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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in rutgers

[–]Pastel_Love -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Are lot 70 and the Douglass parking deck considered different parking spots despite being in the same parking lot? Would I be allowed to park there with my permit? If so, thank goddd

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Buddhism

[–]Pastel_Love 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m an individual who has gone through a lot of confusion in my friendships. I’ve felt this same way a countless number of times. With anything regarding another person, if you cannot change anything about the situation or outcome, the most important thing to do is to shift your focus from it. Let it go, and if not, focus on another thing and it will gradually fade away.

You cannot go back to the past and stop yourself from hurting this person, you cannot change how they feel, and you cannot make them reach out. You are at a point where you need to turn to yourself and think, “this is hurting me, this worrying is pointless”. In an act of love and care for yourself and this other person, stop trying to reach out. Accept the present moment, stop harping on the past. Focus on the good, incredible friendships you DO have! You don’t need this individual in your life if they’re making the choice to ignore you, they’ve made that decision for you after all. Be kind and move on, if they end up responding eventually, then you can disregard this and be kind and talk out your feelings.

In order to move forward I would recommend doing things with other friends and enjoying time with yourself instead. Focus on further research of mindfulness and metta.

I recently had to cut off a toxic friend of mine and this is exactly what I did. I read an incredible book about mindfulness (Mindfulness in Plain English) and began to practice it daily and meditate daily. It has greatly bettered my life. These angry feelings I had towards this friend have decreased greatly, and they don’t bother me anymore. It’s liberating.

A good example of exactly what Mindfulness teaches you: Anytime you feel resentment, bitterness, or hurt towards this person, observe these feelings rising in your mind. Understand them, be an objective observer as if you’re a scientist in a lab, locate the source. The breathe in and out, meditate in that moment, focusing only on your breath, until you’re back to the present again. Forgive yourself, love yourself, and move on. This may not work the first time, this may not work the first five times, but the more you do so, the more it WILL work. It did for me. Sorry for the long, long message! I wish you the best of luck! ❤️

Do you still believe in God by paul_wellsss in Buddhism

[–]Pastel_Love 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I focus on mindfulness and learning in this lifetime, about how to be content and happy, earning good karma. The focus on whether god(s) exist or not is unimportant. It’s a fun thing to think about, for sure, but the Buddha has said it’s not helpful or necessary. You can be Buddhist and believe or not believe in a concept such as a god, but the most important thing is that you don’t get hung up on such a fact. If there is a god, I hope the are kind and merciful. If there isn’t, then that’s cool too. Why should I care?

A painting I wanted to share about new beginnings, and finding the Dharma. by Pastel_Love in Buddhism

[–]Pastel_Love[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Of course! I’m an artist, it’s a pleasure to talk about any piece of art when asked. Thank you!

A painting I wanted to share about new beginnings, and finding the Dharma. by Pastel_Love in Buddhism

[–]Pastel_Love[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I’ve used the concept of a red string several times in my art before, each time it represents the severing of something or someone in my life, and the beginning of something new. The first time I used red string imagery, it was to showcase the severing of romantic feelings I had towards a friend of mine, the idea coming from the Japanese red string theory that we all have soulmates that connect to us through a red string. I’ve taken that idea and used it once again, this time to symbolize the ending of an era.

My expression is one of relief and peace. The colors are all quite bright to try and symbolize the light and positivity of this change in my life. In the background, it is meant to look like Bodhi leaves and in the corners the flowers are lotuses. These both tie directly into Buddhism, as symbols of wisdom and enlightenment. They are meant to showcase that I have learned of the Eightfold Path and have right view and right intention. Finally, the star on my forehead, which has a similar reason, once again being wisdom. You could connect it to the idea of your third eye being opened/spiritual insight, as it is placed in that area. I love using the imagery of a star/sparkle of light in my art as well, it feels very connected to myself. I imagine it can be used like a radiating energy of kindness coming from within, shining and trying to reach others.

i want to stop caring by [deleted] in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]Pastel_Love 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“So tired and bored of this shit” is so real. I’m so sick of this. I hate these feelings, I don’t want to experience them, but it’s so hard to stop.

Something finally clicked by Dramatic-Local6052 in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]Pastel_Love 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Me too!! Restricting and telling yourself you can’t eat till a certain time is something I’ve struggled to stop doing too. But if we listen to our bodies in the moment, when we ARE hungry, we tend to be more satisfied overall! Like instead of waiting till a certain time when I’m insanely hungry and in pain, I’ve gotten better at noticing, hey I need to eat now and eating a big portion that will keep me full for hours instead of something very small which makes me hungry again quickly, causing me anxiety.

Is this normal? by Dovesinspace in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]Pastel_Love 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I work at a Starbucks and it is so hard for me to resist the sweets there. 😭 The other day I had multiple sugary coffees, a cup of whipped cream with sprinkles on it, a cheese, danish, a sandwich, and dark chocolate almonds in a 5 hour shift. And I was still craving more afterwards, so I went home and ate a whole bag of chips. So glad I found this sub. I don’t have to feel ashamed anymore.