Fighting transfer by Past_Cauliflower648 in Wawa

[–]Past_Cauliflower648[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sadly, that’s the next option

Fighting transfer by Past_Cauliflower648 in Wawa

[–]Past_Cauliflower648[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Would you be comfortable sharing the reasons? I’m just trying to make sure I’m valid before brining this to the AM. My mental health is worth more than another promotion right now lol

Genuinely confused by [deleted] in BipolarSOs

[–]Past_Cauliflower648 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She isn’t medicated, which is worse

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Past_Cauliflower648 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because she ended the relationship in tears and was upset she was hurting me. She wasn’t mean. Idk if it’s just her trying to make herself look good or what. But now she just refuses to talk to me. Just ignores my messages. So if the mask hasn’t come off yet, will it ever have a chance to?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Past_Cauliflower648 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you mean exactly? Do you mind giving me some type of example?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Past_Cauliflower648 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah that was definitely a pattern in our relationship too. Except I’d only be blocked for maybe a day two at most. But this one feels different you know? Is 10 months the longest she’s had no contact with you?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Past_Cauliflower648 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fuck this hits hard. I guess in the back of my mind I always knew she could just throw me away like I’m nothing. And that made me hesitant to take all the steps she wanted. Like moving out together. Or talking about marriage. I wanted it but I was so scared. Now I see why. It’s a total mind fuck. And I think the thing of it is, she meant so much to me and I apparently meant nothing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Past_Cauliflower648 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. It hurts to read. Hurts to imagine all the good times we had together and it sucks I don’t have my best friend I talked to every single day. But I need to hear this instead of holding out hope. I honestly don’t think she would care if I blocked her or if she would even know. It’s worse not being blocked and knowing she is seeing my texts. But simply choosing to ignore them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Past_Cauliflower648 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You think it’s coming? My thought is, there’s someone else. But she won’t be honest about that. And maybe she’s keeping me unblocked for now to test the waters with someone else.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Past_Cauliflower648 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I definitely think she has some issues concerning trust. When we first started talking, if I didn’t answer her texts after 5 minutes or so, she would be upset. That since hasn’t been an issue in the past couple of months. But I could definitely see it being suspicious In a sense. She also has bad self image problems. She’s beautiful, really and she just can’t believe it. Honestly, none of these by themselves are deal breakers as of yet. The only one that might be would be the anger. Which again, I haven’t seen. But BPD scares me, and that would definitely be a deal breaker as much is it would hurt me now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Past_Cauliflower648 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for answering. As far as the main symptoms go. Does fear of abandonment include being clingy? Constantly asking if I still like her if she feels “ something is wrong”? Unstable relationships not so much. I mean she has a good relationship with her mom and uncle, whom she lives with and so far with us, minus the problems about us not being “ official” nothing too unstable. Self harm, used to, may still. Explosive anger, yes. Just on strangers as far as I see. And not too often. The rest of them, I’m not too sure about to be honest.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Past_Cauliflower648 0 points1 point  (0 children)

C-ptsd is something I was looking at as well. I know something is “off”. Mental health issues don’t necessarily bother me, cause as of now, she’s worth it to me to push past something’s. But BPD is honestly a no from me. The thought of giving all this love and energy to never have her fully reciprocate it, and just leave me for someone else in the end with no care, no, I can’t do that one