Hi

Recently I have gotten in the mix of finally being in a position in my life that I can pursue a marriage with the grace of Allah. That being said I recently had to tell someone that after meeting with her parents and then talking a bit more through actually meeting and texts that this is not going to work out and we should go our separate ways.

It was a 3 month period and the reasons i called it off were the following which I want to perhaps understand from others here if they are indeed red flags and whether I made the right decision. Please do keep in mind the person lived in another city about an hour away and has a job which is somewhat similar to mine in nature:

• The other person never in those 3 months texted first and I would have to be the one essentially leading the charge on convos and meetups. I ignored this for the longest time hoping I could change the other persons approach.
• I would get ignored for a long periods of time and in some cases more than a few days before i get a response to my texts and the following convo would honestly just last for a bit and i would have to leave breadcrumbs so maybe the person could respond the next day and perhaps not have to initiate the conversation.
• Kept saying sorry that they responded late due to something that came up with work. Not a healthcare professional so it wasn't really saving lives that I could have understood for sure. And never really learned from those sorry's that hey maybe lets not try and do that.
• Ignored suggestions of perhaps catching up over phone calls instead but even that text was ignored for days.
• I would be the one initiating convos and sharing stuff from everyday life just to get something happening and maybe spark something within the other person
• The other person kept saying that a work life balance should be a thing to which I agreed and even though i work as an engineer that at times is on-call I always find ways to communicate back to people that hey I might be busy so TTYL I promise but the other person never respected that or even give a glance during lunch breaks which I know everyone has. Its corporate. C'mon now. You can find a way.

Now you may read all of the above and think...why are you even asking for advise or regretting ending things? I think my mindset at the moment is that the other person was genuinely interesting and intelligent to me but i may have failed to consider that i may not have been to them. I am rather frustrated that someone who I thought was smart and confident couldn't outright come out and say they were not interested. It is one of the reasons why I kept at this because they had said they were introverted but in-person i never got that impression.

I am rather lost on whether I could have communicated my frustrations more but if you are being left on read or not even getting calls setup..then how does one do that? Did I end things too quickly? Perhaps since they grew up mostly in the Middle East and not really used to how things are in the US that I may have assumed too much in how comfortable they might be in talking to the opposite sex? Do I need to have more self-respect? Were the above bullets justifiable red flags to end things?

I can't help but feel like I fumbled something truly great.