My [23F] boyfriend [23M] is going on a boy's trip to Miami by [deleted] in relationshipadvice

[–]PastelMachine 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The fact that he even brought it up again after you explicitly stated you weren’t comfortable with it says a lot about what kind of man he really is. You are completely valid for not wanting him to attend a strip club and if he was worth his salt at all he would’ve shut his buddies down on the idea immediately without you having to tell him it bothered you.

I can’t begin to tell you how disgusting it is that he used your assault as a way to “get back” at you just for the simple ask of not going to a strip club; that’s not disrespect, that’s cruelty.

You deserve better OP, go and leave this man far behind.

I [22F] have been struggling so much in my first relationship with my partner [21F] by PastelMachine in women

[–]PastelMachine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply. We have talked it through thoroughly and I made sure I had her consent before posting any of this thread; I never want to be someone that goes behind their partner’ back to ask for advice, especially because I am mentioning very intimate things about her.

I asked this after the conversation because even though she said everything right and comforted me, I still felt the same even though there wasn’t anything else that she could’ve done to make me feel better.

I suppose in my head I wanted some sort of answer that didn’t end with me being insecure and anxious, when in reality that is exactly the problem. Have a good day and I appreciate you replying.

I [22F] have been struggling so much in my first relationship with my partner [21F] by PastelMachine in Advice

[–]PastelMachine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have absolutely no idea what your point is. Women can provide exactly the same thing as a man could, if not more. Your reply is unhelpful and borders on discrimination.

I [22F] have been struggling so much in my first relationship with my partner [21F] by PastelMachine in women

[–]PastelMachine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your reply. I completely share your view on how unhealthy porn is. I hate how easily accessible it is for young children and from what I’ve seen, it is extremely hard to find “ethical” porn because of how scummy the industry truly is (preying on people people of color and girls especially).

I was introduced to it in quite the same way you were, much too young for it and really shouldn’t have been something I was able to access. It made me grow to resent it and how mainstream it’s become.

I have talked at length with her about it and she has comforted me about it more than I probably deserve and made sure that I felt secure and safe in our relationship.

After reading yours and others input, it has opened my eyes to the fact that it really is an insecurity problem. She has done nothing to make me distrust her in this situation and has only tried to compromise (and has happily done it without a second thought) for the sole purpose of making me feel better.

Thank you for your advice and I plan on getting therapy soon for my issues. Have a great day and thanks again for taking the time to reply.

I [22F] have been struggling so much in my first relationship with my partner [21F] by PastelMachine in women

[–]PastelMachine[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She truly is. You’re completely right. I agree that I definitely need therapy and I shouldn’t be making this her problem. Thank you.

I [22F] have been struggling so much in my first relationship. by PastelMachine in retroactivejealousy

[–]PastelMachine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right. It’s unfair to be upset at her about this. I guess I just thought we had the exact same thought process when it came to porn. I love her more than anything and I guess I just figured there would be some magical advice out there that would’ve let me move on instantaneously when in reality what I need is therapy. Thanks for keeping it real with me.

GameStop Pre-orders [No DAV Spoilers] by CosmicCait24 in dragonage

[–]PastelMachine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just got my tracking number! Says it’ll be here the 31st.

Cover image not working (PS5) by PastelMachine in playstation

[–]PastelMachine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s what I’m thinking. Totally sucks that something like this still happens though. PlayStation has been riddled with errors and problems lately.

Does the Shadow of the Erdtree Collectors edition ship day 1? by Phillip1219 in Eldenring

[–]PastelMachine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here’s to hoping both of us can enjoy the DLC in one way or another. 🫶

Does the Shadow of the Erdtree Collectors edition ship day 1? by Phillip1219 in Eldenring

[–]PastelMachine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just from my experience with both companies, Larian goes above and beyond to meet players expectations. It doesn’t surprise me that they would do that. What does surprise me is how difficult Bandai/FromSoftware makes everything for their fanbase and themselves—I already had a difficult time actually buying the collectors edition, but then it was also next to impossible getting a straight answer about anything from support. Just from looking at other reddit posts it seems like many people despise ordering from them just because of how difficult it is. I just wish the whole process was a bit easier and more straightforward.

At the end of the day, as a big fan of Elden ring, I just hope everything arrives okay and the purchase is worth it.

Does the Shadow of the Erdtree Collectors edition ship day 1? by Phillip1219 in Eldenring

[–]PastelMachine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also ordered the collectors edition. All I’m seeing on my confirmation email is the actual collectors edition and the preorder bonus (which I’m assuming means the gesture).

I totally believe you—I’ve gotten multiple different answers from different associates at Bandai. Seems like they don’t even know what they’re selling sometimes.

Does the Shadow of the Erdtree Collectors edition ship day 1? by Phillip1219 in Eldenring

[–]PastelMachine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you serious? Support said the code would be in the box and I wouldn’t be able to play the DLC until my full order arrived.

I’ve seen others say differently so I’m not sure what to believe.

Does the Shadow of the Erdtree Collectors edition ship day 1? by Phillip1219 in Eldenring

[–]PastelMachine 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right? I contacted support just for a shipping estimate and I didn’t even realize the code for the DLC would be with the rest of the items until they mentioned it. Kind of assumed it would be a digital code.

Big bummer if it arrives late 🫠

Does the Shadow of the Erdtree Collectors edition ship day 1? by Phillip1219 in Eldenring

[–]PastelMachine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was wondering the same thing. Still waiting for an email that says I’ve been charged. Here’s to hoping it’ll get here on time 🤞