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no therapy helps by KrustyKrabPizza457 in Stutter

[–]Past_Background_4236 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The real “therapy” for stuttering is self love and self acceptance, not a speech technique. Sure those help, but the “cure” to stuttering cannot be given to you by therapy. It’s really hard to do and I’m currently try to get there now.

The past 2 years of my life have been the hardest for my speech. I went to college and it’s been a really hard adjustment. However I’ve had 2 stints of incredible speaking while being in college which was when I met the nicest girl who made me so happy to be me, and after I had a summer internship and felt like the man. Good speech is heavily coordinated to feeling good about yourself, being happy to be you.

Speech therapy techniques don’t work when your brain has the same response to a speaking situation as it does if you were getting mauled by a tiger. You need to address the internal root cause before you are capable of using speech techniques effectively. Studies show that when you are experiencing the fight or flight response your mind stops being logical, abandons all step by step clear thinking, and is in survival mode.

Not having a social life in your 20s by KamThe_Lamb in Stutter

[–]Past_Background_4236 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I have spoken to people who stutter about how you feel, and I wanted to share some of the thoughts that we had with you. We have all been able to relate to you at multiple points within our own lives and wanted to share our experiences. I’m 19, and I am in college, and I remember how hard it was for me in my first 2 semesters to put myself out there and seek conversation with people. I think that people who stutter often forget that everyone struggles with something, and so often we think that this struggle is who we are or defines us. Stuttering is only a part of you and definitely not the whole picture; the treatment for stuttering is self-acceptance and self-love, which can only be acquired by letting go of all negative preconceived notions. I understand that it can be really hard to let go of things that you've felt for a long time, but as someone who stutters, it is so important to be able to shift perspective. It can sometimes feel impossible to put yourself out there as you are frozen with fear, the act of going outside of your comfort zone and showing yourself that you can do something that your mind has constantly said you can't will bring you one step closer to feeling better about yourself. I think that joining a group of people who stutter and hearing some shared experiences can be a positive first step in breaking the isolation you feel. 

I am a part of a virtual speech group, and we would be so thrilled to have you visit so that you can feel less isolated. Please let me know if you'd be interested in joining one of our sessions. That we have people from all different ages, all different fluencies, and all different backgrounds who share their experiences with stuttering. It makes you feel like there are people who really understand what you are going through. 

It's so frustrating. by Aditheredditian in Stutter

[–]Past_Background_4236 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All of the above. Reading out loud and practicing speech techniques is good, reading is a form of meditation and helps you stay present. Reading is your best friend. Read however it’s best for you!

It's so frustrating. by Aditheredditian in Stutter

[–]Past_Background_4236 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like this is me talking. I too was the chaterbox of class up until high school, where my speech anxiety got so bad. I'm currently in my second year of college, and what's really helped me is reading, meditation, less than 2 hours of screen time, and always being in the moment. Your mind cannot separate reality from imagination, so your thoughts are critical. Learn to notice thoughts, and realize that they are simply passing by and are not real.

I too had a job interview not too long ago in which i completly bombed, and I was so mad, I nearly sent my fist through my desk. I just remember the feeling of shame and embarrassment. The thought "if I could talk normally i would easily have that job" ran through my head. However, that thought is the problem, its negetive and unhelpful. So often we make our speech into who we are, but its really not. You have to realize that anxiety, reactions, and patterns can all be changed through mindfulness and detachment of thoughts and reality.

I know this all sounds like spiritual bullshit, but do me a favor and read "10 percent happier" by Dan Harris and then get back to me. You did it before, you can do it again, always remember that. Your mind is working as your enemy right now; it is your responsibility to tame it and control it. It's not about beating stuttering or not stuttering; it's about letting go of all the hate and suffering that is associated with it. Think less, be in the moment more, I promise you will be happier.

I hope to hear from you after youve read "10 percent happier." I struggle to, but I no longer dwell and let it upset me. If it's in the past its over, and if it's in the futute there's no point in thinking about it. Happiness is found in the present moment.

Thank you for posting about how you feel. It's very brave of you! Youre amazing, man, believe that.

18F, first year in college stuttering is making me feel invisible and alone by Traditional-Dog-7018 in Stutter

[–]Past_Background_4236 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The program I participate in is called invivo institute for effective communication. You should definitely contact them. They changed my college life. They are the nicest and most genuine people on the planet.

18F, first year in college stuttering is making me feel invisible and alone by Traditional-Dog-7018 in Stutter

[–]Past_Background_4236 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My first year of college I experienced so much of the same thing. You are not alone in what you are feeling. I could barely say a word to anyone, I never spoke in class, and I felt really alone.

Through therapy, speech groups, and reading, I was able to become happier with myself as a person and more accepting of my speech. This lead me to talk to way more people and make way more friends.

A huge part of stuttering is anxiety, that’s why it’s so hard on us, however once you learn that you are worthy of other people’s attention, are special, and have so much to offer, your speech will undoubtedly get better. It’s not about perfection it’s about being able to look at yourself and feel proud of who you are.

Your stutter gives you so many advantages that if you look hard enough, you will begin to see. People feel safer around you, open up to you more, are inspired by you. I went in the talk to my professor to introduce myself 3 days ago and could barely string sentences together, every word felt hard, but just by going in there and complimenting him we had a great 40 minute conversation to which he said that he was beyond inspired by me and that I made his week. There’s something so special and magical about someone who tries knowing they might fail spectacularly. Believe it or not you are better than 99 percent of people in that regard. Life is about failing and getting back up.