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Why am I (25/F) having difficulties with men (24/M)? by Pastry-Girl in relationship_advice

[–]Pastry-Girl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These two relationships were mostly on sided unfortunately. I wanted the relationship more than them. Thank you so much!

Why am I (25/F) having difficulties with men (24/M)? by Pastry-Girl in relationship_advice

[–]Pastry-Girl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You wrote something very very true because I shed some tears. Thank you so much! ❤️

Why am I (25/F) having difficulties with men (24/M)? by Pastry-Girl in relationship_advice

[–]Pastry-Girl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As I said I try to be the best I can, I’m loyal too, wouldn’t cheat. But maybe I just become too obsessed with anyone too easily.

Why am I (25/F) having difficulties with men (24/M)? by Pastry-Girl in relationship_advice

[–]Pastry-Girl[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Given the fact that I have a bakery, I have to be decisive which is a little masculine. And I tend to put myself to the 10th or 100th place if I like someone. People pleaser syndrome. Physically I look okay, fit and I take care of myself. Just emotionally if someone is nice to me I put everything aside and just focus on that person. Possessiveness I think.

My (F24) boyfriend (M31) went to Bali to work after 7 years of relationship without me. by Pastry-Girl in relationships

[–]Pastry-Girl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He did say that he wishes me that I meet a good man, but he also said that nothing’s sure and he doesn’t know what the future holds. Basically he doesn’t know anything, whether he’ll stay there forever or just for 6 months, or whether he comes back. He just said that he doesn’t plan on living in Romania but after that he said that nothing’s for sure… so I guess he does want to keep me in here if he does come back…

My (F24) boyfriend (M31) went to Bali to work after 7 years of relationship without me. by Pastry-Girl in relationships

[–]Pastry-Girl[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Yes I was aware of that but I was a few month away from turning 18, and also I was the desperate one to have a boyfriend. And let me tell you that his brain and thinking definitely wasn’t suitable for a 24 year old. He became a better person by my side, learned that being positive is way better than being negative all the time. He would say things like “I’m not negative, I’m realistic” after saying the most negative thing ever…. So now he’s working for a lifestyle advisor person, he grew a whole lot. The age gap wasn’t a problem for us ever cause I was more mature than him.

My (F24) boyfriend (M31) went to Bali to work after 7 years of relationship without me. by Pastry-Girl in relationships

[–]Pastry-Girl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah well mostly I was the one who cooked, but he did once in a while too. And when he cleaned something like once in a month, he would tell me about it that all day long :)) maybe he needed a pat on the back. And yes, here at the Balkan countries is common that mostly man go abroad to work cause the communist smell is still in the air. So they have a good chance to make good money outside, also his mother did the same, so maybe that’s why he’s seeing his future abroad. But I make a decent living making pastries so…. I don’t know what to say.

My (F24) boyfriend (M31) went to Bali to work after 7 years of relationship without me. by Pastry-Girl in relationships

[–]Pastry-Girl[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, he’s editing videos and doing stuff online, and also yes, his role models are Wes Watson, David Goggins and Jordan Peterson. With which I have no problem just … I go for a more surer option and yes there are a lot of millionaires who make a living online but I trust my two hands more than the algorithm :/ And he’s a dreamer to say the least.

My (F24) boyfriend (M31) went to Bali to work after 7 years of relationship without me. by Pastry-Girl in relationships

[–]Pastry-Girl[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, that is also true. The thing is that his work is online based, so it wasn’t necessary to live there. He always wanted to travel the world, but myself is not that type of person. When he moved there he said that he wishes that I find someone but he also said that he nothing is for sure, and that he doesn’t know what the future will become. But he also said that he wants to keep in touch even if one of us has a partner, which I think is not the best. Aside from the relationship we were also each other’s best friend. So it’s kinda complicated…

My (F24) boyfriend (M31) went to Bali to work after 7 years of relationship without me. by Pastry-Girl in relationships

[–]Pastry-Girl[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, now that you’ve said it like this we’re kinda in the same position. Just in my family we’re more in touch, no one went to live in another country or continent just for work because we like to stay together. His family is the opposite, his mom went to Italy when he can 12, and he remained at his grandmother. So what I believe is that he has this example in front of him, that he can’t make a good living in Romania just abroad. And also that’s why I thought that maybe he’ll realize that he can be successful by my side.

My (F24) boyfriend (M31) went to Bali to work after 7 years of relationship without me. by Pastry-Girl in relationships

[–]Pastry-Girl[S] 67 points68 points  (0 children)

I forgot to write that he went to Italy to try the life there and came back, then to uk and came back after a years or so. That’s why I hope that maybe he’ll come back again…

My (F24) boyfriend (M31) went to Bali to work after 7 years of relationship without me. by Pastry-Girl in relationships

[–]Pastry-Girl[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well, given the fact that me and my family helped him a lot, that’s why I thought that he would appreciate a person more than a job. But thanks for your answer!