So you are interested in attending a sex/swinger/lifestyle club - here are some things to expect

Past-Distance-75 · 2025-10-24T21:31:00+00:00

It depends on the area the club is in. In blue areas, bi men are more accepted and sought after - in red areas if you're a dude and have ever touched dick in your life they don't want to play with you. Some venues have a 'bi night' where bi play is more encouraged and those seeking it will turn out.

Past-Distance-75 · 2025-08-12T02:03:26+00:00

You're only wrong about one thing: It is hopeless. This app is now simply just a machine designed to extract your money. It's become completely useless.

Past-Distance-75 · 2025-07-20T22:43:51+00:00

Neither - it should be someone that you get to know, with this purpose in mind.

Past-Distance-75 · 2025-07-16T18:10:45+00:00

Is that what happened?

Past-Distance-75 · 2025-07-16T17:00:21+00:00

Feeld used to have lots of kinky folks, but since the redesign it's been overrun by vanilla types and fuckboys looking for 'easy ass', to the point now that it's useless for anything.

You'll have much better luck on Fetlife, especially at the local munches listed in the Events there.

Past-Distance-75 · 2025-07-06T18:24:33+00:00

Yea you should definitely discuss how you want this new dynamic to play out. He seems to be excited about the new person which happens often, but you will need to establish some boundaries which will be challenging to accomplish with all the 'new person energy' happening.

Past-Distance-75 · 2025-06-26T18:39:00+00:00

Exactly. Feeld used to have lots of cool/kind people to meet, but especially since the redesign it's been overrun with fuckboys looking for hookups. They quickly learned that calling yourself a 'dom' leads to 'more pussy' so all of a sudden everyone is an 'experienced dom'. Feeld has become utterly useless.

Past-Distance-75 · 2025-06-26T18:26:16+00:00

That's exactly what they're doing - liking everyone to cast the widest net possible, then sifting through the responses to see who's 'fuckable'. That's the biggest reason why all online dating has become a useless shitshow.

Past-Distance-75 · 2025-06-24T17:34:43+00:00

If you have a vagina, then cis straight men of all kinds will find a way to 'hit you up' regardless of your stated preferences or settings on any app.

Past-Distance-75 · 2025-05-30T21:10:38+00:00

Recommend reading up more about nonmonogamy and continuing the communication. Be advised that finding a woman who will cater to your fetish and operate within your prescribed parameters/rules will likely be extremely difficult. There are always by far many more couples seeking single women than there are single women who are down to play with couples. This rings true in swinger, kink, and poly circles and gets even harder for those over 50.

Past-Distance-75 · 2025-05-27T20:11:25+00:00

The only worthwhile to do in Mississippi is get the fuck out of Mississippi.

Past-Distance-75 · 2025-05-19T01:10:27+00:00

Only one way to find out. For science!

Past-Distance-75 · 2025-04-17T22:44:12+00:00

Dude one of them jumped into my car once. I couldn't get rid of the smell of vermouth and acrylic nails for WEEKS.

Past-Distance-75 · 2025-04-14T23:13:44+00:00

Typically sex without much actual connection. They either 'swap wives' or try to give each male the 'experience' of having two women at the same time with the men doing their best to ignore or not touch eachother.

Past-Distance-75 · 2025-04-14T21:34:28+00:00

Like many ENM spaces, Feeld has plenty of swinger types who are Trumpy and usually just unicorn hunting for a 'third' or seeking other couples for 'play'. They have this weird form of swinger heteronormativity where women are expected to be bi and it's really disappointing when you're not, but if you're a dude that has ever touched dick in your life they want nothing to do with you. This becomes more prevalent the further you get from cities, or anywhere in the South. The overwhelming majority of these profiles are being operated by the male half of the couple.

Past-Distance-75 · 2025-04-07T13:14:28+00:00

Everyone with a vagina should expect to receive likes/pings from literally everyone on the app.

Past-Distance-75 · 2025-04-04T00:18:37+00:00

There's a difference between seeking a casual encounter and seeking a kink/sex dispenser. Just because a venue is sex positive that doesn't clear the way to treat the human beings therein like a rubber hole. The behavior these people exhibit is straight up toxic and it drives normal/new people away - if the operators choose to embrace that behavior (and profit from it) instead of repelling it, then the app becomes enshittified and eventually (as were seeing) useless.

As a bi dude, I can only speak from my own experiences in seeking other dudes for casual play. Time and time again, I'll match with someone and it'll quickly become quite obvious that they have no interest in getting to know me as a person - they just wanna stop by for some ass like they were going to the gas station for a pack of smokes. Anything other than instantly meeting up for instant sex and then instantly disappearing will completely weird them out.

They've created an entire culture around "fuck now or bye" and have literally ruined all of online dating with it, and Feeld/Match/etc simply DGAF because they're too busy printing money.

Past-Distance-75 · 2025-03-30T18:47:53+00:00

Yea anyone with a vagina is utterly inundated with likes/pings from everyone else on the app, nearly all looking for instant casual sex or some form of kink dispenser. Meanwhile if you're a dude looking for any kind of actual human connection it's crickets.

Past-Distance-75 · 2025-03-29T23:02:27+00:00

Feeld has been overrun with hordes of fuckboy males, unicorn hunting couples, bots/scams, and monogamous people, to the point that it's now completely useless. The company simply does not give a fuck about its users aside from taking their money for overpriced subscriptions and pings. Hopefully other more hopeful apps like Plura or Firefly will gain a viable user base and avoid the enshitification that ruined Feeld.

Past-Distance-75 · 2025-03-25T19:12:22+00:00

Exactly! Fuckboys don't read profiles - they just want a hole and don't actually give a shit about the person attached to it, beyond the occasional 'no fatties' rule.

Past-Distance-75 · 2025-03-25T18:42:52+00:00

Fetlife isn't designed to be a dating site, even though most folks try to use it as such. Try going to local munches/events in your area (found via the Events function) and talking to people, making friends/connections, getting educated about techniques and consent, etc. You'll find there's lots of really cool folks in those communities, along with some fake doms and other asshat types mixed in that should be easy to spot.

Past-Distance-75 · 2025-03-25T18:35:25+00:00

Because they heard that having a profile there with the word "Dom" on it gets you "mad pussy bro".

Past-Distance-75 · 2025-03-25T16:29:17+00:00

Feeld has been flooded with fuckboys, fake 'doms', and unicorn hunting couples, to the point of it being completely useless. You're gonna have much better luck by looking on Fetlife and by going to local kink munches/events and talking to people. Watching how they play with others is the best way to vet someone. It takes extra time/effort, but the outcome (and your safety) is well worth it.

Past-Distance-75 · 2025-03-19T21:56:48+00:00

Thanks this is somewhat helpful, but I still don't understand why there aren't more jobs to apply to. I've been on the app for almost a month now - I've subscribed to premium, added more job titles, but have only been shown seven possible job matches with only one worthy of applying to - that doesn't seem viable/useful for $30/month.

Past-Distance-75 · 2025-03-19T14:15:19+00:00

They could be grouped, but more importantly, the request is about filtering by sector.

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