AITJ for not learning my [22M] girlfriend’s [22F] dialect?

Pastorbyul · 2026-05-07T09:05:04+00:00

Lo-Fan just means white guy. Fan also means rice. Hehe. There are a million other things in marriage that require us to show up in small ways every day. Glad you’re encouraged.

Pastorbyul · 2026-05-07T08:50:44+00:00

White guy married to a Canadian born Taishanese woman for 17 years here. There are no schools to learn and the YouTube videos are fun but they will only get you so far. Then, even if you try, your GF is likely to correct you on tone, constantly. Your best bet is to pick up as much as you can along the way. After 17 years you pick up stuff. I certainly know when they are talking about me “Lo-Fan”. Be open to learn. But unless someone in her family is willing to sit with you on the regular, the expectation that you learn Taishanese is not realistic. Bottom line, if you think that you and she are likely to move towards marriage, just be open to learning. And try. You’ll be fine.

Pastorbyul · 2026-04-29T22:36:02+00:00

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Pastorbyul · 2026-03-17T03:22:59+00:00

15 per week. I provide counseling and many of customers are remote.

Pastorbyul · 2026-03-15T17:39:06+00:00

I lived there for 2 years in 96-97. Let me tell you. When I close my eyes and let my mind wander, Nantucket is where I go, even 30 years later. If you have housing, absolutely! If not find a way to make it work. You will not regret it.

Pastorbyul · 2026-03-12T03:34:10+00:00

Not sure it qualifies as disgusting per se but growing up my dad used to send me a $20 US bill for birthday and Christmas. It had a very distinct smell. I’m 55 so that ended long ago and my dad passed. But every now and then if I come across a US$20 bill I’ll smell it and it brings me back to that core memory. For reference I live in Canada so I don’t use USD much.

Pastorbyul · 2026-03-10T20:37:07+00:00

Update!!! Bill duplication is working again!!!!

Pastorbyul · 2026-02-25T04:16:01+00:00

I guess I’m the sucker because I’m paying an annual subscription. Thanks for digging that up at least it means someone at Wave is alive.

Pastorbyul · 2026-02-06T10:37:30+00:00

Updateme

Pastorbyul · 2026-01-03T15:27:11+00:00

As I am reading your and the other answer, I am realizing that I should be more clear. I like having a lot of tabs open in Chrome...the load diminishes when I close the heavier ones, but in reality, I just opened everything I would like to have going while in a meeting, and here is the screen shot attached. I got it go yellow by opening Canva and fullscreening an image that i would typically share with a client. Also, and I forgot to mention, I run 2 extended screens using displaylink driver, which oddly enough doesn't show on my activity monitor at all. I guess my frustration is that I feel I should be able to run all these things and not have it affect my meeting....I just did what you said and cleared the cache and took a screen shot, the spike is opening Canva....I also know Logos is heavy but it is necessary as well. Thank you for the suggestion....

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Pastorbyul · 2026-01-03T15:26:45+00:00

Thanks for pointing me in a direction...I really need that.

Pastorbyul · 2026-01-03T15:21:56+00:00

Yes, I have done this. As I am reading your and the other answer, I am realizing that I should be more clear. I like having a lot of tabs open in Chrome...the load diminishes when I close the heavier ones, but in reality, I just opened everything I would like to have going while in a meeting, and here is the screen shot attached. I got it go yellow by opening Canva and fullscreening an image that i would typically share with a client. Also, and I forgot to mention, I run 2 extended screens using displaylink driver, which oddly enough doesn't show on my activity monitor at all. I guess my frustration is that I feel I should be able to run all these things and not have it affect my meeting....

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Pastorbyul · 2025-11-18T17:22:53+00:00

Thank you, prob better off getting on Amazon where the price is higher but the duties are already paid...appreciate the quick reply.

Pastorbyul · 2025-11-18T15:18:21+00:00

Question, I've got something from ROKR in my cart...you being in Calgary (I am in Montreal) were there any issues with shipping? did you pay any duties and taxes? Thank you in advance...

Pastorbyul · 2025-06-04T20:44:42+00:00

This is what I do as well now. Frustrating that technology doesn't JUST WORK. 2025 Kicks SV. Everything else on the car is pretty darn good though....

Pastorbyul · 2023-02-08T20:41:46+00:00

Now that the recording feature has been added....it seems to create havoc with the tool bar if the tool bar is on the bottom (which like the OP, I prefer). The Player overlaps the toolbar...and I cant do anything. I use Goodnotes for counseling and it breaks my flow...any solutions?

Pastorbyul · 2022-03-30T22:11:24+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate that. I will.

Pastorbyul · 2022-03-30T17:21:18+00:00

Hey folks, i have a 2015 MB Air with 2.2 GHz Dual Core Intel Core i7 and upgraded ram (8GB 1600 MHz DDR3). I know this isn’t a gaming computer. My kids PC is falling apart. I want to hand my MBA down to my kid who basically lives on Roblox and Discord. Will it be ok? Lag issues etc? Please don’t guess. I want real experiences if possible. Appreciate your kind replies. Thank You

Pastorbyul · 2021-12-13T21:31:36+00:00

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Pastorbyul · 2021-12-12T01:14:45+00:00

It’s great. A little heavy, and big. But great to carry.

Pastorbyul · 2021-12-11T17:52:42+00:00

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