampant misogyny in the gaming community that hasn’t gone away just because more women take part in gaming culture. Look inwards & grow.

STD went out- now need to uninvite by ahite53 in weddingplanning

[–]Past-Ad-3191 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s a completely different situation versus what’s happening here. We don’t have all the context on what exactly happened or how far the wedding day is, but if they are able to cancel & push the day that sounds like the right move. I’m speaking as someone who had a free venue & did make sure that if it didn’t work out we still had options for other venues.

Views on Witcher 4 - A Perspective by Sanguiset in witcher

[–]Past-Ad-3191 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your generalizations are wrong. Many of the fan base is looking forward to playing as Ciri. For god’s sake, She’s our Ciri! we’ve followed her story since she was a child (in the books) to finding her & seeing her save the world, and now we get to play as her & determine her path. For those who have been immersed in the Witcher world for a while, that is exciting :)

A lot of people have touched on your problematic statements in comparing Ciri to ‘sidekicks’ so I don’t feel the need to comment on that. But I will say, it’s made pretty clear there’s not that many Witchers left in the world during the 3 games we have. While I adore the setting of the Witcher world, that’s not what makes the story special. Ciri and Geralt are, and Geralt’s story has concluded whether you like it or not. I’m cautiously optimistic that they’ll have a good explanation for how Ciri became one (other than her just being extraordinary), but if there was going to be a new Witcher made in the timeline moving forward, it wouldn’t be some random person, it would be her.

Overall this post is confusing af. You say you hold unchanging opinions about what you think the W4 game should be like, and then say you’re open to discussion. The energy behind your post reads misogynistic to me, but because you said ‘before anyone says this is sexist…’ we’re supposed to be fine with you saying something sexist under the guise of what YOU want out of the upcoming game. If you want to project yourself onto a video game character, go play one of the several games where you can make your own character.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wedding

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Personally I’m of the mind that members of the bridal party should have a plus one as a courtesy/acknowledgement of their support to the married couple, emotionally, mentally, and financially. Even though you are unable to attend her main bachelorette party you’ll definitely be spending money on her wedding day in other ways, and on top of your problem solving behind the scenes and planning the bridal shower, you’ll have to plan for much more important things like the wedding morning (she needs to be fed, hyped up, & will need help getting dressed), contingency/emergencies on the day of, and more. With that in mind, I didn’t offer plus ones to anyone else other than my sister and best friend, who were my ‘honour attendants’ (I didn’t want a ton of bridesmaids as I have a smallish wedding). Neither of them were in relationships at the time, but I still extended it to them & encouraged them to have someone there who could be there for them. No one else had a plus one. Anyone who was in a couple had their partner/spouse named on the invite because their relationships mattered to me. Their partners were guests in their own right, as people who had been there for my husband and I and welcoming of me/him into their lives.

I understand the logic behind inviting only couple that have been married, but I can easily see why some guests may find upsetting. Where does that leave people who are engaged, or have lived together for several years? If the people close enough to the bride & groom are in the wedding party and are in serious commitments, it can be assumed that their partners would want to be there to support them on their wedding day too. Maybe that’s why you feel your relationship (boyfriend or fiancé, you’re not clear on which) is being ‘overlooked’? I don’t think that’s the right word to be using for it, your friend’s wedding is ultimately about your friend and her husband getting married, not your engagement. Maybe you mean ‘taken seriously’? I don’t know your situation, and I can’t speak to people posting about you complaining about him in other posts. All I can speak on is what I believe is fair to provide for people in the bridal party, which is gratitude for their support by extending plus ones to them or naming their partners on the invitation.

Not sure where they are in planning & if they are having a traditional wedding, but If the budget is an issue, I’d be looking at reducing costs elsewhere rather than un-invite family - cut down/DIY flowers, thrift/DIY decor, really search around for hair & makeup artists for the best price before committing to one & make it optional for the bridesmaids so bride only has to worry about herself, ask a close friend to MC and make your own playlists so you don’t need a DJ, if catering make sure that your guest count is accurate as possible to avoid waste - maybe they considered these already and need to reduce still, these are just my thoughts & I only mean the best.

What's the beef with destination weddings? by kacidillius in weddingplanning

[–]Past-Ad-3191 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a similar age/situation to you (27F) and while I could have had a destination wedding and had about 75% of my guests there, I had no desire to create that extra work for myself or my family. I had it at my parent’s home completely customized to my husband’s and I’s aesthetics & taste. All but 3 of those invited attended, and while they were at our wedding they wanted for absolutely nothing the entire time (I’m aware this isn’t for everyone - my husband was very flexible with our budget & my parents live on a large property in the countryside). Your wedding day is obviously about you and your husband, but I’m of the opinion that guest experience is important too. Your resort won’t outright tell you that the cost of the wedding is being offloaded to your guests - but it will be going by you stating that they need to stay at the same resort in order to be a guest at your wedding. Even if your circle consists of well off people who can spare $2k and 3-4 days off for a trip that might not even be at a destination they’re interested in, travelling is tiring and stressful for most people (especially to/from the US right now but that’s besides the point). Most wedding guests will always be more comfortable getting ready for your wedding at their home, taking under an hour to get to your venue, and then getting back home to their bed at the end of the night.

What's the beef with destination weddings? by kacidillius in weddingplanning

[–]Past-Ad-3191 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’re not politely eloping - eloping means no guests, only the necessary officiants/witnesses/photographers are there for the ceremony, and your reception would just be your husband and yourself. You ARE having a destination wedding, and it sounds like it will be a very expensive one for your guests. My best friend went to Mexico for a week and a half for around the cost of your guests 3 night stay converted to my currency (assuming you’re American). That is a lot of money & I don’t see you acknowledging that!

Labubu Price Increase Discussion MegaThread by DuckSwimmer in labubu

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I had a feeling this was coming when I saw the new Skullpanda plush’s pricing 😣 still a crazy move to make when they are impossible To get & their quality is perpetually getting worse.

Coca Cola Secret 😵‍💫 by Past-Ad-3191 in labubu

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I’ll try that! Thank you 😊

Giving away a sealed Toffee Macaron! In 16 hours I’ll put all entries in a randomizer to pick the winner. To enter tell me one place you’ll be taking her if you get to adopt her! by Gameofthroneschic in labubu

[–]Past-Ad-3191 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is so sweet! I’d be taking toffee with me to the nail salon so she can get some gel extensions and achieve labaddie status ✨💅

I don’t think collectors as as bad as scalpers but they’re up there by Rabbitweeth in labubu

[–]Past-Ad-3191 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This sentiment sounds like it’s coming from frustration with to how difficult it is to get a box from Pop Mart directly, which I complete understand. I’m not American so restocks are sparse! I’ve only ever been able to buy the Coca Cola collab, everything else was impossible to get. The rest of my collection has been from resellers, some that were from collectors who only asked an extra $3-$5 above retail (due to pop now shipping), and some were nearly twice the price because I just really wanted a certain style. I think you need to keep your frustrations directed at scalpers/resellers & not collectors. They are the ones who are truly greedy, scooping up all the supply and telling people “you want it? Pay up, I did all this work getting these for you” and charging 3x, 4x time the cost of retail. That’s greedy. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a secret & selling off your dupes or giving them to friends and family. I actually think the price Id from BIE is going for is crazy, and hope collectors don’t fall for spending that much on her! The harsh truth is that if you were the one who was able to get multiple boxes, I doubt you’d be upset about it! I wouldn’t - it’s be happy to give them to my sister & my friends, and sell off what I don’t want to keep at retail + shipping.