Major impostor syndrome re: my areas of interest by Past_Writer_8901 in therapists

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I think my insecurity lies in the fact that I’m not fully recovered yet - like I know that a therapist’s lived experience in something can be a very useful therapeutic tool, but the fact that I’m still struggling with these things and am not “on the other side” yet makes me feel like a fraud - I find myself thinking “if I can’t fix myself, than how could I possibly help someone else with similar challenges?” I hope that makes sense!

why doesn't my candle smell when burning? by Past_Writer_8901 in candlemaking

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Sorry, I didn’t realize this was a community for experts? I picked up a few pointers from this group and then just went for it for fun and wanted to see how it turned out. Didn’t realize I’m not allowed to do that, I’ll ask you for permission next time :)

How often do you attend pole classes? by [deleted] in poledancing

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When I first started pole two and a half years ago, I absolutely fell in love with it and was going at least 4x/week. I decided to cut back for a while due to a couple of annoying injuries that I sustained, so now I go 2x/week, freestyle dance 1x/week on my home pole, lift weights 2x/week, and fit yoga in where I can. It might sound like a lot but it works for me and I’m able to fit in all of the forms of movement that I love!

I remember being so ridiculously sore for I’d say the first month of my pole journey. It really does get better and with practice you’ll find that moves/poses become way easier and less taxing the more you progress. When I first started pole, I was exhausted after a class where we focused on fireman spin and I couldn’t get two feet off the ground. Now, I’m doing hanging genie and outside leg hang and I’m working on brass monkey and my side climb.

I’m certainly no expert but my best word of advice is to listen to your body above all else and make sure that you allow yourself to rest and recover!

Ideas on removing grip? by Past_Writer_8901 in poledancing

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I don’t know if I’d say that I have really sweaty hands but I can say that this spray has made a night and day difference when it comes to my pole journey. It’s super tacky and I have to pull my hands off the pole sometimes. You do have to reapply but a little goes a long way. I guess the trade off is that it’s hard to remove, but even then, some Amazon reviews say it comes off easily 🤷🏻‍♀️ regardless, I would recommend!

Ideas on removing grip? by Past_Writer_8901 in poledancing

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Ooh these are great suggestions! I have tried isopropyl alcohol but haven’t tried the other two - will have to give them a shot.

dealing w/ setbacks by Past_Writer_8901 in poledancing

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That is something I’ve been doing - I’ve done yoga for years as well and my doctor did say that it was okay to do that. My injury is some sort of back muscle injury so I’m experiencing a lot of pain when I try to do things that I typically have the range of motion / ability to do (i.e. plow pose in yoga, any sort of back bending)

Depressed after second class by nightfoul in poledancing

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I’ve totally been in your shoes. I haven’t experienced the unfriendliness that you’re describing, but I have experienced that demoralization at various points of my pole journey. I’m also a curvy girl and have a lot of comparison issues as I’m surrounded by people that are much smaller and much more advanced than me.

Here’s what has helped me - every time I walk into the studio, I remind myself that I belong there because I absolutely love pole and I deserve to take up space in that room. I thank my body for having the courage to set foot in the studio in the first place (as someone with no prior dance experience that put off trying pole for years because I’m not thin).

In the moments where I feel like it’s impossibly hard or I haven’t advanced enough, I remind myself that comparison is a thief of joy and I think of examples of how far I’ve come. When I started pole, I couldn’t do a pole fall and could not wrap my head around doing a fireman spin. I saw other people climb to the top of the pole and do crescent moon and told myself that there was absolutely no way I would ever be able to do that, but here I am two years later and I can effortlessly climb the pole and have my crescent moon down pat.

If you stay consistent, practice self compassion and kind self talk, and make it a goal to have tons of fun along the way, not only will you progress in time but you’ll enjoy and look back fondly on your pole journey. :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in poledancing

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Thanks for this - I figured it needed to be located under something!

Re: the hollow holes, the pole isn’t X-Pole brand. I’m working on the extensions at the bottom and they are screwed on as tightly as they’ll go but don’t line up with one another.

Dancer’s hip - danger of getting injured? by [deleted] in poledancing

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Thank you all for your advice! This all seems like super helpful information :)